Will zinaa be forgiven if I marry him?
I am a Muslim girl who has been with a man for almost a year and a half. We are sexually active. I always knew it was a sin... but a few moments ago I found out that it is the biggest of all sins. I know all I can do is ask Allah for forgiveness.
But my main question is, I intend on marrying this man in the near future InshAllah... will these sins performed with the same man be forgiven if I end up marrying him?
- Sister Kay
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Asalaamualaikum,
Alhumdulillah that you have realised the enormity of this sin.
Sis, as far as my understanding and knowledge goes...your sin will only be forgiven through sincere repentance to which there are conditions.
Marrying him is a totally different issue. It won't change the fact that the sin has been committed. Even if you marry him, you will still need to do tawbah. if you repent sincerely, Allah will forgive you my dear sister...
Please read below:
The essentials and conditions required for Tawbah
Tawbah is not accepted from one who merely declares, "I repent." There are a number of conditions that must be fulfilled before the acceptance of Tawbah. These are mentioned below in the following hadith:
It is narrated that someone said: Astaghfirullah (I seek God's forgiveness) before Imam aAli (a). He said to him. "May your mother mourn for you! Do you know what istighfar is? Verily istighfar is a degree of the 'illiyyun (people of high station) and it is a word that means six things:
- First is remorse over the past.
- Second, the resolution not to return to it ever.
- Third, to return to creatures their (formerly usurped) rights so that you meet God Almighty in a state of purity in which no one has any claim against you.
- Fourth,that you fulfil every duty that you neglected in order to satisfy your obliga.tion in respect to it.
- Fifth,that you attend to the flesh of your body that has grown on unlawful nourishment so that it melts away as a result of grief and mourning and your skin adheres to your bones, after which new flesh grows in its place.
- Sixth,that you make your body taste the pain of obedience in the same way as it earlier tasted the pleasure of sins. When you have done these things then say Astaghfirul.lah! [Nahj al"‘Balagha, saying # 417]
This noble tradition mentions two prerequisites for Tawbah (remorse and resolution), two important conditions for its acceptance (returning the rights of creatures and of the Creator), and finally two points for the perfection of repentance.
You can read more about Tawbah here:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/tawbah-in-islam/