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My parents say they will kill me if I leave this forced marriage
I am 20 years old my name is fathima I was married in 2009
Only due to emotional backmail my mom blackmaild me and forced me a lot and I got married..
Unfortunately, I am divorcing my 2nd wife due to my own problems
I married my first wife in 2002, she married secretly and was reverted from Hinduism. We had 2 children and I messed up and ended-up in jail for a year. I took my kids with me to Bangladesh and I got married to my first cousin and she came after appeal against the UK government’s refusal of her visa. In arguments my wife wasn’t happy with my intention to marry another girl. She walked out with the baby, I was heartbroken. I broke up with the new girl; I didn’t realize how much I loved my wife.
How to convince my Christian wife to accept Islam?
I am Sunni Muslim from India. In the year 2008 April I married to Baptist Christian girl secretly in Mosque without informing our family members in presence of an Imam and my friends as witness and wakil according to the Islamic Law with the girl’s wish. From that time (previously also my wife’s mother used to force and fight with her about Christian religion why she change all those things, but she never reacted that much) after meeting with these two people she changed completely and told me that she did wrong by changing her religion and she don’t want to continue. I don’t want my children to become confused of Islam and I want my children and wife to be as Muslim and to follow the Sunnah, Ahadees, Quran as a perfect Muslim do.
I want a divorce from my wife and want to marry this other girl who I have been in relationship with.
I am in a situation which is very troubling. Eight years ago I got married to my mother’s identical twin sister’s daughter from Pakistan. For all these years I have put on an act so my mother remains happy. We are not able to have children & last year I became exhausted of living a lie. I met a girl with a beautiful heart and good intentions with whom I and she instantly had a spark and connection with. Unfortunately, she became pregnant with my twin babies & this is when I had to tell her I was still married. I left her with no option but to abort.
I got khula from court against my husband but my family is forcing me to live with him. Is my khula valid?
I got married in march 2007 to my maternal cousin. This was a forced marriage as I didn’t want to get married. But my parents emotionally blackmailed me, my husband, his mother and my mother promised me that he won’t demand any physical relation until I complete my education. I agreed on this base. I was abused sexually, physically and psychologically by my husband and my parents. I asked my husband to divorce me but he refused. Before seeking khula I spoke to my husband and told him that I cannot fulfill his sexual needs as hatred fills within me whenever I see him and all the issues between us and requested him to divorce me.
My husband took another wife without my knowledge and wants me to come back to him.
e have been married for 15 years, have no children due unexplained infertility reasons. My husband always assured me that he loves me and won’t marry again. He carried on talking to me everyday with a promise that he will be back in July but got married in May and I was the last person to know after two months. I have filed a case for my dower, now he is asking me to come back to him because he is able to afford me now. He says if I don’t go, I will get his baddua (bad dua/prayer for someone); my prayers won’t be accepted; I am committing a sin by not talking to him.
I am in love with a married man and my feelings are torn; don’t know what to do?
Four years ago a man came to work in my department. He is a good muslim, husband and father alhamdilullah. In addition, he is very charismatic, popular and excellent at his job. However, I remained true to my values and tried my best for the relationship to remain professional. I confronted him and I admit that I became terribly distressed and he tried to comfort me. The situation became impossible after that, as I think it must have been obvious to him that I feel the same way about him, although I would never say. The problem is that no matter how I try, I cannot forget this man. He continues to attempt to contact me and recently messaged me through my facebook account which I have now closed.
My mother-in-law is very controlling and I want to move out but hubby doesn’t understand.
I’ve been married almost 8 years, two kids ages 2 and 6. For 7 years we lived on our own in a different city. Then moved to my in-laws city with a new job. There are typical issues like complaining that I don’t let the kids play with them or she’ll clarify something incident to him to let him know that it occurred making it look like I’ve been accusing them of stuff and shes just clarifying. She resents our going out on weekends and usually create some issue or fills his ears just before that, my husband doesn’t even realize this.
My friend is in not happy with his future in-laws as they don’t allow both to talk or see each other.
My friend saw her at a wedding a couple of years ago and wanted to get to know her more, so he messaged her on facebook, at first she was really rude to him since she doesn’t talk to a lot of guys, but after she got to know him they became friends on facebook, for almost 2 years they just talked online and after they started to get emotionally attached (online) my friend told her that he likes her and that he wanted to meet her parents to ask for her hand in marriage and if that would be ok with her? she agreed and she told her mom about my friend, and then her parents invited my friend to their house. Any ways, my friend did an istikhara and it was positive, his parents did istikharas and they were positive and even I did an istikhara for them and it was positive, and to my knowledge we are only supposed to do an istikahra upto 7 times and then trust it and not doubt Allah swt first guidance, why are these people doing it again and again and again for the same thing?
Am I a virgin?
I have always loved to sit in woman’s laps, I used to do so a lot with her, and she never minded that of course. Also, on the bed, I used to sleep very close to her, and e.g. when she was asleep, I would put my legs on her legs, as if I was lying in her lap and thus enjoy myself I was 11-13 in this age then. I did not know fully about sex back then, and did not touch any of her private parts or anything, but simply repeated that childhood obsession of lying in her lap while she was asleep. I have tried to overcome that habit as well. I am at a point of life, where one comes to realize that there is nothing of True Vale besides one’s relationship to his Creator.
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