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His parents won’t accept me because I am not Muslim

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My boyfriend and I are going through a tough time right now. He is muslim and I am not. I grew up in a very muslim populated city, so I am not unfamiliar with the religion. I myself do not practice a religion, although I am Christian.

I am willing to learn the muslim religion and maybe one day convert. I understand that decision should be made for myself, and not for anyone else. My boyfriend has taught me a little bit about the religion and it interests me very much. I would like to learn more about the religion and see if its right for me.

The issue we are dealing with is that his parents do not accept me. The reasoning for this is because of the religion, and the way the children would be raised. If I did convert and became a muslim, and raised my children in the muslim way, his parents would still not accept me. If we decided to get married he says that his parents will never forgive him, and will shut him out of their life. I believe that his family will learn to accept our decision and will still love him.

This situation is very hard, because we are both in love with each other so much. And I am willing to do whatever it takes to continue this relationship, to hopefully one day become a marriage.

Right now we are trying to figure out what we can do? I think that if we talk to his parents and explain to them that I would like to learn the religion, and they actually meet me and get to know who I am is a person, they would start to feel at ease with the situation. I am very heartbroken, lost and confused going through this and would greatly appreciate some advice.

~ Sabraham

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  1. Salaams,

    I think you are on the right track with the idea that you should meet with his parents and let them have the chance to get to know you. Naturally, this is something every couple should do regardless of whether there are differences in faith. You should take advantage of every opportunity to spend time with his parents, so they can build a relationship with you and vice versa. You should be able to assure them that regardless of if and when you decide to convert to Islam, you will still raise the children according to their father's faith (Islamically, the children are raised according to Islam regardless of the mother's faith). However, be prepared that there is a possibility that his parents won't be open to meeting with you. Unfortunately, this type of scenario is far too common, and many couples struggle to find a solution without compromising their loyalties to either their parents or their prospective spouse.

    If it does happen that despite your best efforts his parents are not willing to negotiate their position about the matter, it will be your boyfriend's decision in the end how it will be resolved. He needs to weigh the risks and benefits of marrying you against his parents wishes and make a choice based on his assessment. No one will be able to do that for him. Hopefully it won't come to that, but this is a realistic outcome that needs to be factored in as the two of you decide how to move forward.

    In any regard, we would advise you to continue to learn about Islam with your boyfriend and on your own. If it is "right for you", you will find that to be the case whether you marry this person or not. In fact, Islam may be the very thing to sustain you if this situation does not work out as you had hoped. It's especially important to learn about his faith in regards to your situation, as you are describing him as a "boyfriend"- yet no such relationship exists in Islam. This may be a part of why his parents are having misgivings. Perhaps if you can learn about the Islamic protocols for relationships and try to abide by them (even before considering conversion), this will reflect favorably upon you in the situation as a whole.

    -Amy
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. Hello Amy. our situations are quite similar and i feel for you. my partner is muslim and i am catholic. his family and i got along quite well for the first four years, but upon realising that my boyfriend and i are serious about one another they became verbally abusive and professed to hate me. my boyfriend was disowned and we are still together and planning on getting married in a putely legal sense because it is not required for a catholic woman to convert in order to marry a muslim man. my point is to do what is right for you and dont make life altering decisions to please his family.

  3. Hi!!!O my God!!!I have the same situation,and it is killing me....He left in other city yesterday because his family told him...It was horrible...Actually, he told me that he wants to marry me,but it will never happen because of his father...I do not know what to do...I depressed...I show to anyone that I am ok,but when I back home....crying...crying...crying....I am tired...His parents have never seen me yet.Everybody has a chance to be happy.....I am so lost...I am soooooooooo upset that not just me have the same situation!!!!

    • i am also in this situation..these days i cried a lot..because my boyfriend told me that her mother chose a girl for him to marry.he never gve his answer yet but we both know that he cant disobey his mother..he loves his mother so much and i respected him more for that..now what i do i just read the koran..and as i read i have peace of mind..though sometimes i break out and cry, i still remember God and i just surrender myself of His will.if God allows their marriage then i just wish him happiness..i know i'll probably die of sadness,God knows how much i love him..but i love him so much to let him go..I just pray that someday i will be heal and i will just endure until this pain will go away.i am crying while typing this.. Let us just pray for one another to be strong and to put our trust in the Lord.That all things work for good..

