I need a dua to get married to the boy I want.
"Allah is the Protector of those who have faith: from the depths of darkness He will lead them forth into light." Quran 2:257
Assalam-o-alaikum,
I am a Muslim girl. I was a Muslim before but only by name. I am 17 years old. Two months ago I met a guy. We were fellows. He proposed me but I rejected he insisted a lot and so I also had some feeling for him I accepted. I dont what happened to me after meeting him. Today I want to prevent all that deeds which are haram in Islam, i.e: listening songs, behaving bad to parents, not having perfect hijab etc.. But now i follow the ways of islam i try to do all which are my duty as a Muslim.
I talk to my love in chat but I even want this to stop as in Islam it is haram. I dont want to do this sin but I can't live without him and so we cant get married or engaged now because we both are too young according to our custom. Please help me what can I do and also my love is also not in this country where I am. He is in the neighbour country.
1)- What can I do?? Help ur sister
2)- I want a dua to get engaged (nikah) with whom I love. I am a 17 year old girl and I love a muslim boy. we talk only in chat nothing more but again it is haram in Islam so I want him lawfully and legally because we two love each other a lot we can't stop talking but it is haram so thats why I want to get engaged with him. If I talk about him to my parents they would not accept because they think I am too young now.
So, I want a dua please.
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Rida Zahra
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Dear Sister,
You may not like the advice I give you but I do think you should listen. 17 years old is a very tender age, and sometimes we think we want something, but in the end we find out we really don't. I have no idea where you are from, but if you haven't met him in person yet, then I highly suggest you do so before telling him you will get married to him. People can lie about who they are online, and that is why the face-to-face is so important before making a commitment. And I'm pretty sure you're allowed to listen to music and watch movies, as long as it doesn't interfere with your prayers and such. Someone correct me if I am wrong
Asslamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakathuhu brother
You can listen to music if there is no sound or drum,piano as the Prophet forbid us from listening to drum,musical instrument.so think of any song that doesnt have sound.THINK twice.also the time use in listening to it should be spent praising Allah subhana wat'ala. Praise Allah subhana wat'ala,one get reward but doing what is unlawful one will be punished..
Hope you got the answer..
Dear sister,
Allah is all know, all hearing, all seeing,....HE SEES THE UNSEEN, HE KNOW THE UNKNOW..SO DEAR SISTER ASK ALLAH....OH ALLAH, i beg you the good through Your knowledge and ability, through your POWER, and beg your FAVOURS OUR OF YOUR IFINIT BOUNTY, YOU HAVE POWER AND I HAVE NONE, YOU KNOW AND I DONT KNOW AND YOU ARE THE GREAT KNOWER OF HIDDEN THINGS AND UNSEEN. OH ALLAH IF IN YOUR KNOWLEDGE THIS MATTER BE GOOD FOR
-FOR MY FAITH
-FOR MY LIVELIHOOD
-FOR THE CONSEQUENCES OF MY AFFAIRS,
THEN ORDAIN IT FOR ME AND IT EASY FOR ME AND BLESS ME THERE IN..
BUT but BUT If IN YOUR KNOWLEDGE
This matter be bad
-FOR MY FAIT
-FOR MY LIVELIHOOD
-FOR THE CONSEQUENCES OF MY AFFAIRES,
then TURN IT AWAY FROM ME AND TURN ME AWAY THEREFROM AND ORDAIN FOR ME THE GOOD WHEREEVER IT BE AND MAKE ME PLEASED AND HAPPY WITH IT
PLEASE DO THIS DUA AFTER 2 RAKAT OF NAFAL AND RECITE THE DUA ABOVE
I DID THIS KIND OF DUA AND GUESS what .....i was engaged with a girl that i love and we are supposed to get married in 3months..but for somereason the marriage got cancel..and 5 months later i got married to a sister that i dont but ALLAHADULLIAH I M EXTREmly happy and peace with her.....
ALLAH IS GREAT ..WE JUST HAVE TO MAKE GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR CREATOR...for that ..1st we must make toba and avoir all sins...major or minor ( btw there is no minor or major) a sin is sin..........it is better to do less amal and no sin then tons of amal with some sin.....
bref, SISTER ALLAH ....HE KNOWS YOU BETTER THAN ANYONE IS THIS WORLD.....AND HE KNOWS EXACTLY WHAT IS GOOD FOR YOU...
MAY ALLAH GUIDE US ALL..AND MAY ALLAH SWT MAKE IT EASY FOR YOU AND GIVE YOU MORE REALIZATION. AMEN. remeber us in your dua..
- you may recite abuntaly...hasbi allahu wa nikmal wakil....or dua yunus-
may ALLAH ACCEP YOU- AMEN
here is site that i visit for question and it is one of the rare good islamic site
http://www.askimam.org/
Salams brother "seeking divine guidance Istikhara",
Jazak Allah for helping the sister; brother may I request you to please don't write in capital. If you want to highlight anything important; please use Bold (B) and Italics (I) button on the top of the comment window:) I hope you follow this rule next time.
Waslam,
Muhammad1982:)
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
Salam to all,
I am 22 year old girl. I am in love with a guy 5 years ago.I wish to get married with teh guy whom i love.With the consent of both our parents. My side parents was against but by taking time they realized they are OK with it. My brother is yet to be. But Now the problem is His side parents are not agreeing. We both are Muslim, we are from same country, same state only district it different. I need you support by giving me the powerful dua I n which I want to ask Allah to give me him as mine. I can’t think about a life without him. Please give me a dua in Arabic in which I can recite & kindly advise me how many times and how to do the same.
Please reply me back through ma email. Plz respond to me at the earliest.
I need this to be worked out i need to be happy after happening this. So please find me a dua. Plz..
Please reply at the earliest.
Thanks a lot .
With prayers
Ziba
Ziba, please read the answers already given.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
can you please advise me what is durood shareef..
You mean to read the comments from this page itself?
