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I’m doomed because of my sins

I got into a haram relationship and did have physical relations, too. We did everything but not intercourse. We had a breakup, and I spent all my time in depression. After 2 months I started having a feeling of guilt about what we did, and I wasn’t able to walk talk or eat and I couldn’t believe what happened to me. I felt in despair. I even told about my sin to someone, and now I feel I have no hope of being forgiven.

Rejected by society

They say that you should always be yourself. But, what if being yourself causes you to get rejected by everyone? It’s killing me. Thats why I’m very afraid to meet new people or to get married. They may like me in the beginning, but eventually they will find me strange. I don’t want to play someone else. I want to be me. But “being me” is hard, because I’m way too different. I can’t help it, I was just born this way.

Distressed about my marriage

I love this man but I am so unhappy. The only thing that keeps me bonded to him is my love for him and his kindness towards me. Otherwise I would have filed for divorce long time ago. We have even tried counseling, but things are not changing. Not only that, we have financial issues now as he can’t find a job in his field and many times I provide him money. I have become depressed, and many times think of committing suicide because I can’t leave him nor can I stay with him.

I have a lot to offer, but my parents are not getting me married.

I cannot tell my family about my depression. I just don’t know how to communicate this to my parents that I want to get married. There are a lot of really close unmarried females in my family, and they are really unhappy and I am terrified. I am really tired of being misunderstood, and I don’t want to disrespect my parents. I just dont know how to go about it.

Which proposal is meant for me?

Now the problem has started that the guy has reduced his messaging, sending them only once in two days…or like now- I have not received a message at all in 3 days! Not that we were always indulging in messaging each other on a regular basis, but at least there was just small, decent chit chat to understand each other.

I can’t take it anymore.

This pain is infinite. I cry for my mother and myself. She doesn’t know any thing, because she herself has so many problems and I don’t want to worry her. Tell me how to be strong? I get nightmares, I get dizzy every time I stand, and I can’t focus on anything because of a lack of physical and emotional strength. I want to become close to Allah. I know He knows everything. Just help me. I want to get married one day and have a happy life, but I’m scared that my abusers will come again.

His parents won’t let him marry me

Both his parents are rejecting it due to the fact that I am not Pakistani. His mother’s reasons are that she doesn’t believe I will understand their culture and she feels as though she won’t be able to connect and communicate with me. I know what will be expected of me as a daughter in law, and I am willing to do it all.

Dad is making Mom physically ill

Dad seems to be going through a bunch of issues (the biggest of them being in the Deen). He says that he thinks he doesn’t have a wife, children (I don’t know what more he expects from us), or siblings, etc. He hates everyone so much and probably feels that no one has acknowledged any of his efforts for them throughout his life.

depression disorder and salah

My main problem is that I can’t offer salah. Whenever I try to do so, I suffer lot of intense mental pain and pressure, which remains for most of the day- especially when I pray in the mosque. I first used to focus on salah to heal my depression, but I think it worsened my disorder. I want to offer it, but I’m not able to do it.

I can’t restore my faith

Now I am in the lowest point of my life. I am suicidal and severely depressed. I have no one for support and am not getting better. There was another boy who was athiest that I became to attached to, but the truth is only for attention…and he has recently abandoned me too. I feel as if every time I meet someone (even girls) who brings me happiness, they are somehow ripped away from me.