      • May Allah grant you your wish, and give you whom you love. Amin!

        • thank you so much.it consoles me that someone prayed for me..God bless you..

          • Hi,Hara! I hope your muslim man much better than mine.Anyways my ....just left me....and you know what....now as I heard he is playing around with another no-muslim girl...And he said that he loved me and he will die without me...bla-bla-bla-ACTION SPEACKS LOUDER THAT WORDS.I just want tell you one think- God gave you a `test` before to give you a real love....or to test him....I know you think it is sooooo complicated,but time will make everything clear.Trust me.

            Can you believe what happen with me....I was crying couple months because my `habibi`....and what??nothing...he did not do anything to be with me...just left...because it is easy for him...

            Almost 2 month ago I met one sweet muslim girl. She said she felt like I am her sister and she met me with her family. Her mom loves me from first meeting and she introduced me to her son.He likes me,too.

            I asked him a lot of question about relationship and religion.He said his family is very religious,but they can see your heart. They really have a big love in them. And he told me if his parents say to not get marry girl that he loves.....he could leave them.He wants marry me. It was sooooo fast for me...I told him to slow down because for me it is soooo hard to believe any man,but little by little he shows me that he is really serious about our future. I though I will never love again....I was wrong. When you meet a person who REALLY does everything for you,you will see God`s will in it.

            I will pray for you. Just know that God has a good things for you. Life is so short to cry.Try to be happy with what you have,and God will give you a lot)))))))))))))))))).
            My English is not perfect,but I hope you understand the main point.I believe you will be happy,inshallah!!!

            Smile))))))

      • Aslam Alaikum
        it is very bad situation with you but don,t be gloomy and lugubrious. if his mother does not like you and wants to marry to another girl so it is mockery in my eyes because life is a great gift of ALLAH. ALLAH gave this life for once that not mean you will destroy it. ALLAH gave you life but he can take it. you know ALLAH omnipresent . it is your problem that you love this boy so his mother is not agree so don,t worry ISHALLAH you will get marriage with fabulous, splandid boy. thanks

      • my god heal you,im in same situation

      • Even I'm in same situation sister... His mother not met me, but due to my religion, she s not agreeing. Now she s not well, for which my hubby (I never saw him as boyfriend), just ready to live me. I'm staying out of home, in other city for my job. Even he is. But he want to leave, and moving to his hometown. I don't have anyone to share or to care for me. I love him more than anyone. I'm ready to convert now only. But his mom not agreeing.. Please help me

    • Same here

  4. I'm a non muslim inlove with a muslim and we planning to get married soon.I've got a child in previous relationship with another man but we broke up long time ago,now I'm a single mother and I stayed for some years without a man because I was dissappointed to my ex as we were abot to get married.Now I met this muslim man and I love him so much and I'm so ready to convert to muslim and my children will be muslim.

    Thanks,

    • @Pushy -
      did u revert to Islam . ?

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  5. To Amy , Antoinette and Nora....if u have been fortunate enough not to be married to your boyfriends then please take my advise and dont get married. This is my personal experience, life with muslim men and raising children in inter racial marriage is very difficult. emotionally it drains u because of the differences in ideologies. Love is pretty blind but a few months into marriage and dealing with families, listening to barbs because u r not muslim can be killing. even if u convert to islam, there is no way u will be accepted completely. so run in the opposite direction!! i am not a religious person but experience has taught me that marrying in ur own faith makes a lot of sense in the long run. Its a myth that we can only love one person. maybe at this moment u feel the sun and moon rises from ur boyfriends head , but step back and get a better perspective.

    • Salaams,

      Thanks for the advice, however I am already married. I did marry my husband as a Christian and converted to Islam soon after. So far there have been no issues with differing ideologies, even though my husband is also a convert and his mother is a devout Christian. Granted, she does preach to us at times, but overall she shows us the type of love and respect we would ask from her.

      My advice the to OP remains unchanged.

      -Amy
      IdlamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Riya! I dont think you know what really love is. All sufferings are nothing in love. She is telling you her sickness now, do you think your philosophy can solve her problem now? Well, I dont think so. It will rather worsen it. You should know that love affair without trials is merely regardless, and is not even so interested to listen to. I would like you to know that, now that I am writing this reply, I am almost crying for the pairs of the sad condition they are in. In regard to your life, am sorry for what happened to you but you should know that it is not all muslims that are like that, neither is it only muslims that are. It is a general encountering that such thing happen in many cases in including to muslims. But yet I want you to surrender to love because it is the only way to live with oneanother with pure heart. If such thing had happened to you, it may be as result of inappropriate steps taken by you in an attempt to arrest the situation.