And in between the situation of the said & mine is different. Could yo please advise me please
dear sister i am also with same situation but my love left me to cry every time , please recite darood shareef sallallaho alaehi wasallam
So what should i do..m 22 nd had been in a relationship nd aftr a yr somthing went wrong between us..nd he left..its been 6 minths of oyr breakup..v both belong to muslim families..and i truely wants to marry him..and continuously praying to allah also for the same..bt tmi dont knw why the situation between us is getting more worse then evr..here in some othr confession someon replied that allah had already made your partner with whom your gonna marry and will live the rest of your life together..and i also know allah always do good for us..bt what if u want to marry someone else..you love someone else..do your feelings or your convincing to allah to give that guy to u..is this all just a wastage of time? I am praying to allah with a belief tht one day..whn a perfect time will come he will give me the love of my life..allah loves us 70 times more then our mothers does..so dont you think if u can convince your mother on earth..then you can convince allah who loves you 70 times more then her..and will give you emwhat u want...
Plz do reply
Mariyam, my advise will sound a little bitter but if you go through it’s few times then you will understand what I am talking about, I also loved a girl and we were together for like 8 months I used to thank Allah for the beautiful gift and I promised her that I will marry her one day, but she dumped me. I was hurt really bad it was like the worst days of my life, then I realised that there is a reason she left me because she is not suitable for me and I deserve something better, same is your case my sister pray to Allah and thank him recite “shukar alhamdulillah” because Allah saved you from trouble and inshallah maryam you will get married to a boy whom you would love from all your heart the only thing you need now is “SABR” and getting close to Allah may Allah help you ameen
Wasalam sister Rida,
Sister, I will be honest here with you that I don’t think you are quite ready for this committment. The reasons are many but mainly that you are just 17 year old and you have known this brother for only 2 months. Although, Islam encourages us to marry as soon as possible to avoid falling in Zina (Physical or else) but there are certain conditions which should be met. First and foremost that you are still not mature to decide about such a life changing decision; secondly if he was serious he should have come to your parents to ask for your hand rather than proposing you in person. This is very immature thing which is happening quite a lot and is on the rise resulting in pain and suffering in most cases. Remember sister, we live in the times of fitnah and our eternal enemy (satan) is ever strong but alhamdullilah if we follow the Quran, Sunnah and obey the rules that Allah (swt) commanded us to follow then we can avoid this.
Apart from that have you thought about your study and career? On one hand we can say that it was Allah (swt)’s blessing that this brother came into your life and by the grace of Allah (swt) changed you in many good ways. However, you must realise that shaytan is always plotting to de-track people from the right path. Now that you have changed and started to follow Islam then you must also tell this brother that Islam strictly prohibits relationships of any kind before marriage. You should cut all the contact with him such as chatting, calling, texting etc etc as these acts all lead to one path which is the path of destruction. By following our emotions/feelings which lead us to sin; we not only suffer in this life but also jeopardise our akhirah by going against Allah (swt) and teachings of HIS beloved Prophet (BUH).
Sister, it’s not a question of what is right according to your custom besides it’s about realising whether you are ready to take this big step in your life. Once we get married; it’s more then what we see in movies; it’s real life with responsibility, making sacrifices, facing different challenges and making right decisions. I will suggest you to inform your parents about him and see what they say; listen to them carefully as they have your best interest in their heart. Don’t just get carried away with emotions; and this fairy tale idea of love and blah blah blah because it takes more than that. If your parents agree then ask him to come and see your parents with family; even though if he is in other country. I am sure if everything went well between the parents from both sides meaning if they agree and are satisfied with their children’s choices then they will be able to find a way to get you both married.
Some scholars have mentioned that it is good to make the Qur'anic du`a, "Rabbana aatina fi'd dunya hasana wa fi'l aakhirati hasana wa qina `adhab an-nar." [O Lord! Grant us good in this life, and good in the next, and save us from the torment of the Fire] (Qur'an, 2: 200), intending a suitable and righteous spouse with "fi'd dunya hasana" (good in this life).
Also, you can make the same dua that Musa (AS) made to invoke Allah (swt) when he wanted to get married which is;
Rabbi Inni Lima Anzalta Illayya Min Khairin Faqeer.
Translation: - My Lord! Truly, I am in need of whatever good that you bestow upon me. (28:24) {This dua was made by Musa AS to get married}
Also sister I would say that make slat-ul-Haja (prayer of need) and Insha Allah HE (swt) will bless you with whatever is in your best interest.
I wish you good luck sister and I hope you do as I have told you; which is informing your parents and limiting your contact with this brother and at the same time realising the responsibilites attached in making this commitment. May Allah (swt) protect you and keep you on the right path. (Amin).
I hope other commentors will shed more light on your issue and advise you if I have left anything in the light of Quran, Sunnah and Hadith Insha Allah.
Waslam,
Muhammad1982.
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
How much raqat should we pray for salat-ul-haja
Salaam sister,
🙂
if the guy is not ready to come and ask for your hand now, then pls let him know that u cannot continue this online before marriage relationship with him. Purely, because this relationship will take away ur innocense but most importantly it is considered unlawful/haram/disliked in the sight of ur Creator-Allah(swt). We are here to worship Allah (swt) in any way we can. So by u giving this guy up for the sake of Allah (swt), inshaAllah He will give something/someone better than it/him.
Pls dont let this guy to compliment u and flirt/joke with u! And same with u dont compliment nor flirt/joke with him. Dont make any promises with him!!! Don't build any memories with him. U need to preserve all this special moments inshaAllah for ur husband only!
Your family is not involved- pls dont lie or do this thing or anything behind their back. The guy is not ur mahram. He is not your husband. He is not lawful to u nor ur lawful to him! Pls sister look after urself!!!
You are young. Pls focus on studies, learn more about Allah (swt) and His perfected deen (u just dont just need this knowledge for urself but also ur children one day inshaAllah), spend ur time with ur family and spend ur time with ur
friends, coz once u get married ur life or every girls life changes so much more than a guy's does. Marriage life I believe it is beautiful yet carries so much responsibilities....
However, if u both are well serious, then let ur families involved and make them understand that u r 100% ready to do nikah with this guy (though u only know this guy for only couple of months and even that over the net!!!- it sounds a bit tricky and risky). And if ur family still disapproves then pls be kind and break this pre-martial relationship as it is not welcomed in Islam. And yes, most probably it wont be an easy thing to do for u but u have to. If u care about ur hereafter, then u will fear Allah (swt) and u will break all contacts with this guy. It is not halal.
Sister, pls look after urself for a lawful relationship- marriage!!! Dont share anything with this guy or any other guy before marriage, even if they sound promising...
