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Jinn possession has caused my wife to commit adultery.

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Aselamu alejkum,

I need guidance, as it's been seven years that I am facing difficult situations with sihr, jinn, and jinn possession.

I am married and have two children. Sihr started as "sihr ar rabt" which is sexual issues on my side, but then it started to spread to other areas such as my social life and marriage. I wasn't praying, I wasn't fasting at the time, but Alhamdulillah Allah guided me: I started to pray five salah on time and started doing ruqyah.

My situation started to improve a little but sahir was a coworker who kept attacking me constantly and still does. To make a long story short, I suspected my wife was doing zina/adultery but I wasnt 100% sure...I always doubted and ignored these feelings but now it has become more clear to me that she is not on the right path. She is very secretive, manipulative, arrogant, disobedient towards me including adultery.

So now I believe she has had a very bad jinn inside of her controlling her.
I don't know to what extent jinn/sihr can control a person to become so far away from the deen, but she is very much obsessed about sex, she'd had very strong feelings and urges lately.

I called a sheikh to do ruqyah on her but she didn't react to this much except for saying she feels "lighter." I spoke to her family but they refuse to believe that their daughter is like that--instead, they call me sick, crazy, etc.. All the while I see her behavior getting worst! She refuses any kind of advice, is very stubborn, and an impulsive person. I tried to make her pray salah but she wont.

Please guide me! Should I divorce her? What should I do with this person who is causing me so much stress, so much suffering and my family and my kids too? I cant even look at her face lately--I found out the worst things about her, which is making the situation even more complicated!


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  1. Praise be to Allah.


    If a woman persists an immoral action and does not repent from it or give it up, even if the matter did not go as far as zina, such as if she had a relationship with this Christian man or anyone else, then it is not permissible for the husband to keep her, because that is a kind of cuckoldry (diyaathah), and cuckoldry is a major sin, because of the report narrated by al-Nasaa’i (2562) from ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There are three at whom Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, will not look on the Day of Resurrection: the one who is defiant towards his parents, the woman who imitates men, and the cuckold.”

    Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa’i.

    The cuckold is the one who approves of evil conduct in his family.

    Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah be pleased with him) was asked about the one who came into his house and found a stranger with his wife, so he gave her her dues and divorced her by talaaq, then he went back and reconciled with her and heard that she had been found with a non-mahram man.

    He replied: In the hadeeth from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) it says that when Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, created Paradise, He said: “By My glory and majesty, no miser, liar or cuckold will enter you.” The cuckold is the one who has no protective jealousy or pride. In al-Saheeh it is narrated that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The believer has protective jealousy (gheerah) and Allah has protective jealousy, and the protective jealousy of Allah is that no slave should do that which is forbidden to him.” And Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “The adulterer — fornicator marries not but an adulteress — fornicatress or a Mushrikah; and the adulteress –fornicatress, none marries her except an adulterer — fornicater or a Mushrik [and that means that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan or idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely, he is either an adulterer — fornicator, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater). And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an adulterer — fornicator, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or idolatress)]. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers (of Islâmic Monotheism)” [al-Noor 24:3]. The correct scholarly opinion is that it is not permissible to marry a zaaniyah (a woman who commits fornication or adultery) until after she has repented. The same applies if the wife commits zina: the husband has no right to keep her in that case; rather he should leave her, otherwise he will be a cuckold (duyooth). End quote from Majmoo‘ al-Fataawa, 32/141


    If the woman has repented, turned over a new leaf and is living a righteous life, and she has cut off all ties to that non-mahram man, then the husband may keep her, and perhaps Allah will reward him for treating her kindly and concealing her sin.

    We have stated that it is not permissible for him to keep her as his wife if she committed zina and has not repented from it sincerely, and we stated that if she repents and turns over a new leaf, then he may keep her and conceal her sin, if he has the patience to do that. What we have said about it being permissible to keep her if she repents is not obligatory for him, rather it is up to him. In all cases he may leave her, because zina on the part of the wife is extremely abhorrent and most people cannot forgive that. And if he divorces her, then he is not responsible for what she commits of sin.

  2. Aoa ,

    There are lot of things to un-pack here , the person above me gave quite good advice in the light of islam and you should definitely research more about it.

    Ok lets see, you were facing sexual issues on the start of your marriage but later got better and you even have two children with her. Her on the other side(according to you) she made you suspicious about cheating/zina during the time you were experiencing sexual issues. she is also disobedient , manipulative and arrogant. She doesn't seem like a good wife to me from what you have mentioned.

    Have you tried to get an imam or islamic counselor to talk to her or even yourself , have you tried to confront her about her actions. If so what was her response , were there any improvements or did she just ignore it?

    About the jin scenario , i dont personally think that a jin is making her do any of these things rather she maybe just maybe be blaming jins for her actions.

    So now the advice ,
    I think you should firstly try to tell her , convince her and if it doesnt work then separate yourself from her and in the last instead of hitting it would be better if you divorced her and let her go her way and pray to Allah to guide her.

    You also said you discovered such things that has made you so bitter/disgusted that you cant even see her face to face so let me tell you that the damage is done here. And it will be for the rest of your life.If you forgive her and she repents , you still might get flashbacks and remember glimpses of the past.

    In the end i would like to say , just do what you think is right for you and your children. Mental peace is very important. If you decide to take the plunge then i pray to Allah to help you along with it and guide you to happiness.


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