    • Thank you,Riya!!!In my case,you were right....He was violent and not serious with me....but he is a good lier....I almost killed myself because of him.....wow....silly me))).Ilhamdullilia it is in past!!!!!

      • i am so happy for you Nora that your dark days are over.Finally you find someone that will love you as much as you love him.As for me, I am better now..I was so furious these couple of days because there is another girl that comes in the picture..She loves him and she made the first move to communicate or get close with him.And he allowed it to happen,he said he just respected her because its her collegue.I really pray so hard and crying to God to get rid of all my negative feelings.jealousy is just eating me up and i dont want to hate anyone.ill feelings can drain all my energy.. Thank God through constant asking for His mercy and refuge..I am ok now as i am writing this letter. I think i will just let go and let God..whoever He wills to be his partner then that would be the best for him ad i know God has already prepare someone for me.bu frankly i cant still let go but Im ok.it takes time to heal.i dont want to pressure myself.. 🙂 But at least mentally i already accepted everything and i expect nothing.I would be so happy if in the end we can overcome this and at the end we will be for each other.But if not, all things work for good.God knows best. :)))

        Lets just pray for one another.. I am hoping that your story will have a happy eneding..though trials are unevitable but if two persons are willing to fight for the love,then its not so hard.. 🙂 God bless

    • Riya,

      I am sorry if you have had a negative experience. It is not just about taking your shahdah if you embrace Islam for another person. No family will accept you, for saying those words may welcome you into the faith but if you do not commit to fulfilling your deen by completing the 5 pillars of faith you cannot truely call yourself a practising muslim.

      It will always be difficult, but this dunyah is a test, divorce is acceptable in islam if your husband is not fulfiiling his requirements as permitted by Islam.

  6. I just want tell you one think- God gave you a `test` before to give you a real love....or to test him....I know you think it is so complicated,but time will make everything clear.Trust me.

    Can you believe what happen with me....I was christian and converted to islam before 3 years and married with a muslim guy and you dont believe i am crying daily since the day i married ....and he broke all his promises before he said he loves me so much he cant live without me and he can do everything with me but he did not do anything to be with me...he just love his family he cant even say word in front of them to save me or to defend me his family didnt accept me till now and he very easily says that i will leave you if you cant adjust in my family because it is easy for him... and i left every thing for him now my family wont even see me am alone in this world i have broken my house for him and he cant even say a word for me in front of his family. i have totally changed my life for him but he said i cant say anything to my family and i cant change myself for you now im standing alone in the middle nor i can go back to my family nor i can take a step forward

    I will pray for you. Just know that God has a good things for you.

  7. SubhanAllah.

    First of all, Islam does not allow a girl friend-boy friend relationship.

    It is saddening that so many muslim guys play/are playing with many non muslim as well as muslim women.

    Islam teaches us to respect women. We are not allowed to touch or even communicate( until necessary) with a women who is non mahram to us (who is for example not our mother, sister, wife, .. )

    The Messenger of Allaah Muhammed (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”

    Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486.

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    &

    As you have been here

    I would like to tell you about Islam

    We Muslims worship Allah - the only one GOD who created you and me and all that exists.
    The GOD of Adam, Noah , Abraham, Moses, Jesus, Muhammed (peace be upon them) and all.

    why did Jesus(peace be upon him) the son of Mary (may Allah be pleased with her) came to this earth?
    Jesus came to teach people about ALLAH. He came to teach people to worship none but ALLAH alone without associating any partners with HIM.

    Allah says
    “And I (Allah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone)”
    {Quran 51:56}
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    Allah alone deserves to be worshiped.
    HE has no father, mother, brother, sister or son.
    HE is not like us.
    There is no one like HIM.

    Allah says,

    Say, "He is Allah , [who is] One,
    "Allah-us-Samad (The Self-Sufficient Master, Whom all creatures need, He neither eats nor drinks).
    He neither begets nor is born,
    "And there is none co-equal or comparable unto Him."

    (Quran 112: 1-4)
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    what is the purpose of this life? just study, earn, marry, children and die or there is more to it?

