Want to marry a guy, but he doesnt know
Assalaamalaikum!
I usually don't talk about my private live in public.. but really want 2 know it. We have some family friends, we stayed at there home etc when I was 8 years old.
Suddenly they moved to UK but now they're back! I didn't know this about 2 days ago! But i've been thinking about this boy all the time, even we're not in contact anymore!
Few days ago, I've seen his pic on FB, i've always wanted 2 see him one again, bcz I've always loved him!
The problem is; my parents wanted me to get married tomy cousin but I refused, now I can't choose who I'm going 2 marry! But i really want this guy, he actually don't know it.. I don't even know if he remembers me..! My parents might contact them again or not, I've no idea about it! But is there any dua that I can get him.. Really wanna marry him, it feels like he's the one, and I don't want anyone else!!
Pleaseee is there any dua you can tell me???
Thanks Alot
Allah Hafiz
- DaddiesGirl
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Salam sister. I would advise you to pray Istikhara.
http://www.duas.org/istikhara.htm
that link may help you out inshallah!
Well, i told my sister about it, she called a imam and he did Istikhara, he said he's good for u.
Now i've contact with him, but we don't talk to much.. I'm praying everyday. Thanks for ur help Anyways.
I think you should speak to your parents about it and get them to approach the guys fam, if they approve you guys may talk and see if there's something between you two.
good luck!
salam
As salamu alaykum, sister,
I agree with Nawid and Samee, what I have to add is the following. You want him in your life, but you should wait to know if he wants you in his life, after the parents´ approach happens you won´t know, if he wants to marry you or not, then please, keep striving to be the best you can be and pray Allah(swt) to help you to be prepared for the right person for you, insha´Allah.
All my Unconditional Love and Respect,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Walaikum assalaam,
Well my mom knows that i want him in my life, but she not taking any actions, cuz it needs to come from the boys side. We all meeting each other after 3 months InshAllah. But i've got contact with him now and his sister, but not that much. I've also told my elder sister about him she called a imam and he did Istikhara, he said he's good for u. He told my sister to pray so im doing it everyday..
Salaams sister,
Nice to know about you, Istikhara should be performed by the boy and you, to get guidance from Allah(swt) about the decision to take, in fact you are the two directly involved in the situation, you have a link on top of the page where you can find everything about it.
Anyway, it seems that the process it is taking the right path, then give it time to mature, you will see what happens in three months, insha´Allah.
Congratulations you are doing your salat, this will be good for you for sure, Alhamdulillah.
Wait to contact him until the family meeting happens, this will be better for you, just in case, he can have wrong ideas about you. Ask your mom her opinion, but I think will be the better for you, Allah(swt) knows better.
From Heart to Heart,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Sister Maria,
I had contact with the boy during the summer vacation.. It went all good, we talked just normal like friends, nothing haram.. But I had dreams about him and i told him cause he asked and he was lets see, but we did all forget about that.. now suddenly after eid his internet was not working anymore and it's still not working.. but he's acting so weird to me.. I don't know what to do.. I can't get him out of my mind.. I pray to Allah every night first of all for my family etc nd at the end for me like; Allah please let me marry him.. Cause there's nothing wrong bcz the istikhara was positive.. But i don't get anything anymore.. He barely talks to me, he has since 5 days internet on his mobile.. i spoke to him the 2 days, like how are you etc but its almost 3 days now and he's not saying hi or anything, and it's my birthday today, he did not wish me yet... Please tell me what to doo.. I can't get him out my mind bcz I know there's nothing wrong bcz Istikhara was positieve.. He's all good for me.. Help me out I'm so helplessssss, I really want this all in a Halal way.. but just want to know what's in his mind.. And I just want him to talk with me again like we did before like friends.. he's not a non-mehram I know him since I was little like i told you before.. Is there any dua that can help me out? PLEASEEE TELL ME A DUAAA :'(
Salam DaddiesGirl,
I know what your feeling right now. Your in a period of utter confusion. I was once in a similar situation as you. I would do everything to get the guy (family friend) to at least show some interest in me. I did everything the halal way. I couldn't forget him, I cried, and my family knew about this. However, he showed no interest in getting to know me, and he didn't know I liked him until my family member told him secretly. He was sincere enough to contact me via email and told me that we are not compatible because he is very different from me. At first I thought I wasn't pretty enough for him, have a nice body or somethings wrong with me. I prayed lots of istiqhara after I met him, and Allah removed him away from me easily because thank god for all the social media network, I was able to learn that is lives in total unIslamic lifestyle. He has no shame, immature and is ignorant about Islam. If I didn't go through this, then I would have never learn what it means to be closer to Allah. I got to learn more about my religion. It was a blessing in disguise.
Sister, in this life., you will go through rejections. You will reject people and people will reject you. That's part iife and it can only make us stronger. Honestly, if he is not responding to you anymore, then I hate to say that he might not have the same feelings for you. There's nothing wrong with you. Your a beautiful person inside and out, and living a life to please Allah. Take this as a life lesson and a way to grow.
All the best.
Sister can u delete this post of mine please? its because of some reasons..
As salamu alaykum, Sister Khirad,
There is nothing on this post that can tell anybody who you are, please don´t worry about it.
Insha´Allah, you are feeling better and your life has taken the best direction for you.
Wasalam,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Slm Sister Maria,
Ok sister thanks 🙂
I got a question; if a istikhara you did is positieve then how can it go wrong?
I mean I got this positieve istikhara thn after a while the boy took distance (we were not in a relationship or something but just talking all the day) and now he has another girlfriend that I figured out myself and when I asked him he won't tell..
You won't believe I took a desiccion twice to forget about him and I was doing good thn suddenly at first his sister contacted me and second I took the phone nd his mother did call to meet up..
