I like someone related to me. Should I do Istikhara?
I like a someone who is related to me, he is the first boy I liked and all my life. I did my best to impress him.
From my way of being to my looks but I fear I am committing zina so I thought I should make istikhara and if it comes right.
At least I will feel better because my intentions are good but I am afraid I might meet other men in future and by then it will be too late because I have done istikhara already.
What should I do? I am aged 18 And still need to finish my studies, alima and psychology and only then I want to get married
-aini
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Salaams,
You never mentioned how this boy is related to you. Knowing that is important to the answer. Presuming he is eligible for you to marry, you can feel free to make istikhara if you are feeling unsure or want to confirm you are making the right choice in pursuing him. However, doing istikhara doesn't mean you can't pursue other men at the same time or at a future date. Doing istikhara is a guidance, it's not something that locks you in to a choice. Also, knowing who you want to marry, and even making plans to marry someone, doesn't mean you have to actually have the nikkah before you're ready to. If you pursue this relative, and he agrees to marry you, there's nothing wrong with postponing the wedding until you are finished with school. However, you must be mindful that any interactions you have with him during that timeframe are according to the sunnah.
-Amy
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Walikum assalaam,
Amy is correct in what she has said. Doing Istikhaara for a certain person doesn't mean that you are stuck with them and can no longer consider anyone else. It is but a guidance. And if in fact you are guided away from that person, then you should consider others.