    Do you know that this life is temporary?? and we will die and will be raised up again and there is going to be a day of judgement?

    Please Research about Islam. See how it makes sense inshaAllah.

    I want you to be saved from the hell fire and enter Heaven so I invite you to Islam.

    Here are some links for you where you can learn more about Islam inshaAllah
    -> quran(dot)come
    - > Invitation2Islaam(dot)wordpress(dot)com
    replace above (dot) by . and paste and search in your address bar
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    May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!

  8. Hi Sabraham,
    I embraced Islam over two years ago and fully embrace and try to fulfill my deen on a daily basis, I wear hijab and have accepted all aspects of my faith, Even now, my husbands family are very wary of me. Wary for numerous and understandable reasons. In the past, many women converted to Islam simple to marry a muslim man, i think somebody aboved mentioned correctly that a muslim man is permitted to marry a woman whos faith flows from the prophet Abraham so that includes christians and jews.

    In reality, any child born to a muslim man will by family, cultural and most importantly religious reasons should be raised as a muslim child. Islam is not a strict religion but there are as I am sure you are aware lots of differences between Islam and other faiths, which require a lot of hardwork and education of yourself and any children especially in this world we live in today. So many born muslims, from my understanding have concerns that if people embrace Islam for the sake of another; then they may not actively try to complete their deen and if you are not able to fulfill your deen the chances of your children and their grandchildren being good muslims are very slim if they are not taught correctly.

    Also, many parents and members of the islamic community fear due to past indiscretions that a lot of women who accepted Islam for the wrong reasons after a period of time were unable to continue practising a faith they did not believe in. Leading to divorce, disgrace and broken families.

    Personally, if i were you i would take some time to decide if you are going to embrace Islam contact your local islamic revert community and speak to some sisters who have reverted and make a decision. Your love is also not islamic it is haram(forbidden) and you both need to make a decision soon whether you will marry or not.

    If you are to revert and marry I recommend you do it as soon as possible as it is better to be married then to take part in committing sin and staining your souls. In this situation, his parents under the laws of Islam have no right to not accept you, they may not like you but they should tolerate. At some point, in everyones family somebody had to embrace Islam the Prophet SWT himself married a jewish and christian reverts. Undoubtedly eventually, they will accept you it just may be a difficult journey and you will have to proove yourself.

    My sister, inshallah you will make the best decision but remain true to yourself

    Aamenah

  9. the fact that you call him your boyfriend is already a problem..i myself would not allow my son to marry you...we don't date in islam.

  10. I'm a nonMuslim girl in love with a Muslim boy. We've been friends for years but just recently got together. We have to hide and it's hard. Me and his sister used to be friends, now she hates me. His family is threatening to take him back to Yemen or move him to another school.. I can't let him go. I feel guilty but we don't want to leave each other. Every day he proves to me he's serious about our relationship, he says no matter how many girls his mom brings to his house we won't even look at them, because he loves me. I'm scared I'll lose him. When I fall in love I fall hard and it will hurt so bad if we have to leave each other. He says we won't let anything or anyone get in the way of us, he made that promise and I made the same promise. He says we're like Yin and Yang, one can't survive without the other. <3 I love him so much. He's everything to me and he knows me like no one else does. I want his family to accept me. I want to be friends with his sister again. She took pictures of me and another boy in gym class, because he was getting too close to me so she took the picture and showed it to my boyfriend and other people I think. My boyfriend believes me when I say that nothing happened because they're good friends so nothing's wrong there but his family thinks I'm a whore and his mom thinks I have AIDS. I'm so sad and uneasy, I just want this to be easy but I know it won't be. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to prove to them I'm not the kind of girl they think I am. I've been thinking about converting for a few years but I couldn't ever do it because there are some things my family won't allow (Ramadan, wearing hijab, stuff like that) so it'll be hard, I thought about converting when I turn 18 so they can't really control me, or him, and we can get married because we'll be legal adults. I just wonder how we'll be a month from now, two months, 6, a year... =/ It worries me but I know love always finds its way.

  11. @Khalil
    She does not want to marry your son. And hypothetically speaking if your son saw fit to DATE her then he is no different than her.
    That's just my 2cents. Stop the hypocrisy.

