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Depression and Anxiety due to sexual abuse by father, brother and cousin

I have felt suicidle, suffering from depression and anxiety for as long as i could remember, im not getting any support from my family. I don’t want to feel angry with my mother for not being there for me. She was very emotionally and physically abusive, she was also present on one occasion when my father sexually abused me at the age of 6. I can never forgive her for that.

Broken and depressed

I’m 19 years old and I have gone through emotional, physical and sexual abuse. My sexual abuse staryed at the age of 10. My parents had seperated and my mother took us to pakistan, we were there for 3 months. During the last month and a half my mother’s brother started to abuse me although I kept quiet at first.

Am I a Girl or a Boy?

as far as i could remember i was being molested by 5 men by the age of 5, no body told me it was bad i liked it and by the age of 7 i was seeking it, around that time it was brought to my attention that i was very feminine, i was sad because i thought i was normal until i was called names by kids at school for being me, i then became sad depressed and lonely in a nation that has no tolerance for anyone who is different we are very ugly to those who are abnormal,

Just found out my husband has been looking at pornagraphy our whole marriage; what should I do?

What should I do? I have never been faced with such a problem. I’m not bad looking at all, have a good figure, keep myself and his home good, contribute quite a lot of my own money to the marriage. What I’m saying is, I can’t understand what his problem is? What more does he want?

I was raped as a child, so am not a virgin. Which Muslim man will ever want to marry me?

I am a muslim girl. Today I am 25. I have lost my virginity when I was a kid because I got raped but nobody knows that. I got a boyfriend who used me and no body will believe if I tell them how that man used me because I was stupid. I believed him, I know everything is my fault.

How do I get rid of these ‘satanic’ thoughts?

I’ve had a very tough childhood. My father has been abusive towards me in all types of ways (I will not tell you but I think you can guess) and that has put a lot stress on me. I’m pretty much shattered and I feel depressed most of the time. No one wants to be my friend and I’m mostly shunned or bullied by people. I’ve struggled most of my life to be accepted and I’ve been accepted by a few people who are my friends

I am having evil thoughts about the girl I wish to marry due to her past and can’t decide what to do? Please help

am a new Muslim, and 20 years of age and I am having some issues concerning relationships. I’ve known this girl for about nearly all my life and its beeen 3 months now since we confessed our love for each other but we’ve been in love for more than a year and I knew she loved me and that I loved her. I’ve never had sex in my life even though I wasn’t Muslim all my life and have been in several relationships but she told me just recently that she did have sex before with her previous “boyfriend” and he forced her? I cry every night asking for Allah’s help and every time I think about leaving her my heart aches and I just cant do it. I’ve never loved anyone like this in my life, to the point I would fall sick whenever I dont communicate with her.

Sexual abuse by grand dad, please pray for me

I am a postgraduate student, right from my child hood i have been experiencing sexual abuse from my maternal grand dad, to be frank i have a very bad child hood, my mom doesnt understand me, she always abuse me in vulgar languages but thats not her fault coz she has experience so much of torture from her in laws and she finds me to dispose all her anxiety and stress…

Father has been sexually molesting me since childhood and now I may be pregnant

My father has been sexually molesting me since I was 7. Now I may have an STD and may be pregnant. I feel trapped and don’t know what to do.

Secret marriage to cousin who sexually abused my little sister

I had married my cousin secretly in 2001 due to family problems. Later on, I came to know that he used to sexually abuse my younger sister (8 years old that time). Then I stopped having any contact with him. Now, my family wants me to marry someone. But due to my nikkah, I feel that I cannot marry someone else. But in this case when he used to have sexual relationship with my sister, whether nikkah persists or not. If not, how to get divorce as he will never divorce me and I don’t want to disclose this issue in front of my family.