Being in contact with a girl via text, is it haraam?
assalam-0-alaikum!
My friends ,brothers and sisters , I have a long story to relate! Briefly speaking, since my child hood- even in my early teens-I had a clear portrait of my life partner in my mind. By chance, a girl came across suddenlywho is as good as I wished. In spite of going to her and asking her to accept me, I begged Allah for her. I'm not regular in prayers, but I have firm belief that only Allah can bless me with her! (remember she belongs to different caste). It took 3.5 years... she used to teach in our school. She didn't have a veil in school around me, and as I was the administrater she was always in contact with me, but I could never have a single look at her face because I am still non mehram. She skipped from school, and then after one year suddenly I came to know through my sister that she also thinks about me !
It was the day of real joy that God has accepted my sincere feelings as I never thought of the girls -even in my teens- He granted me what I prayed for! It was my gain, and after that I've been in contact with her-but only through (text) messaging. We didnt ever have a single call. She insists sometimes to see me, and have a call at least, but I can't do so! I think it will be a sin. I just want to ask whether my contact through text- which only contains the routine conversation like studies or simple things like health care- are sin?????? I can't see her making any type of sin.
- muslim01b
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Salaams,
Brother, it may very well be that just talking via text about everyday things is not a sin, even though you care very much about this girl. However, here's the issue: she doesn't seem content right now to keep your relationship at the "text only" level. She wants to see you, she wants to talk to you. I'm sure you know that there are cautions in Islam about about the temptations in seeing women, and in hearing their voices (the same can be true for women seeing/hearing men)- and these temptations are to be avoided if at all possible.
If she wants to see you and speak to you, why not do it according to what Islam advises- which is under the supervision of a third party. Are there any older family members you trust and who may be willing to accompany you to a meeting with her? Or perhaps there is some such person in her family? The best thing you can do right now, which is halal, is have a few chaperoned visits so you can be sure that she is the one you want to marry. Then, by all means, make your proposal!
-Amy
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Brother, Assalamu alaykum,
I thank you for asking us before taking the action.
Brother, ask her if she is serious, get married and she can see you, meet you and be with you in ways she likes day and night.
A little "joy" for now may make you lose life long happiness.
You fear Allah, Masha Allah. If she wants to clarify things about marriage, talk things clearly, Insha Allah, no problem, but fear Allah, remember Shaytaan is always trying to tempt you in to sin.
And remember the words of your mortal brother: A little "joy" for now may make you lose lige long happiness.
May Allah have mercy on you and ease your way in to marrriage with her and also save her from the whispers of the Shaytaan.
Salaam,
Your brother.