Wish u well.
x
Salam,
I do agree with the advice above. Personally, 17 for me was too young to be thinking about marriage - I would suggest dissolving this relationship, and focussing on your studies and aiming to achieve all your goals and aspirations. If however, you believe you are ready to get married and understand the commitments and compromises associated with it, then get your family involved. I would strictly advise you to refrain from talkign to this guy online, without your parents knowledge and without having met him. Family input will not only protect you, but if he is a genuinely decent guy, it will give you the chance to get to know him in a halaal manner and give you the chance to make an informed decision about whether he is compatible for you or not.
Hopefully my advice is of help, and please also read carefully the advices given above.
All the best 🙂
Assalaamu alaikum sister,
Nabi (sawlallaahu alayhi wa sallam) has said:
“Youth is a branch from madness” . How true is this saying!!
We all wanna get married at one point or another in our youth,but the question we should sit down and ask ourself is " Are we ready for it??" Are we ready to bring up kids in the way described in the life of Nabi (sawlallaahu alayhi wa sallam)? Are we ready to be a wife(or husband-dont wanna discriminate here!) through every single hardship in life.Are we ready to solve problems as an adult in the 'real' world. I use the term 'us' because I'm also 17 as you are and many a time feel the same way.
My Mum always says:" Trou is nie perdekoop nie" ( which loosely translates to 'Marriage is not just buying a horse') and "Marriage is not a bed of Roses",which is true. It can be extremely rosy before marriage,but changes after more often than not. The problem,I believe,that leads to the break up of many marriages is that we ourselves do not understand who we are and the purpose we have in life. And if we do,we do not have the skills to aid that understanding. We have forgotten the Sunnah and go against the teachings of Islam. Its all good and well to just get married,but what guarantee is there that it will work out? Are we mature enough to deal with a divorce? With or without children involved? It worries me that he proposed to you after just two months of chatting to you! There are really bad guys out there who wouldn't think twice about using a girl the way they like(and likewise with girls). Dont let the proposal fool you,he might not even be talking the truth to you for all you know. If he is so serious about you,tell him to go ahead and tell his parents to make a call to your parents and propose officially - and then you do your homework and check his background out! If it actually comes to this,dont be bias but have an open mind. You think you know him- perhaps someone knows him BETTER.
Marriage is a commandment from Allah Ta'aala and is a contract between you,your husband and Allah Ta'aala. If he is meant for you,Allah Ta'aala will make a way for him to come to you without you engaging in haraam. If he is not meant for you,why are you talking to him? Why are you giving away a part of your heart to someone who you will never marry? If a marriage begins on Haraam,what can be said about the rest?
Assalam-o-alaikum... my name is saba and I m 21 years old sunni girl, I love some very much and wish to marry him, I pray to allah daily to give me my love but need some dua so that I can get his love and marry him as soon as possible. We both are from good family our parents will also agree if he loves me. but he think me just like friend..pls give me some dua so that I can make him love me and marry him and keep him happy forever.
Pls reply asap..
Saba, Walaykumsalaam,
You cannot make someone love you. 'Love' is not a feeling that is forced. It comes naturally through respect and admiration. Stop wasting your time and instead make dua for Allah to give you a spouse who is good for you in this life and the next and to make you content with it.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam.. V both are sailing in the same boat sis !! And same like u I have also changed ma self .. Started my namaz and quran.. I can help u a lil though !! Read surah fateha 100 wid 3 times darood shareef !! Both when u start the surah fateha and end it .. Wid that what ever jayaz dua u have will insha allah come true .. And after every esha namaz 11 tyms darood shareef and surah ekhlas 100 times and again 11 times darood shareef!! And pray with the name of the person u want to marry !! This will surely help u sis !! As its the same thing I do to be with guy I love .. N v also chat !! Haven't met either !! ALHUMDULLIAH ma mom n every one have excptd him !! But m scared about ma father !! So I pray to ALLAH and ask him to grant my married life with ma love !! I hope my suggestion helps you.. And .. Yes read fajar and tahjoot namaz .. That too would help ,, becum a namazi 🙂 .. INSHALLAH u ll get ur love .. AMEEN..
It is always good to recite ayahs from the Quran, but we shouldnt recite them or any duas a certain number of times ritually, unless the Sunnah or Quran state so. There are however some duas and ayahs that our Rasool(sws) would recite a certain number of times every morning and evening, if we follow this then we are abiding by the Sunnah and it is a good thing. Please see this link for those duas/ayahs and the hadith for evidence of the Sunnah:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/dua-in-islam/morning-and-evening-dhikr-part-1/
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
salam..
thank u so much rumana.... even am in the same track....
thanks sis
Can u please tell wt is dis durood shareef..Please reply
SALAM SISTER ZIBA,
I am also a 17 years old girl, and this is an interesting thread.
I THINK MAYBE YOU ARE A NEW CONVERT TO ISLAM, BUT DAROOD SHARIF= ALLAHUMMA SALLI ALA MUHAMMADIW WA ALA AALI MUHAMMADIN KAMAA SALLAITA ALA IBRAHIMA WA ALA AALI IBRAHIMA INNAKA HAMIDUM MAJID. ALLAHUMMA BAARIK ALA MUHAMMADIW WA ALA AALI MUHAMMADIN KAMAA BAARAKTA ALA IBRAHIMA WA ALA AALI IBRAHIMA INNAKA HAMIDUM MAJID.
"O Allah, let Your Blessings come upon Muhammad and the family of Muhammad, as you have blessed Ibrahim and his family. Truly, You are Praiseworthy and Glorious. Allah, bless Muhammad and the family of Muhammad, as you have blessed Ibrahim and his family. Truly, You are Praiseworthy and Glorious".
The famous companion of the Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam), Hadrat Ka'ab bin Ujrah (radi Allahu anhu), narrates that once it was enquired from Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) as to how blessings should be sent to him. The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) replied that the blessings be said in the manner (it has been mentioned) above, that is, Durood-e-Ibrahimi.
salam EVERYONE,
how are u all?
tell me the duas we can marry to a person to whom we love.....
i love someone from my deeply core of heart.....and am in a search of any powerful dua that may help me to get my love.....i wanna marry her and want to spend my whole life with her....
she also loves me too much...and my parents are agreed to marry with her but her mother doesn't agree bcz her mother decided to make her marriage in their relationship...from the time of childhoood may be....
we love eachother toooo much but she is saying that her mother will never being agree for our marriage......
plzzzz kindly reply me soon.....
