Can we fall in love with family members?
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I am in love with my cousin nephew.
Is that right or wrong?
~ Zathar456
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his your nephew that's disgusting that's haram
just ignore those feelings you have for him
its the shaytan trying to confuse you!
No Miah, it is not haraam, although it may feel awkward.
- Your own nephew, i.e. your brother or sister's son is mahram to you, so you cannot marry him.
- However, your cousin's nephew is a non mahram, so it is permissible to marry him.
SisterZ
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LOL! its her cousin nephew and she is the auntie to him so she can't marry him think about it doesn't seem right!
Miah,
Our cousins are not mahram to us, so neither are their children, so they are permissible for marriage.
My cousin's children call me 'Aunty', but that is just a respectful title, it doesnt make them mahram to me. When they are adult, I will have to observe hijaab infront of them. Other young boys who are not related to me at all have also called me 'Aunty' - yes frightening give away of my age (haha), but the fact is, they are not my mahram just because they call me aunt.
SisterZ
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PS: Sometimes, things don't seem 'right' to us because of the communities or societies we live in, but in fact they are not wrong. For example, the Messenger of Allah married:
- Khadija who was 15 years his senior.
At the time of the Prophet(sws), this was not considered strange although some communities find it strange now.
- Aisha who was a young child.
This was not considered strange at that time either, but now most of the world call it a crime.
- The ex wife of Zayd who he had always treated as his(sws) son.
But this was considered strange, even to the Prophet(sws). He(sws) tried to avoid it, but eventually had to marry her as Allah(swt) instructed him to though a revelation.
SisterZ
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Yeah the questions a bit vague lol :/ if you could let us know if you're in love with your nephew, or cousin or your cousin's nephew or your nephews cousin lol! xP
also tbh we as Muslims should stop judging on feelings because it's not the feelings that are key it's whether you act on them or not, and this topic goes way back you can even find books in the maliki madhab that cover the issue of a man who feels sexual feelings about other men, how it is permissible for him to lead the salah etc. its because he can still be a righteous good man but just because he has those feelings it's not his fault just a test from Allah, so long as he never acts on them and stays away from the evil sin of acting upon them, Allah knows best! 🙂
Zathar456,
After all the above discussion, your question has still not been answered.
No, it is not wrong to love someone, as long as that love does not exceed the limits set for us by Allah.
SisterZ
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AA;
Nothing wrong with it. With big families, you have different ages for different level of relation. For example:
- You are 20
- Your cousin is 50
- His nephew is 25
It is not Haram. If some people think it is awkward, that's their issue! But it is normal and nothing wrong with it.
May ALLAH guide us, grant us patience, and shower us with his mercy.
If I am correct, it is from ALLAH. If I err it is from me, and I pray ALLAH forgives me.
AA
Asalamu Aliakum Zathar456
It is permissible in Islam to marry your cousin's nephew as you are not from the women which are forbidden for him to marry in surah al-nisa Where Allah the Exalted says(Prohibited to[for marriage]are your mothers,your daughters,your sisters,your father's sisters,your mother's sisters,your brother's daughters,your sister's daughters,your[milk]mothers who nursed you,your sisters through nursing,your wives mothers,and your step-daughters under your guardianship[born]of your wives unto whom you have gone in(i.e have consummated marriage with)But if you have not gone unto them,there is no sin upon you.And[also prohibited are]wives of your sons who are your[own]loins,and that you take[in marriage]two sisters simultaneously,expect for what has already occurred,Indeed,Allah is Ever-forgiving and merciful)[surah Al-Nisa 4:23]
This ayah clearly shows that he is not your mehram and you can love him with the intention of marriage.So, I advice you to make your love for pleasing Allah by getting married and close the door of any relation you have with him as he is non-mehram to you.The desire of lovers is always to marry.
May Allah bless you.
Is it permissable to marry your ex wife's niece (what if she's her step niece)blood related
Asalamu Aliakum Zathar456
It is permissible in Islam to marry your cousin's nephew as you are not from the women which are forbidden for him to marry in surah al-nisa Where Allah the Exalted says(Prohibited to[for marriage]are your mothers,your daughters,your sisters,your father's sisters,your mother's sisters,your brother's daughters,your sister's daughters,your[milk]mothers who nursed you,your sisters through nursing,your wives mothers,and your step-daughters under your guardianship[born]of your wives unto whom you have gone in(i.e have consummated marriage with)But if you have not gone unto them,there is no sin upon you.And[also prohibited are]wives of your sons who are your[own]loins,and that you take[in marriage]two sisters simultaneously,expect for what has already occurred,Indeed,Allah is Ever-forgiving and merciful)[surah Al-Nisa 4:23]
This ayah clearly shows that he is not your mehram and you can love him with the intention of marriage.So, I advice you to make your love for pleasing Allah by getting married and close the door of any relation you have with him as he is non-mehram to you.The desire of lovers is always to marry.
May Allah bless you.
Hi, my name is zayn i live in Manchester i m muslim. I actlly love someone very very much she is my cousin (aunty) shez just a month elder.OUR PROPHET WIFE WAS 25 YEARS SENIOR THAN HIM!I love her more than anythning in this world i would do anything for her!! I have told one of our family relative bout this.And recently i tld her that i LOVE her by text.She couldnt believe it, she felt awkward and she kept on sying i feel the same.But she wants to love me, she cant because of the circumstances. But i will still love her evn if she dont! I havnt cried fr nythn in this world itz easy fr a women to cry but if a man cries it really means!! I LOVE HER SO MUCH.I will do anything for her even if i knw im going to die.❤
Pakistanis in the UK are suffering high levels of birth defects (as high as 12%) because of the prevalence of first cousin marriage. The only reason you "love" this woman is proximity. You see her often, so you developed feelings for her. Broaden your scope and your horizons. Find someone outside your family. That would be better for you.
Wael
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