Islamic marriage advice and family advice

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A question about wedding ceremonies

Is it ok to have on one day boy wedding ceremony and on another day of walima his sister’s wedding?

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How can I avoid upsetting family while not engaging in haram?

I have explained to them that I will not be engaging in the traditions such as dancing. They will not accept this and say that they will make me dance on the night. I am afraid that a scene will be created if they do so. I have explained that even to be there amongst the music, dancing and men and women being together is haraam.

What will be my surname after I convert and get married to a Muslim man?

I am a Hindu but I will convert to Islam soon because I will be getting married to a Muslim. We are now searching for an Islamic name for me. Right now we have chosen AARA but I want to know what will my surname be after marriage?? My fiancé’s name is AARASH KHAN so will my name be AARA AARASH KHAN or will it be AARA KHAN after marriage, please advise because I don’t want to keep my father’s name with me after converting due to some personal issues.

Am I in an haram relationship?

I have been with my Muslim boyfriend for 6 years now and we were having sexual relations for about 5 years. Since this discussion a year has passed and now I have reverted to Islam, which I am very happy and proud about. I know that this is obviously haram as Allah does not permit any form of relationship between the opposite of sex till marriage, and if it was down to me I would marry him in a heart beat. But here is where it gets complicated because he says that he will marry me but not until he finishes his degree and/or if I get a good job.

I am in love with a married man and my feelings are torn; don’t know what to do?

Four years ago a man came to work in my department. He is a good muslim, husband and father alhamdilullah. In addition, he is very charismatic, popular and excellent at his job. However, I remained true to my values and tried my best for the relationship to remain professional. I confronted him and I admit that I became terribly distressed and he tried to comfort me. The situation became impossible after that, as I think it must have been obvious to him that I feel the same way about him, although I would never say. The problem is that no matter how I try, I cannot forget this man. He continues to attempt to contact me and recently messaged me through my facebook account which I have now closed.

can I marry my former brother in law?

My name is Aneesa; I am 25 and divorced. My older sister recently also divorced from my brother in law. I feel he has the right qualities that I am looking for in a spouse. In Islam is it possible for us to marry ? even though my parents might refuse ?

My friend is in not happy with his future in-laws as they don’t allow both to talk or see each other.

My friend saw her at a wedding a couple of years ago and wanted to get to know her more, so he messaged her on facebook, at first she was really rude to him since she doesn’t talk to a lot of guys, but after she got to know him they became friends on facebook, for almost 2 years they just talked online and after they started to get emotionally attached (online) my friend told her that he likes her and that he wanted to meet her parents to ask for her hand in marriage and if that would be ok with her? she agreed and she told her mom about my friend, and then her parents invited my friend to their house. Any ways, my friend did an istikhara and it was positive, his parents did istikharas and they were positive and even I did an istikhara for them and it was positive, and to my knowledge we are only supposed to do an istikahra upto 7 times and then trust it and not doubt Allah swt first guidance, why are these people doing it again and again and again for the same thing?

I want out of this marriage as my husband’s condition hasn’t improved even after two and a half years.

I came to know about his mental illness(suffering from OCD ) only after the marriage which his parents had hidden from me. I was not able to tolerate it as the illness makes him do things very late and sometimes he speaks to himself ,takes hours to finish his prayers and moreover we are not compatible by a percent. We had many fights; seeked psychiatric help to cure him and save the marriage but now after 2 and half years; he is still the same and now I don’t want to continue as I am losing my own mental stability due to the stress he is causing me; can I go for divorce? we have a 1 n half year old son and he is my only concern now and my husband pleads me not to go away.

Can a Muslim girl marry a Hindu man if he promises to convert after marriage for her sake?

If a Muslim girl and a Hindu guy got into a relationship and the guy promises her that he will convert to islam just because he has strong feelings for the girl. Is it okay to accept that the guy actually converted to Islam just because he has strong feelings for the girl and he’s willing to do anything just to marry her? While the girl prays to Allah in the same place where the family carries out all their hinduism culture, pooja (worship), not eating red meat etc?

I am new to Islam but don’t know how to find a Muslim partner?

I am a 68 year old man and am fit and healthy and young at heart and I live in Cape Town, South Africa. I have reverted to Islam and would like to start a new life by finding a Muslim marriage partner.