Shehroz
Shehroz, I'm quoting from SisterZ's comment on this page:
You cannot make someone love you. 'Love' is not a feeling that is forced. It comes naturally through respect and admiration... instead make dua for Allah to give you a spouse who is good for you in this life and the next and to make you content with it.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Aslkm!
meri age 26yrs h aur mere liye 4yrs se proposals dekh rhe h kahin koi bat nhi ban rhi h, Mai ladkun se hamesha dor rehti hun pr last few months se meri dosti ek ladke se Howe Mai usse pasnd krti hun aur usse shadi krna chahti hun, Wo ladka b mujhko pasnd krta h pr shadi k lye 3yrs wait krne k lye keh rha h mujhse, aur lst 2months me 2tyms brkup liya ye keh Kr k uske pas tym h aur 3rd tym wapas aya aur keh rha h k Mai wait Karun uska 3yrs tk, hum aj tk mile nhi cuz Wo out of country rehta h ab insha Allah Aug me India wala h aur mujhse milna chahta h, Mai bht pareshan hun sunch Kr k kya krun. Meri shadi usse hogi ya nhi Allah hi behtar Jane pr Mai usse mil Kar badme shadi nhi howi usse to sharminda nhi hona chahti, islye meherbani krke mujhe koi wafiza or isteqara bataye taake Mai Jo decision lun Allah ki marzi se lun or allah ki marzi se hamesha raazi rahu life me kbhi pachtawa na ho...
Jazakallah
Wa Alaikum as Salam,
Zaib, perform two rakaa'aat and read the dua of Istikharah which you can find in the menu at the top of this post. Also remember that meeting him without the presence of a mahram is not allowed in Islam. And I would suggest you to look for another man instead of waiting for 3 years for him to return. If he does not return, you would despair further. For this reason, if you marry someone else who is righteous and God-fearing, now, you would be happier in sha Allah. But for this, you will have to forget this man and cut all contact with him.
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Abu Abdul bari
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"Rabbana Hablana min azwaajina wadhurriy-yatina, qurrata 'ayioni wa-jalna lil-muttaqeena Imaama"
Above is the best dua for getting married ,,, inshallah ALLAH will help us all
assalamu alaikum,
i am a muslim girl and i am 21 years old. nw marriage proposals are coming, recently a guy's proposal came, both the family want to fix this relation. Me too like him a lot after talking to him. He too told he like me.. but now the problem is he feels like we both wont match . i really really wanted to marry him.. so please please please suggest me a dua to get him as my life partner.
Allah has already written who your spouse is going to be. Therefore make your relationship with Allah beautiful and strong and He will send the right person insha'Allah. If that brother thinks that you both aren't compatible then nothing would change his views. There is no dua to get someone as our life partner. We can just ask Allah to grant us a deserving pious good spouse. Your spouse may/may not be that brother and so you must seek Allah's guidance. So dua Istikhara is going to help you insha'Allah. Therefore pray salat al istikhara and insha'Allah you will be guided. If that brother do not wish to marry you, you must once and forall forget that brother. Do not put your feelings high for him, though its normal to desperately wish to marry someone, it is unhealthy.
thanks a lot brother. I understud yo word. Bt stil i can pray to god to get him naa... I hope allah wud giv me the best.
Always hope for the best from ALLAHswt! 🙂
Actually u can make dua for anything as long as it's not haram or break family ties! Anything is possible for Allah
Get educated on dua begore u speak
ASLAM O ALAIKUM Sir, i m 17 years old sir meri ek larke se kuch maheeno se bat ho rhi hai wo muj se sucha pyar krta hai (remaining part of the question deleted by the Editor)
marya,
Please login and submit a question separately and we will answer you in turn in sha Allah.
Abu Abdul Bari
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Salaams I am 22 years old and I have a guy that I have been. Seeing for 4years now however he is my brothers friend as well can u please help me I need a dua for my parents to accept him and agree to us gettin married especially my father he wants to brings his parents in december please brothers and sisters help me I really love the guy his not rich but his heart is as rich as gold he cares and supports my family a lot I want to spend the rest of my life with him
naazneen, just pray and ask Allah from your heart to bring you a good Muslim husband. If the guy is serious, he should not delay a formal proposal. He should come with his family right away to make a proposal.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
praying to marry someone u love is jayaz or najayz...???
Assalamu alaikum. I m a girl who has been loving a man for more than 9 years.i was not at all interested in Islam earlier.bt trust me,the man whom i love is a religious one.His life made me to love him n trust my Allah,not his physical appearance.coz Allah has done wonderful magic in his lyf.so I realized then how kind Allah is n he can do wonders.since then i've been praying to Allan to make me his wyf.such was his lyf!i tried almost all the prayers to achieve my aim.i dont mind to work hard for it.bt now my parents r searching for a boy for me.i trusted Allah so much that He'll grant my dream to me.bt my parents r searching for a boy want me to get married soon.here what should i do?pls help me.coz my mind is not allowing me to forget my 9 year old love for another person.pls help this sister...
Saleema, if he was really such a religious man he would have come to your parents properly and proposed marriage, instead of being involved in a secret relationship with you, which is not allowed in Islam. You had nine years to try to marry this man properly but you did not. Now it may be too late. The only way to find out is, as I said, to let this boy come with his family and propose marriage.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam..
I love a guy.. I am 17 years old... He is my neighbour.. He live infront of my house. He cme
There in2009...
We strtd talkng in 2010.... He sed he lovd me but by tht tym
He woz jst lying... Aftr an year he revealed the truth.. But we still remained frnds... How
Ever
Aftr an year, he really fell in love with me... And i was also sure because the way he acted had made me sure.. He will go abroad aftr a month... So we both were thinkng if we cud fet engaged... Plus he has a really strict
Family... He talkd abt me to his mom bt she said tht she doesnt like me because i inly thnk abt myslef though ita not true... I always cared for him... She has just met
Me twice... And moreover we cant tell our families tht we talk to each other because other wise we will be kicked lut of our houses...
I really love him and he has givn up on me
Because he loves
His mom... Can i make a dua to Allah to make his mom like me...