I want to move on but something in me says don't give up and I don't know I have got this faith in Allah swt that someday he will come and ask my hand .. I really don't get it anymore.. Can u help me out please..
Btw; is it wrong to ask in my prayers to Allah swt to make his my husband I also mention that my istikhara was positieve nd it's been 8 months for me making this dua to Allah swt..
Wslm
Salaams DaddiesGirl
I agree with all comments talk to your parents that way everything is out in the open and there are no secrets.
Also people stop using face book for meeting Mr Right as this is not a safe environment for our sisters as some girls are very naïve landing into trouble with strangers they think they can trust. You need to be careful who you are communicating especially with guys has they can say one thing and then do another. May I strongly send a message to all our sisters to be cautious who you make friends with on face book.
To daddiesgril good luck
W/salaams
Walaikum Assalaam,
I don't know him from any social network or etc.
Anyways thanks 🙂
Assalamu alaykum DaddiesGirl 🙂
May this reach you in a high state of iman and health inshaAllah
My advice for you is Make dua that Allah swt gives you whats best for you, dont just ask Allah swt to give you him specificly because he might not be good for you. Dont restrict your dua you cant see the unseen my sweetheart he might not make you happy. what your feeling we all felt before many sisters wished and prayed to be married to a guy they thought they loved but regretted it later.. by Allah True pure love comes after marriage these feels are fantasies that shatan made you believe. Speak to a wise person you know and trust, a person that knows him as well you need to find out more about him before you say that its him you want to marry and that you love him... life isnt a fairytale movie theres more to reality than whats on the screen... you never know maybe Allah swt has someone better for you.. Make abundant dua May Allah make things easy for you and give you whats best fore you.
O Allaah, correct my religious commitment which is the foundation of my life, and correct my worldly affairs in which is my livelihood, and grant me good in the Hereafter to which is my return. Make my life a means of accumulating good, and make death a respite for me from all evil).” (Narrated by Muslim, 2720).
Love you for the Sake of Allah
Thuwaybah
Walaikum assalaam,
Well my mom knows that i want him in my life, but she not taking any actions, cuz it needs to come from the boys side. We all meeting each other after 3 months InshAllah. But i've got contact with him now and his sister, but not that much. I've also told my elder sister about him she called a imam and he did Istikhara, he said he's good for u. He told my sister to pray so im doing it everyday.. But still it's Allah T'Allah who decides who's better and who not, but really want this person, lets see what in my destiny :)...
I am a girl and i loved a boy for 9 years. i know he also loved me. now my family wants me to get married. but i want to marry this boy only. he got hepatitis-b. and i dont have any problem with it. i still want to marry him. but he is not saying anything, he cant take any decision about me. i am so depressed.
what should i do?
Dear Tammy,
I'd ask him whats wrong with him.. why he acting like that to me..
It's his study and nothing else! I've asked him if it was me and he said no are you crazy it's not you, it's of my study, so that's why he's been busy nd will be busy, but i'll need to have sabr now and inshAllah everything will be ok 🙂
Thanks anyways
Your very welcome. Just remember to guard your heart, seriously.
I'll pray for you.
This is something general... and from my experiences-
Normally when a guy is interested in a girl, he will not forget her birthday and will wish her, just to make the her feel special.
Thanks Tammy!
I really don't get him anymore! Sometimes he's so sweet and sometimes he ignore's me so much! ... Really tammy i can't leave without him.. I haven't talk to him for 5 days and i promised myself to not talk with him till be begins talking.. Days are passing by and I hear nothing..
Is there any dua that can help me out? and make him the same again?
Pleaseeee.. Help me out!!!
Listen DaddiesGirl...don't kill yourself over him, don't say you can't live without him. If Allah wills, and if he is in your destiny, then everything will be easy and fall into right places. Be strict, and ask him serious questions, if he really wants to pursue marriage with you or not. Don't wait for him. You will save a lot of time and heart aches. If this guy is decent and shows respect then he would not play with your mind, and keep you hanging. Pray to Allah a lot and ask him to show you what's good for you
Be strong.
I didn't kill myself dream Tammy, it was a panicattack or something which i never had before! I've asked Allah T'ala so many times, and i've only got a positieve sign for that guy, that's why I don't get it anymore.. Wel lets see 🙂 Thanks for ur help anyway..
I've done it like you said.. I did ask him why he's ignoring me for.. He said he ain't using his mobile cuz he has stalkers on it.. there is a girl who's just a friend of his and she's stalks him so he gave his mobile to his brother for a while.. his brother did read my msg and gave the mobile phone to him.. he'd talk to me and everything's fine now.. he's brother will have his mobile for a while so i can not hear anything from him for a while 🙂 i guess i got stress for nothing all the time 🙂
DaddiesGirl,
All his reasons for not contacting you sounds Highschoolish. Especially, when he said that he doesn't have his mobile anymore because a girl (female friend) is stalking him....this is a RED FLAG. Don't be blind.
My last say on your story.... Don't be so NAIVE.
Good Luck!
I used to like this boy from my school when I
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You need to log in and submit your question as a separate post. But my short answer is this: You cannot force someone to love you, especially a boy at school whom you've had an eye on for a few years but have never spoken to. Your feelings for him are a fantasy, since you have never interacted with him yet you think you know enough about him to be in love. The best thing you can do is to try and rationalise this fact in your mind and then busy yourself with other things - real life things, like deen, friends, family and your studies. Insha'Allah, slowly but surely you will move on happily.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Is there any dua beside of salat isqarah that you can read to get the person you are in love with?
People are not products that you can buy from a shelf. Everyone has free will. You can only marry someone who chooses to marry you. You cannot make anyone love you.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I want a man to marry but he has no idea about me we never talk but I want to marry with the Grace of Allah so can u please give me some dua to get marry him early