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Assalaamu Alaikum,

I prayed it I got same feeling as him & I said I would pray it again. I have prayed it three times gave him the result got a good feeling he asked me if I was happy with the answer and Recently been exchanging several messages with this muslim guy of similiar age group. We have met before, fairly recently we started to text each other. Noticed he stopped. I questioned why. He said he prayed istikharah namaaz and maybe I should pray also. He said he didnt get any answer from it nor a good or bad answer.what happens next that I wanted to marry him.

I said for him to pray it again & he said he would. After few days I asked him if he had prayed it he said no but that he would. He basically had said he would only get involved if he got a positive answer. He prayed it again and he got the same answer as before no feeling nor good or bad. I said ok and he said is that the only thing that went through my mind ok and I should say qadar allah meaning I accept will of Allah. I said it wasn't my desired outcome and I was rather disappointed and sad by it. They say if you dont get a feeling you can repeat up to seven times. Its not based on dreams.

Anyway, it depends on him what he wants but my main question was did he want to marry me that is what I have been thinking all this time whether he is serious or not. He said it would be better if he counted on his istikharas to show him a sign than for him to start thinking if we can work as a married couple and then he asked do you think we can work? In which I replied who ever one marries you have to make it work if you want it to be a success bc if you dont it will fall apart.

To conclude I want to know whether this person is serious about me whether he wants to marry me or is he playing with my feelings.

~Ocean