I want a dua to keep my abusive man
Attracted to abuse
Assalam u aleykum, Dear sir,
This is eram khan, 24 years muslim girl. Sir I'm in relationship with my boyfriend.
He is very angry man. He got angry on very little little things and start hitting me up. I just want to know: 'Is he a right guy for me to get married'.
And plz send me some powerful dua to make his mind claim.
Plz, I requesting you and waiting for yours reply.
Thanks
Eram khan
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Salaam Erum.
No you should absolutely not marry this man! If he is hitting you now I dread to think how he will be after marriage. Run far far away from this man as soon as you can. Do not listen to his excuses or his sorry or his I will change. I pray that you open your eyes before its too late. Look at the posts on this site under violence/physical abuse and you will see many women who are living in misery and who are battered and who have long term health problems due to an injury their so called husband gave them. Or you will see traumatised children who have seen their mother beaten day in, day out. Or broken women who do not know how to trust and feel so alone.
You are young, you have your life ahead of you Alhumdulilah do not make a choice that will ruin your life. Think with your head not your heart. Even if you feel you love him, get out. With time you will not care about him. Dont tell your man your leaving just cut off contact and keep away from anywhere he is likely to be. If you have to go out, never go out alone. Bring someone with you and if he does get violent if you bump into him somewhere call the police!
Another point sister - having relationships before marriage is a big sin in Islam sister, whether they are sexual/physical/just emotional. Do not have such relationships again. Leave your man, turn to Allah and ask Him to forgive you. If you dont do your prayers regularly start doing your fardh prayers only and work to get closer to Allah. Ask Him to protect you.
Also there is no dua to change this guy. We have free will. Your dua should be to ask Allah to protect you and guide you and give you a husband in the future who will love you and treat you well.
Please read this article on duas to change people:
http://islamicsunrays.com/stop-trying-to-change-others/
May Allah protect you.
Ameen
Sara
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Salaam,
Sister having a boyfriend in Islam is harram first. Second, he is not a right person. Any man who hit a woman, is not a good man. Leave this relationship as soon as possible, and repent to allah.
Dont get married with a man who do not have morals, do not practice and who do not have respect for women. All of these are warning signs.
Dua will not help this guy, he need to take his anger somewhere else like boxing not you. Stand up for yourself, love yourself, make a right desicion by leaving him and inshallah allah will give you a good husband in near future inshallah.
There are some desicion you make in your life will determine your future, therefore making a right desicion is very important. The desicion will either make you happy or cry for the rest of your life. may allah guide all of us ameen.
Dont marry him !!
Dear sister,
First of all the sisters who have written above have given good advice no doubt, but nonetheless you should pray to Allah. always start your Dua with thanking ALLAH and doing Tuaba Istigfhaar, Pray 5 times a day thats a must.
Then you pray the following Dua as prescribed by our Holy Prophet SAW when one is having worries and problems in life. They are truly effective and i have prayed for same reasons.
"LA HOUALA WALA QUWATTA ILLA BILLA HIL ALEEYIL AZEEM"
"There is no power and no strength except from Allah, the Most High, the Most Great."
Holy Prophet SAW saya that these verses are one of the treasures of Jannat and hence they are quite powerful
If you want to find out this man is right for you or not, please do an Istikhaara properly (find out the process from an authentic source)and ask Allah should you marry him or not. You will find out that if there is any hope for you with this man in future coz only Allah knows id you really want to find out.
Recite Ayat ul Qursi all the time on yourself. you will be safe from any harm InshAllah.
You can read Ya Wadoodoo 1000 times and blow on water and give that water for him to drink and yourself also thats for creating better relations between people, but its more appropiate if you were married to him, that halaal way.