I want to get married and fear I will fall into sin otherwise.
Sir, my age is thity two we are 6 brothers and sisters and I'm eldest. Sir there is no topic about marriage of any brother or sister is started. Because of this my mind is gone towards evil. i m worry about myself i want to be mental satisfaction. please tell me nay solution sir, I will be very thankful to u.
-muzammil
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Salaam Brother Muzammil.
Why not take matters into your own hands? Speak to your parents or family and express an interest in getting married. There is nothing wrong with that. Ask them to look for a nice wife for you. Having desires is completely normal but they must be channelled the right way - in marriage. Some scholars say that if you are struggling to cope with your desires it is obligatory upon you to seek marriage.
So ask them to look for a wife for you, get to know her within Islamic boundaries (with her mahram present- never alone) and if she is suitable then marry her as soon as you can. Dont waste time saving money for an extravagant ceremony.
In the meantime to avoid desires fast (do roza) as much as you can, especially on Mondays and Thursdays. Avoid anything which may incite you. Stay away from TV which has women who are not properly dressed. Avoid love stories or anything else which makes you feel these desires.
Move the computer to a shared part of the house if you can. (Where people can see you.) If this is not possible then dont use the computer in the evenings or when alone.
Do all your prayers and fast as much as you can.
Sara
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