Can i make my destiny chnge and let him b my husband... I am really attachd to hm and i
Cnt live wid anybdi else... 🙁
Sister Fiza! Assalam O Alaikum,
As he made it clear to you that he isn't interested in you, not to mention that it's not Islamic to have relations with someone of opposite gender. You can certainly pray but you can't make someone love you especially someone who has informed you of their decision. Instead concentrate on your studies and pray to Allah (swt) to help you move on and bless you with what is best for your Akhirah as well as this temporary dunya. Please save yourself, thank Allah (swt) for this opportunity to leave this haram relationship, ask for forgiveness in this blessed month which won't be with us for much long. Hope I have helped; if you need further help please log in and write your question as separate post and it will be answered on it's turn iA.
Muhammad1982,
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
But he wants me... Its actually his mom who doesnt like me and he will not do anythng against her decision
hii sis,
salam.....pray well...alllah will be with u..........dont go in a haram way...........make ur days flourish with swalath.....go with thahajjud......its my experience...
Salaams,
I stumbled across this website whilst searching for duas like everyone else here.
I am in love with my cousin. I have loved him for a few years now and my love has grown a lot deeper recently.
He has no idea that I am even interested in him and he probably wouldn't even consider me as a possible spouse.
Is there a specific dua which I can read which will help me achieve the status of being his wife in the future?
Ruqqaiyah, there are no guarantees. People have free will. Your cousin may choose to marry you, or may not. I suggest that you simply make dua' to Allah every day to bring you a good Muslim husband who will live with you in mutual joy, and trust, and love, and will strive with you for success in the dunya and aakhirah.
Wael
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It's admirable how consistently you give a clear Islamic answer every time. Even when people aren't ready to understand it.
Thank you so much. I really appreciate your comment, jazak Allah khayr.
Wael
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Go watch every lecture on dua! Anything is possible and Alkah is waiting to hear our DUAS! It's ok to ask for someone to marry you thru DUAS! Allah says be and things happen! This is nothing for him
i am in love...
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Salam...
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Asalaamualaikum waraghmahtulahi wabarakatu dear Muslim sisters and brother.
Wa alaykum as-salam sister Aeysha. Please search our archives for questions similar to yours that have already been answered. If you don't find any then you may register and submit your question as a separate post.
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Dear,
I am loving in guy from past 3 years v decided to marry
v both are Muslim but his family not agreeing they came
to my home twice but they said no my boyfriend he is very
upset & decided to brake up but I am unable to leave without
him unable to take any decision please help me by giving effective
duva Allah will give u rewards for this n blassing for my heart
til I die please help to get him back kindly revert to my email
I'd I am waiting plz
Thanks,
Asiya
Asiya, first, you ARE able to live without him. Your heart will keep on beating, and in time the pain of your disappointment will diminish.
However, before you give up, perhaps you could ask your parents to visit the boy's parents and discuss it. What are their reasons for refusing? Maybe they can be persuaded.
If they do not change their minds, then there is little you can do and you must accept it and move on with your life.
Wael
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Dear weal,
Thanku so much for responding my message they will
never agree for this relationship Allah bless u thanku once
again...........
Thanks,
Asiya
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Asalam Alaikum...
Ahmed, I deleted your question as you must register and submit your question as a separate post and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah. Thanks.
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Assalamu alaikum.. Um maha um 20 years old ... Have a lovable one who is also 20 .. He is 20 days older than me
I was a simple girl .. Didn't had any boyfriend Bt I have a friend who is really amazing.. He does everything what Allah said to do. He encourages me in a lots of ways .. And alhamdulillah I m now doing hijab fully... We love each other so much Bt know this is gunah .. So we want to get married...my mom likes him Bt his mom thinks he is too young... We want to have a legal relationship. . We can't stop talking or meeting cz we studies in same institution..
so what should I do .. Can I have a dua .. Which will help us to be together"? Pls tell me sisters .. Allahafez
Salaams,
He doesn't need his mother's permission to marry you. If he's 20, he's old enough to make his own decisions. If he really cares about you, he'll find a way to marry you as he should, regardless of what his mother thinks.
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Assalamualikum.i am 20 years old.i fall in love.the problem is that my parents are not agree with him bcz due to i love him.he also love me alot.his parents are agree with me but my parents not agree with him.plz plz give me powerful dua to agree my parents.plz plz plz give reply soon.
You need your parent's permission to marry. A dua will not change their mind, duas don't work that way. Why don't you try to talk to your parents and understand why they are objecting? If they still don't agree, you can ask your older brother or an uncle to convince them.
assalaamu alaikum va rahmathullahi va barakaathuhu
I love my class mate nd we are trying to marry is islam is support love marriage??. what I do for our succes? I can't live a second with out her . amd plz pray for our succes may allah bless us all ...... assalaamu alaikum
Muhammad, wa alaykum as-salam. 1. There is nothing wrong with having love for the person you will marry, as long as you do not cross the boundaries of halal and haram. 2. Yes, you can live without her. The only things you cannot live without are food, water and air. 3. Tell your parents and let them approach the girl's family with a marriage proposal. This is the proper way.
Wael
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thanks for your advice
I need to ask you that I was in relation for 1 year then he left me ny saying that he is not in love. He was just telling a lie and now he dont want to tell more lie and hurt me in the end. So he left. I also hear about his many affairs. Actually he left me for not to hurt me in future bcz he don't me love so he can leave me in future but i am too attached with him. i want to marry him. I want to get him through duas. I want him to realize my love and come back. As Allah says that I will give you whatever you want. And people says that If Allah don't listen us it meanz it is not good for us but I want to ask Allah that if he is not good for me them you make him good for me as Allah can do everything. can is this happen? Please suggest me dua also
Sister, I suggest that rather than trying to change the man, you accept what he told you and move on. He doesn't love you and he was honest about that. You're not going to change that. People have free will. Allah will not take away this man's free will by forcing him to feel something for you.
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I love a boy n in future I wnt 2 mrry him..so plz tl me a dua so tht my wishes r fullfilled within 4 /5 years ..The boy is also muslim ..n vry gd...I jst wht him cnt live without him really vry imp
akima, dua is not a magic pill or a some kind of computer program. My recommendation to you, instead of focusing on one person, is to ask Allah to bring you a righteous, kind husband, no matter who he might be. And yes, you CAN live without that boy.
