Tag Archive for ‘Islamic Answers 2011’
I got khula from court against my husband but my family is forcing me to live with him. Is my khula valid?
I got married in march 2007 to my maternal cousin. This was a forced marriage as I didn’t want to get married. But my parents emotionally blackmailed me, my husband, his mother and my mother promised me that he won’t demand any physical relation until I complete my education. I agreed on this base. I was abused sexually, physically and psychologically by my husband and my parents. I asked my husband to divorce me but he refused. Before seeking khula I spoke to my husband and told him that I cannot fulfill his sexual needs as hatred fills within me whenever I see him and all the issues between us and requested him to divorce me.
My husband cheated on me but I don’t know how to deal with this situation. What are my options?
A week ago I walked through the doors of my home to find my husband in bed with another woman. Apparently she had no idea that he was married, and I know this because I saw the messages that he sent to her. He said he has made Tawbah but I am unsure of his sincerity. He seems to be genuine, but this is not the first incident that we have had; this is just the first time that he had gotten caught in the act. I asked for his reasoning for being defensive but he didn’t reply. All he keeps saying is; I am sorry. I am so confused as to what to do.
My in-laws are creating problem in our marriage financially and emotionally. Please help me.
I have been married for 3 years now and during all this time, my in-laws take all the money from my husband’s earnings even though I don’t have a sister in law and all my brother in laws are married. Is this right? I am very insecure because our child is on the way and we can’t save even if we want to. My sister-in-law (wife of my brother-in-law) is very proud. She doesn’t even talk to me; in fact, she looks at me in a demeaning way. She is rude and very clever. She made her brother’s wife leave because of her rude behaviour. Is this true what goes around comes around? She has hurt me so many times.
My husband took another wife without my knowledge and wants me to come back to him.
e have been married for 15 years, have no children due unexplained infertility reasons. My husband always assured me that he loves me and won’t marry again. He carried on talking to me everyday with a promise that he will be back in July but got married in May and I was the last person to know after two months. I have filed a case for my dower, now he is asking me to come back to him because he is able to afford me now. He says if I don’t go, I will get his baddua (bad dua/prayer for someone); my prayers won’t be accepted; I am committing a sin by not talking to him.
Am I in an haram relationship?
I have been with my Muslim boyfriend for 6 years now and we were having sexual relations for about 5 years. Since this discussion a year has passed and now I have reverted to Islam, which I am very happy and proud about. I know that this is obviously haram as Allah does not permit any form of relationship between the opposite of sex till marriage, and if it was down to me I would marry him in a heart beat. But here is where it gets complicated because he says that he will marry me but not until he finishes his degree and/or if I get a good job.
I am in love with a married man and my feelings are torn; don’t know what to do?
Four years ago a man came to work in my department. He is a good muslim, husband and father alhamdilullah. In addition, he is very charismatic, popular and excellent at his job. However, I remained true to my values and tried my best for the relationship to remain professional. I confronted him and I admit that I became terribly distressed and he tried to comfort me. The situation became impossible after that, as I think it must have been obvious to him that I feel the same way about him, although I would never say. The problem is that no matter how I try, I cannot forget this man. He continues to attempt to contact me and recently messaged me through my facebook account which I have now closed.
My mother and I choose a girl for me to marry but my father doesn’t approve. What should I do?
My father asked my mother to look for girl for my marriage. When my mother shortlisted the girl she asked me to meet the girl and wanted me to confirm if I wish to marry her. Once she confirmed everything she went to my father and he discarded the family without even meeting them. My mother categorically told me that she will not find any girl for me because my father has disapproved the girl she chose and she clearly told my father the same. I have talked to my father 3 times and he disapproved all my requests without giving me the clear reason. Since then my mother and father are not on the talking terms.
My mother-in-law is very controlling and I want to move out but hubby doesn’t understand.
I’ve been married almost 8 years, two kids ages 2 and 6. For 7 years we lived on our own in a different city. Then moved to my in-laws city with a new job. There are typical issues like complaining that I don’t let the kids play with them or she’ll clarify something incident to him to let him know that it occurred making it look like I’ve been accusing them of stuff and shes just clarifying. She resents our going out on weekends and usually create some issue or fills his ears just before that, my husband doesn’t even realize this.
Can someone help me interpret the Istikhara dreams please?
I did the istikhara for one of the subject, say biology, as whether I should opt for it or not. However, I couldn’t interpret my dream, as there were certain things that happened. First I couldn’t sleep till the Sehri time reached, as I slept after Fajjar prayers, I saw a man with red hair telling me about buying a book for the subject. I saw the dream after sehri(suhoor), somebody had told me one should not talk to anyone after offering Istikhara prayers, so I did the Istikhara Nex day again. I saw one portion of hair getting blacker and as long as height of a building. Now, I want to know is the first dream valid and also, do we have to consider only colour or signs and ignore any verbal manifestation?
My friend is in not happy with his future in-laws as they don’t allow both to talk or see each other.
My friend saw her at a wedding a couple of years ago and wanted to get to know her more, so he messaged her on facebook, at first she was really rude to him since she doesn’t talk to a lot of guys, but after she got to know him they became friends on facebook, for almost 2 years they just talked online and after they started to get emotionally attached (online) my friend told her that he likes her and that he wanted to meet her parents to ask for her hand in marriage and if that would be ok with her? she agreed and she told her mom about my friend, and then her parents invited my friend to their house. Any ways, my friend did an istikhara and it was positive, his parents did istikharas and they were positive and even I did an istikhara for them and it was positive, and to my knowledge we are only supposed to do an istikahra upto 7 times and then trust it and not doubt Allah swt first guidance, why are these people doing it again and again and again for the same thing?
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