  12. am in the same situation. My boyfriend is Muslim and am not his family wont let him marry a non Muslim girl. and this breaks my heart that I might never be with him again. I sometimes breakdown at work and m boss understands and tells me to go home. Its so heart breaking am in a lot of pain. My boyfriend really doesn't care that am not Muslim but his family doesn't like it and to make matter worse am a black girl and they really wont accept me for who I am.I just don't know what to do and am so heart broken we have a lot fun together but the fact that we might never be together really does break my heart a lot

  13. Im in the same type of situation. My boyfriend who is muslim just recently told me he loves me and wants to continue to date me but that I have to know n understand that he will never marry me and that someday he will leave me and marry a muslim women in order to please his family. I keep believing that someday he will love me enough to not care and marry me out of love. I cry daily and idk what to do im hurt sad and so in love. I want him and only him for the rest of my life. I need help.

  14. may allah grant ua wish ameen

  15. Same situation... Im a non Muslim girl in love with a Muslim guy. He wants to marry me but he knows his parents would never let him marry a Christian girl. Should I convert to Islam? I wouldn't be able to let him go. I would very appreciate if whoever is reading this prays for me. Please somebody give me advice what should I do? And also another important thing I want to know is, if I convert to Islam how will my life change? What am I allowed and not allowed to do? What does a Muslim wedding look like? Etc,

    • These are great questions, but too much to answer in a comment here. I think if you would be willing to convert to Islam, and if the guy's parents would then accept you, that would be a good solution. In the briefest terms, Muslims worship only God the Creator (we do not pray to Jesus, Mary or saints); we pray five times per day (short 5 minutes or so prayers), fast in Ramadan, perform Hajj once in a lifetime, give charity, do not eat pork, gamble, drink alcohol or use drugs, and strive to do good in general. Those are the basics.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  16. Hi guys. I'm in the same situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months. We are in a very serious relationship that we are committed to each other. We talked about future and everything. If we get married, have children, he can raise them to be Muslims and I will not interfere at all and support them. We were going great until he told his parents about us. I'm a Christian but I do not practise my religion as I am newly saved and my only rules are to be accepting and loving to every creature. His parents do not accept me because they want him to marry a brown Muslim girl who wears hijab. My partner has never ever asked me to convert as he respects me and my religion. He also said if I am to convert, I cannot just convert for him but for Allah. I totally understand these things. I respect his religion and am already following a few as not eating pork at all. I would definitely do whatever to stay with him because I love him so much, even to take a bullet for him. I have thought about converting many many times but I do not have an answer yet. His mother specifically told him if he marries me, do not invite her to our wedding, and after the marriage, call my mom 'mother', because she will no longer be his mother. I do accept and love his family. But his parents made it clear that if he does not drop me then they will disown him. He is in a very difficult situation and is fighting with his mom every single day. He has been acting weird to everyone around him because of the massive stress that he has on him. I fear for our relationship and also him losing his family as I know he loves both his family and I very deeply. He also told me if worst come to worst, we have to end this relationship. Which means he's actually leaning towards his family side. I would never want this to end. I thought about convincing his parents but he told me his mother is ruthless and she actually cut her own brother out for half of the life. I'm very scared she would do the same to her own son. I'm also not going to lie that I'm very selfish and would want to keep him forever. But as much as I wish we stay together, I would want him to not lose his family as well. He said he would try to fight for me for another week, month or year, but he is so sure his mom will not change her mind, or even one day, tired of fighting and disown him. Which means it'll only lead to two ends, Either he loses his family for us and future or our relationship ends. I am also suffering so much for this situation. I've been trying to come up with things to protect our relationship or to convince his parents. But he said he has to fight this himself, I cannot help, no one can. Nothing seems to be helping and seems like he's is devastated and want an end to this problem as soon as possible. I feel sorry as I'm the cause of this pain for him. I do not know what to do. Can anybody help?

    • Alaina, there's really nothing anyone else can do. If he goes ahead and marries you, most likely his parents will accept the relationship in time, especially if you convert to Islam. But that's a decision he has to make and it sounds to me like he's already made it in favor of his parents, which means that this relationship is going nowhere.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  17. Hi,

    I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice.

  18. Iam muslim she is also muslim and my family and her family also muslim. I were friend at her in school 2 years then after 2 year she started to hate me.then I left school.because I got job. Can I meet her or try to get her without forcing her by doing some plan if she hates me i didn't propose her in islam.