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sallam sir i do really love with a girl we met 7 years ago on a chat messenger .. it is not possible for me that i could forget her and there is no way that we could be one . so i wana forget her plz suggest me something that wot should i do? JazakAllah -o-kher .
assalamalaikumwarahmatullahi wabarakatuhu ............how old r u sir ??
urooj, why is that relevant?
Wael
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its because his story is same as mine
Assalamu alekum...sorry name I provide z not real...i m 21 year old muslim girl.....i love a boy...we use tlk abt evrything earlier bt now he didn't talk to me coz of sum misunderstanding or sum what I didnt knw abt...
I really love him nd cant forget him ...nd coz of dis I got depressed nd to fight dis depression I do lots haram thing like watching movies listen song Evn I tried to commit suicide nd more thing...evrytym whn I do sumthing wrong like dis I thought to not do it agn bt den frm nxt morning I agn got started doing dis stupid thing...plz hlp me...
I dont wnt to do dis SINS nd if possible plz suggest me sum dua to mk my love back in my life...
When you miss him don't listen songs or avoid doing any other kind of sin, do offer namaz, differnent dua's, late night TAHAJUD and pray for your further life. Boy who leaves let him go he gonna regret later. Everything happens for good. He left you it means you deserve someone better than him. Take care
aslkm.....
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Trust me, he's not the one. If he was, hw will be, break all contact with him. He is just time padding and using u, if u feel it is haram , if u cannot share it with ur parents,it's ur gut feeling telling u to move on, I hv been through it, trust me. He's not the one !
I think you should talk to your parents how could you say your parents won't be agree with it if u didn't talk to them yet. They surely agree clear your point infront of them. You guys do NIKKAH both will be mehram for each other. All you both need to do just to console your parents. God bless you both.
Hi everyone, I am a 17 years old muslimah. When I read this article I found many answers applying to my situation. But I still want to ask you guys, please help me. I am in love with my cousin who is the same age as me, he obviously is muslim as well but he is not really aware of his deen nor does he know how to pray properly. We are grown up together and live in the same city. We see each other quite often. I confessed my love to him some weeks ago and he said that he liked me too (through chat). Since then we haven't really talked.(as we used to chat sometimes, but just about school and stuff) But I don't want any haram relationships or anything else, I want to make this into a halal relationship. I know I am too young and I am not ready for marriage, but I am concerned about my future with him. I also know that his parents want me for their son, but the problem is that I am afraid of not having a islamic future with him, as he doesn't really know anything about islam. My question is, is it wrong if I try to change him as a good muslim? If no, then how do I do it? Please help me!
Aliyah, no one can change anyone. It's up to Allah to change a person's heart. I don't think this boy is a good match for you. The only reason you "love" him is because, as you said, you see each other quite often. It's human nature to become attracted or interested in people that we see regularly. You need to make an effort to stop seeing your cousin, so that you can get him out of your mind and end your infatuation with him. Be patient. Someone better and more compatible with you will come along in time, Insha'Allah.
Wael
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I think you're right Wael.
thanks for your help, I really appreciate that and I will Insha'Allah try to see him less.
I guess it was just a period of time that I felt I needed someone, but I will be patient insha"Allah, I will find someone!
jazakallahu khair!
Vannakam Ji, I and my mother found a guy for me, for my marriage but there is some problem in our jathagam (rasi and nakshatra) so that guy and his parents rejected me. I love that guy but that guy does not love me. He said that "i will marry you if and only if jathagam (rasi and nakshatra) matches otherwise i will not marry you." I don't know what to do i want to marry that guy only, he should only be my lifepartner, husband, best companion.... I request you to give me the prayer for miracle to happen in my life to marry that guy only in any situation please..... I believe you a lot....
I dont belive in love...
Salaam
so im actually 23 yrs old. Im so concerned about my life. I fell in love with this guys it almost 2 yrs. Im sunni and he is shia! He also loves me but the thing is he doesnt believe in love. So i really want to get married to only him no one else. Before anyone is judging me is there any dua to get married to him. I dont want anyone to give me advice or judge me.
No, there is not.
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assalam-o-alaikum iam a Muslim girl iam 21years old I love someone in true heart and he also like 3 years we know and love each other who I love he have some issues in his house we cant get married so there family memebers dont accept our love so pls give me the dua which I can marry with him and there family accept us plzz reply me soon as possible I cant live without him plz help for this
Salaam.
I am a girl on 25 years, this summer I met a boy who I like very much, he knew I was going to move abroad because of my studies, and I will be here for some years, we decided that my studies wouldn't get in the way and that we should get married while I was studying, but now I have lived abroad for over a month and when I told him that everything was ready and that day has arrived "I’m moving now", he changed his attitude towards me,
I know that he is scared for the distance between us, I know that he like me, I want to marry him, I know he also want that, but he is intimidated, I want a wazifa /dua that things will be fine/ better between us, that our relationship will be as strong as it was before I left, and that we get married soon as possible, please help me, tell me what I should read and do.
Thank you!
There is no such wazifa or any specific dua' for what you are asking. Just make dua' to Allah in your own words to grant you a good marriage and remove the obstacles from your path.
Personally, I think it's not practical or fair to ask someone to wait years until you are available.
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asslam o alaikum.
Please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah.
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salaam
im rajani im hindu girl and im loving muslim boy we are loving from 4 and half years bt both of us our parents opposed our love and from that day my boy he avoiding me coz he dont want to leave his parents for the sake of our love bt i cannot stay without him im feeling to die bt he is telling nw he dnt hv any feeling on me if he marry me also he dont love me itseems he is telling like dat, bt i can never stay without him i want him badly r else seriously i vl die i dont what to do pls help me i want him, and his name is sajan plsssssssss help me
Thank you
Rajani, a Muslim cannot marry a Hindu. It is not allowed in Islam. Whether or not you can marry this boy, be assured that you will not die without him. You will survive, and in time the pain will go away and you will find a good man, God willing.
