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I daydream about being a Tik-Tok celebrity but my mom won’t have it.

woman ladyHi,

I don't know where to begin. I am a 15 year-old girl, and I am crying as I am writing this. I am crying because I have a condition called maladaptive daydreaming. I imagine that I am rich and I am married--most of my daydreams are of me being married to a specific celebrity. I look like a celebrity too...sometimes I am a doctor, sometimes a tik-toker, sometimes an actress.

I can't study because I literally daydream all the time. I actually want to be a tik-toker when I grow up, so I feel there isn't any use of studying when I'm just gonna get married and become a tik-toker like in my daydreams. I don't do my homework, cheat on all my tests, I listen to music during class, and don't know a single thing that's going on in class. I don't know whats wrong with me.

Furthermore, I am a very bad person. I hurt my mother, after which she gives me bad duas. I curse her, even hit her once, I ripped the Quran once, I try challenging Allah, I turned from Islam because my mother doesn't let me wear the clothes I want, become a tik-toker when I grow up, or wear makeup like my other friends do.

I kept on asking Allah to make me a tik-toker or actress, and pretty, and that I don't want peace or anything else in life. I prayed for my mother and father to die so that I can become a tik-toker because they wouldn't allow me while they are alive. I'm not a good Muslim as well--I don't pray, masturbate, watch porn, and lie. Why am I so lost, depressed, sad? Am I crazy or what?

Tahreem


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  1. Yep, about the crazy part, you're absolutely right.
    Try to see a psychologist, maybe he/she can help you.
    Good luck!

  2. Asalamualaykum Tahreem,

    To me it sounds like you've just given up on everything in life because you feel like you are not perfect, make mistakes, and have one dream to the exclusion of all else. We all make mistakes...it's part of being human. But Allah forgives and is merciful if we only ask.

    To be honest, you should go after your dreams, but try to be realistic about it. Perhaps Tik Tok is better suited as a hobby and not your career. Your parents are guiding you the best they know how. If you are really serious about Tik Tok, you need to show them that you can pursue your dream in an intelligent way. I don't know what that means for you, but it may involve having to prove to your parents that this can be a moneymaker. Otherwise, do it as a hobby.

    Wanting to be on Tik Tok shouldn't mean that you just give up studying in school. You will need basic skills that you learn in school, such as writing, communication, thinking logically, etc. You need all these skills to have your own Tik Tok business.

    I don't mean to be sounding like your parents, but at the same time, I don't want to see you destitute on the streets. It may seem like a dream come true and an escape from all you dislike, but seriously, in a few years, there will be a new social media platform and Tik Tok will be old news. Just think about it, ok?

    Best,

    Nor
    IslamicAnswers

    • You're an intelligent girl, you understand where it stems from. Youre not a child , you have self wareness and you know what you need to change to become a better Muslim and human in general.

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