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I am 11 years old and have a crush! Should I tell her?


My name is Abdullah, I am an 11 year old muslim boy!

I really like this girl in school who is also 11 and muslim!

I would like to know if it is haram or halal that I have a crush on her!

But I don't really know how to tell her I like her,

Should I tell her, or keep it a secret?



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  1. Wa alaikum assalaam,
    It is good that you are seeking advice on how to deal with this situation.
    As a Muslim boy you need to be aware of the rule that you are not permitted to be friendly with this unrelated girl. The feelings that you have are probably as a result of the whisperings of the Shaytaan, who is always seeking to take us away from the obedience of Allah subhanahu wa ta'alaa and towards sin. So you need to fight against these feelings and save your energies for learning the Qur'an, studying Islam and worshiping Allah subhanahu wa ta'alaa with all your heart. Be aware that Allah subhanahu wa ta'alaa has prescribed a punishment in the Qur'an for men and women who have intimate relationships outside the bounds of marriage, and that Islam teaches us that we should not do anything that lies on the path the leads to this sin, for example staring or chit-chatting.
    The feelings themselves are blameless and Allah subhanhu wa ta'alaa will bring great reward for resisting them, in sha'Allah. Try to think instead more about good deeds that you can do to please Allah subhanahu wa ta'alaa.
    I hope this helps in sha'Allah.

  2. Assalamu Alaikum
    Crushes can not be helped but you have to try not to act on it. Acting on it is what makes it Haram. When you are ready to get married your parents can meet up and marriage happens. Inshallah this helps. Right now focus on reading Qur'an and devoting yourself to Allah.

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