Wael
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no it cannot be possible to survive without him becuase i already once attempt for suicide bt at that time again i survived just for him bt nw its impossible to me. and its not possible to marry some other boy , why its nt possible to marry hindu girl so many of them hv married know why not for me pls help me
im begging you pls say anything wt i can do for marrying him coz in his family they are trying to find a girl for him pls help me i can't stay without him pls help me
why dont you convert to Islam.
assalamu alaikum
Am Javeria ,25 years old the boy which am loving is muslim from past 6 years we know each other and 3 years back he proposed me and i accepted , he was good to me in all the matters but when topic come to marriage he says we cannot because he don't have courage to face his parents, now suddenly his telling marriage is going to fix in 6 months , what i should do in this matter , i cant leave without him and forget too , because of him i have changed myself even i converted for him from hindu to muslim am now am following the muslim principles, so what will your suggestion in this matter
Javeria, if this boy was serious about marrying you then he would not have let three years go by since his proposal. Try to find yourself another nice Muslim boy you can marry and let this one go.
Wael
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Wa-Alaikum Assalam,
Dear Sister,
Pray for Allah and perform the Namaz. And if you can perform the tahajjud. if he is better for you then Allah gives you, if not better for you. Allah give you better then his. who are caring, loving and etc.
i hope you will understand.
i pray for you And kindly Pray for me....
I love 1 girl but she never accept my proposal my age is 25 and her age is also 25 but now u say what can do i told her so many times but she ignore me u pls tell me what should do now
Nouman, move on with your life and find someone else, Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Im 25 and my father has agreed me 2 marry the guy i love but wants me maaried in 4months but the guy needs more time and my dad does nor allow what dua can i do that the guy agrees for nihka to be done in 4 months. Please help me im really stressed the boy also loves my and wants to marry me but has some issues that father of mine wont understand
salam i need ur help
Salam to all,
I am 28 year old girl. I am in love with a guy 5 years ago.I wish to get married with teh guy whom i love.With the consent of both our parents. My side parents was against but by taking time they realized they are OK with it. But Now the problem is His side parents are not agreeing. We both are Muslim, we are from same country, same district.but he has no job.I need you support by giving me the powerful dua I n which I want to ask Allah to give me him as mine. I can’t think about a life without him. Please give me a dua in Arabic in which I can recite & kindly advise me how many times and how to do the same.
Please reply me back through ma email. Plz respond to me at the earliest.
I need this to be worked out i need to be happy after happening this. So please find me a dua. Plz..
Please reply at the earliest.
Thanks a lot .
With prayers
Nahida
Am in the same situation we were talking about the marriage in 6 month to come but due to small understandings he has blocked me everywhere .but according to that is not bothering me much...I want to stay away from haram...we remains quite but God brings his Rehema....and get married to my man...plz I need your help
Asalamualaikum.... Mera naam shazia hai mai 19 years old hoon...mai apne cousin ko bauhat like karti hoon aur wo b mjhe like karta hai hum dono nikkah karna chahte hai...lkn problem ye hai k wo mjse 6-7 saal bada hai...lkn wo bauhat acha hai aur bauhat religious b hai aur usney mjhe bauhat saare gunahon se bachaya hai...mere ghr wale abi mere nikkah k lye tayaar nai honge bcz they think i'm too young...bt according to our religion and law i'm young enough to ge married....aur wo apne ghr walun se tabi baat kr skta hai agr mere ghr waale ready hai..lkn mai apne ghr walun se ye baat nai keh skti due to some family issues...n i luv him a lot and we don't want any haram relationship so we want to get married...maine aap k kai answers mai padha k aap ne bola k aap zaroor uske bagair jee reh skte ho jise aap pyaar krte ho....lkn zinda rehne aur jeene mai bauhat farq hota hai...mai b apne czn se bauhat mohabbat krti hoon uske bagair zinda rahun gi lkn jee nai paon gi....plz mjhe kch aisa wazifa dein k mere ghr waale khud hi mera nikkah uske sath kara dein....plz...plzzz.....reply me soon....
Allah Hafiz...
I want the dua for my lover doesn't have the strength to share our matter to his parents he is thing that his parent will loss the trust which they have on him but he loves me more than i love him so please dear sister/brothers to help me .
Thank You
Asalaam Alaikum, i am 23 years and i would like to know if it is acceptable for a woman to get married to a man who is a brother to the wife of her maternal uncle.
auleria, there is nothing wrong with it.
Wael
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Saalam ,
My name is Mallika (wrong name ) i love a boy he is Muslim and iam Hindu we are in love and he accepted to get me married even iam ready to change my religion , but now he says me to marry some one who but how can i forget him and marry some one as iam expecting he will change his mind and come to me by understanding my love but till now he is same iam not able to do anything to make him marry me as listening to parents words i never says it is mistake but atleast he have to give preference to marry me but now he says will listen to parents words i will marry a girl who ever my parents selects .please tell me what i have to do to bring my love earlier love back and how i should make him to marry me through dua as we both are colleagus working with the same company ..
Dear fellow brithers and sisters,
I have been in love and in a relationship with a man for five years. He is my first love and although we have done haram we always wanted marriage. The problem is culture I am Bengali he is Pakistani and is father is strongly against this which is why he has given up as he is tired of fighting. I need a good dua and advice as to what I can do to marry this man and change his mind please
Salaam..
I have been in a relationship for 4 years now. He is my best friend and we love each other alot. We really want to get married as soon as possible just to avoid haraam relation anymore. We want to get bound in the pure matrimony. We both are 23 years old. And we are from different cast. He's Punjabi and I'm Urdu Speaking.
My parents surely like him and they agreed for the marriage but they want his parents consent as well. His parents don't want us to get married as I'm not tall enough and my color complexion is not fair and that I don't live in a very place. He's 6ft and I'm 5ft and he's fair in color.
He has been trying to convince them for 5 months now but they are complicating things for him such as not talking to him, always taunting and insulting him, cursing him, don't invite him to any parties or gatherings, leave him without food so that he has to cook food on his own. They also threatened him that if he'll marry me they'll cut him off from their family and won't fulfill the rights.
He had already agreed to give everything up but they are still not agreeing for the marriage. And my parents won't let us marry each other if his parents won't bring the proper marriage proposal.
We love each other so much that all we want is to get in to Nikkah. We don't have any wrong intentions all we want is to get into a Halaal Relation.
What should we do to make it happen?? I badly need someone's help. It's too difficult to even think of living without each other..