  19. I have been dating this muslim guys for almost 5 years now I am Chinese and he is a musilim from another country. We are soooo in love. everything is good. He studies in china, so does his brother and sister in laws. I have met all of them and they really loves me. i am currently studying at US and he is studying at China. His family is really strict. Last month he wanted to marry me so he went back home to talk to him parents. His parents said NO, and i believe if he marry me his parents will disown him. I don't want that to happen. i am already converted to islam. we are really sad and don't know what to do. his parents doesn't know anything about me only know i exist. i don't know what to do, i know it is his choice but it feels like he is ready to give up and live his life in pain. Please tell me what i can do.

  20. I am late on this post but to be honest his parents will never accept you. Even if you want to learn their religion and convert. I have been with a Muslim man for 6 years now and his family shut him out because I am a Christian. After we had our daughter things began to get even More extreme to the point where his family doesn’t even accept him anymore as their child. I went as far as leaving my religion to accept Islam as my own so we can be one and they still will not accept me. They doesn’t want to take the time to know me or meet my daughter. My man went on vacation to Africa where his parents lives. They gave him and ultimatum that he needed to choose between his family and the family that he has started with me. Even though he explained that I have converted and willing to learn the religion they would simply not accept. After 6 years of complete isolation from his parents he decided that he wanted to make them happy. They founded a wife for him to marry before his month vacation ended even thought they knew he had a family back in America. His family told him to get rid of my daughter and I and start his new family with his wife. The reason I am a bit confused about Islam is that I thought they taught how to forgive, accept, and help people. I guess i was wrong now I am here stuck as a single mother waiting for marriage for over six years that I thought was gonna happen. GOODLUCK!!

  21. I would like to know if a Hindu girl who accepts and believes Allah as well as other Gods can marry a Muslim boy. I'm raised up with moral that all Gods are the one. Though we are a Hindu, we have a Holy Quran, Bible, as well as Bhagavat Gita in our home and we respect all the religions. I chant slokas as well as whole heartedly pray saying Bismillah hir Rahman hir rahim, as well as Amen. I read all the teachings of the Holy Quran and I respect it a lot.I do say aasalam alaikum to my Muslim colleagues whenever possible. I'm in love with a Muslim boy who equally loves me back. I always respect his feelings towards his religion. Though it is a long distance relationship, I always wake him up for doing fajr and make sure he does his salat 5 times a day. Though I accept and love Islam equally, being from a conservative family, it is totally impossible for me to convert into a Muslim. And I'm aware that even if I convert into a Muslim, his family won't accept me like a normal Muslim girl. We both underwent a lot of pain and now he is trying his level best to control himself and his feelings for me as he doesn't want to hurt me, or his parents as well as my parents. But it seems difficult for both of us to forget each other. I wonder whether Allah will acknowledge our love which is nor physical but from heart.

    Though I know there is no way in marrying him being a Hindu, I would like to hear words from you.

    Insha Allah.

    Thank you.

    • Assalaamualaikum

      A Muslim man is not permitted to marry a Hindu woman. Hinduism is a polytheistic religion, with multiple entities revered as deities. This goes completely against the Islamic teaching that there is One God - Allah. In Islam, one of the worst sins a Muslim can commit is ascribing partners to Allah, as is done in polytheistic religions. While Muslims are taught to respect and treat all people justly, Allah has prohibited the marriage of a Muslim to a practising follower of a polytheistic religion.

      If you believe in One God - Allah. If you believe in His Book - the Qur'an. If you believe in His Final Messenger - The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). Then accept Islam and become Muslim. This step can seem so hard, and in many ways it is, but it can also be the easiest decision to make, when you are accepting what your heart already knows to be true.

      A Muslim man can marry a Muslim woman. It doesn't matter whether she was born a Muslim or accepted Islam later in life, so long as she believes in Islam. But it is not acceptable for a Muslim, either male or female, to be involved in a premarital relationship of any sort. This is considered a sin in Islam. If a Muslim is romantically interested in another Muslim, he or she needs to approach the other party (and their guardian, if female) with a proposal for marriage. There is no boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in Islam.

      Whatever you do here, somebody is likely to get hurt. Generally, in these situations, honesty is the best policy. Start by being honest with yourself about your beliefs, and take it from there. InshaAllah you will find yourself in the situation which is best for you in this life and the next.

      Midnightmoon
      IslamicAnswers.com editor

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