Are we going to pay for our parents’ sins?
Every soul draws the meed of its acts on none but itself: no bearer of burdens can bear the burden of another. Your goal in the end is toward Allah: He will tell you the Truth of the things wherein ye disputed. (Holy Quran 6:164)
Assalam o alaikum
I'm a bit confused whether i should discuss it or not but i simply want to know are we going to pay for our parents' sins?
Alhamdulilah i belong to a nice islamic family but i'm having step siblings whose mother died when they were quite young and then my mother didn't treat them well.now they are married but even now sometimes my mum curse them though they were always very polite to her and to us.we are having quite good relations with each other. my mum is really very sensitive about me cause i'm her only daughter and i'm always worried whether i'l b going to pay for her deeds.
i've heard often the children have to go through everything afterwards because they are the ones because of whom parents can get hurt the most.if she curses them that won't really effect them ofcourse cause they are innocent but i'm frightened for myself..also she does not pray,we can't force her at this age now,so are we equally responsible? She is often having issues with her siblings also n disobeys my father.i love her so much but these are all the facts which make me worried..I know Allah will always make justice if i have not done anything wrong in fact always tried to stop her then why would i pay for it but still there are examples so....
If any one can help...Jazak'Allah for reading!
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Wa'alaykumsalam,
A simple answer is NO, you are not going to pay for your parents sins whether in this life or the next.
Basically, every individual will be on their own on the day of judgement. Their deeds will only be theirs, neither inherited nor shared.
"Every man's fate We have fastened on his own neck: On the Day of Judgment We shall bring out for him a scroll, which he will see spread open. [It will be said], "Read your record. Sufficient is yourself against you this Day as accountant.", Whoever is guided is only guided for [the benefit of] his soul. And whoever errs only errs against it. And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another. And never would We punish until We sent a messenger". ( Quran 17:13-15)
"That no bearer of burden shall bear the burden of another, And that man will have nothing but what he strives for; And that the result of his striving shall soon be known; Then will he be rewarded for it withthe fullest reward; And that with thy Lord isthe final judgment; (Quran 53:38-42)
"And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another. And if a heavily laden soul calls [another] to [carry some of] its load, nothing of it will be carried, even if he should be a close relative. You can only warn those who fear their Lord unseen and have established prayer. And whoever purifies himself onlypurifies himself for [the benefit of] his soul. And to Allah is the [final] destination.
Pray to Allah to guide your mum and give you hapiness. Whatever problems you'll face in your life, it will most certainly be a test and trial by Allah, it is not due to your parents sins etc. They will have to face Allah one day, and you will not be responsible insha'Allah. Just try to guide your mum if its even possible by saying her to perform her prayers or by any other way like listening to Islamic lectures when shes around etc. Pray for your parents because after their death, you prayers is a way for their good deeds to increase.
Children are one kind of test and trials for the parents and therefore they should be patient with them.
"Your wealth and your children are only a trial,whereas Allah! With Him is a great reward" (Quran 64:15)
Prophet said, " The believing man or woman continues to have affliction in person, property and children so that they may finally meet Allah, free from sin. ( Tirmidhi )
Do your duties towards Allah insha'Allah and everything will be fine. Don't worry so much insha'Allah. May Allah grant you peace and hapiness. Ameen.
You probably have memories of some times when you could have helped your mom but didnt and these are making you feel guilty, am i right? These memories will probably remain and these are what shows our humanity. Anyway whenever you have these thoughts, try to replace them with thoughts about what you could do to help others, increase your imaan etc. Dont depress yourself and remember that there is a verse that says good deeds will wipe out bad deeds.
Assalamualaikum sister Qurratul 'Ayn,
You have answered your own question by saying "Allah will always make justice". Injustice is not something for Allah. He Says in the Quran:
35:18
وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَىٰ ۚ وَإِنْ تَدْعُ مُثْقَلَةٌ إِلَىٰ حِمْلِهَا لَا يُحْمَلْ مِنْهُ شَيْءٌ وَلَوْ كَانَ ذَا قُرْبَىٰ ۗ إِنَّمَا تُنْذِرُ الَّذِينَ يَخْشَوْنَ رَبَّهُمْ بِالْغَيْبِ وَأَقَامُوا الصَّلَاةَ ۚ وَمَنْ تَزَكَّىٰ فَإِنَّمَا يَتَزَكَّىٰ لِنَفْسِهِ ۚ وَإِلَى اللَّهِ الْمَصِيرُ
And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another. And if a heavily laden soul calls [another] to [carry some of] its load, nothing of it will be carried, even if he should be a close relative. You can only warn those who fear their Lord unseen and have established prayer. And whoever purifies himself only purifies himself for [the benefit of] his soul. And to Allah is the (final) destination.
But if anyone encourages or influences others to sin, the former would be punished for the latter's sin also because he was the originator of the latter's sin. Allah's Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said:
It was narrated that `Abdullâh said: :The Messenger of Allâh said: `No soul is killed unlawfully, but there is a share of the sin on the first son of Adam (Qabil), because he was the first one to set the precedent of killing. (Muslim)
In your case, your mother's sins are her own and your sins are your own. Ask for Allah's Guidance for your mother. Continue your practice of the Deen and do not let the environment affect you.
Muhammad Waseem
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Assalamualaikum.
My father passed away about a year and a half ago. He left some inheritance for us. One of our siblings refuse to take it as she is under the impression that it has not been acquired through halal means. My father was a very pious man and he had worked very hard all his life, gave zakah by the penny, uncountable sadaqaat to which I was witness but he had told no one, never missed a single wakt of salah, never lied, and lived a very honorable and balanced life dedicated to his family and extended family and in the service of Allah. He also inherited large amounts of money from his dad which he invested in Islamic Mudaraba or social Islamic banking institutions and increased his money manifold by these wise and careful investments. Because she feels that the money is acquired through riba and has ribah (doubts) about the source, not only she declines taking her share, but also continuously acknowledges him as a sinner and prays to Allah to forgive him for this sin. She also thinks that she needs to punish herself by enslaving herself to her in law's family to salvage my father from his sins. She hopes that my father will be redeemed by this act of personal self destruction.
I know that no one is to be burdened by anyone else's sin but their own, and she should pray for our father's forgiveness and not punish herself for that. Please tell me that I am correct to think that.
Secondly, the increase of his wealth acquired by hard work and diligence after paying zakah to the penny and innumerable charities, wakfs mostly secret, were not by depriving anyone or by fraud or cheating pr collecting riba with or without zulum and done in the most Islamic way that is available in todays' world. Is she correct in judging her father as a sinner? fWhat my father did was after careful consultation with Alems and diligent scrutiny and deliberation/ If he has wronged, shouldn't we leave it to Allah Sobhanatawala to make this judgement for He knows best what was in my father's mind. He always took care of us and his needy relatives and left us an inheritance. Should we disregard it because of her doubts? It breaks my heart to see the money lying idle, while my sibling struggles to make ends meet. What should I advice her in this regard? I also feel as an older sibling I have seen how hard he had worked and so many luxuries he sacrificed so that he could take care of everyone around him and even after his intekal . Please advice. JZK / Wassalam.
N Sattar
My father was a really bad person drug and many other thing he never fast or pray but he does many bad thing he never loved his daughter but will his sins effect me.
Salam,
You won't carry other people's sin. You will carry your own sins for what you did if they were not forgiven.