Someone please help... all I do these days is crying because I don't want to loose him... He's the only best thing ever happened to me.. :'(
I am 27 years old .always obeyed my parents and financially helped them whenever required .but suddenly one morning refused and take roti from my hand ,iron from my hand and said not to eat,not use annything due to a finacial matter.i was very much dishearted and fighted with him .now he refuse to talj to me .even at that time my brother was with me now he is also against me ,before this i experienced that if someone interested and want to marry me a sudden change came in situation and dverything ended but i took it normally .after this incident i am much worried
Plx help me...i'm 18 yrs old....i don't know from where to start but i'm so much worried...i have an home teacher he is also young he is 28 yrs old...i like him a lot..he likes me too bcuz he says you're too beautiful but he don't want to get married he just want what all guys want...but he treats me so good he's so goodlooking..we are so much attracted to each other and i think the reason is beauty bcuz we both are beautiful..i know its wrong but we hugged n kissed...i love him a lot n i want to marry him plx tell me what should i do..n the sad part is we've only a few days to see each other bcuz soon my college's going to end n then he would not come to teach me....n the thought of not seeing him again shudders me....plx help me..i could not do anythinh bcuz i'm all the time worried that he'd go n won't be able to see him..plx help me
esha, you should break off your relationship with this man completely. It's a good thing your situation is changing and you will not see him anymore. This guy is only playing with you. He has already told you that he doesn't want to get married. If you continue to allow him to play with you, he will destroy your reputation, use you and then move on, leaving you only with shame and regret. A man who respected you and truly cared for you would not play with you like this, but would come to your parents with a marriage proposal.
Wael
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But we never talked about getting married buy i knw he would not marry me…if he wanted to marry he would have said…i want to leave him too…but you know i m so much lonely no one is there with whom i could talk he is the only one who talks with me.i’m alone i really have no one…i do not have a good family life my father is very abusive both physically n mentally ..he uses such language for his own daughters that even no good man’d use for other girls.he used to beat up my mother n still threatens to do this..n my mother she even don’t have time for me or understands me…in all thia fruatration he came into my life like a spring how could i not fall for him he is the only one who shows affection towards after the long tirying n heart breaking day…i always longed for love cuz till childhood i ve never been loved…i know he also don’t love me but atleast he treats me so lovingly that i couldn’t resist..buy the sad part is even he does not love me n i know that…i always asked Allah to give me someone who loves me but still i have no one..i’m just so much sad…i could not sleep at night n i couldn’t do any thing all the day just bcuz of this saddness that no one loves me or even cares for me i feel so much rejected n now i’m worried he would also go.away frm me leaving me all alone n i’m so muxh horrified…i don’t know what to do…i know he’s no good for me…but what should i do i have no one else in this whole world that could even treat me nicely…but now he’d also leave me all alone
I'm so much worried and confused i don't know what to do he is the only person i have in my life who treats me so much lovingly....i never had love or even a good life
..my father is very abusive both physically n mentally...he uses such language for her daughters that even no good man'd use for other girls..he used to beat up my mother n still threatens to do that...n my mother she also don't has time for or understands me..i all this frustration he came into my life like spring than how could not i fall for him..he is the only person with whom i can talk after long tirying n heart breaking day..no other person ever listens to me even if i cry....he only talks to me in a loving way everyone else treats me so much rudely..n its till childhood no one loves me i always longed for love n prayed to Allah to give me someone who loves me but there is no one to love me..i feel so much rejected n depressed...he also even don't love me n i know that but atleast he treats me kindly..but he'd also go away frm me leaving me all alone..n i'm so much horrified...again there ll be no one left to with whom.i could talk...i don't even have many friends as i m very shy to talk to people...n he is the only guy i've ever known n the only one with whom i got this much close...but now he'd also go away...i can do nothing to make him stay bcuz now that college's going to an end...i've just 11 days left to see him i don't know what i'd do after that...i couldn't sleep at nighy n could not anything in the morning bcuz of this sadness that no one loves or even cares for me n he'd also go away frm me again..i'm so much horrified
Also we haven't talked about getting married..but i know he won't marry me bcuz if he wanted he'd have said..n moreover he says marriage is a serious thing n a pretty face isn't enough for getting married to someone.he says he'd marry with someone with whom his mental level match n these kind of things he says and he says pretty face is only a plus point in marriage not an essential part..what should i do know
I have already told you what you should do.
esha, I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you've had in life. But in your loneliness and need for approval, you are reaching for something that is no good for you, and will only cause you more pain in the long run. You are like a child who has never had a toy, then she sees a snake with a colorful skin and reaches for it, wanting to play.
Be patient and trust in Allah. Someone better for you will come along eventually. Someone who would actually actually return your love within the bonds of marriage Insha'Allah. In the meantime work on yourself. Study hard, eat well, exercise, and build yourself into a stronger and more confident young woman.
Wael
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I'm so much sad...i knew he is just time pass but the things that hurts me the most is whenever we talk on text mesages n after he says all thoes loving things that how much beautiful i look or how much he wants me or i should say after he says all thoes flirtatious things he always ask me to delete them so that i someone ever find out thoes coversation we won't get in trouble..he want to keep even no proof of our relationship..it hurts too much..
Yes.you're right this is all what i can say
Salam,
Why don't you ask him to ask for your hand in marriage?
Bcuz he won't marry me..n i'm afraid to ask him this question...i don't want to cry if he says no...if he wanted to marry he won't have touched me without getting married but he is just passing his time with me i know but i love him so much he is the only one i have in my life...its too difficult to let him go also
Asalawaliakum
Wa alaykum as-salam. Please register and submit your question as a separate post, thank you.
Wael
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I told you a few months about relation with my teacher and i said he won't marry me,but now he said that he wants to marry,but the problem is with our families,we belong to two different castes i've no problem with this thing neither does he but our families especially my parents won't let this happen,and secondly my parents would have also a problem with the thing that he was my teacher and in our society uts not considered a good thing...what to do,we really want to be together
Assalaamualaykum esha,
There are no castes in Islam. Your parents are in the wrong. If they don't marry you because of this, then you may have reason enough to get married with an Imam present as your Wali. However, please note that if you do this, then depending on how your parents take it, you may not have the best relationship with them. Ultimately though, we strive to please Allah. Not everyone will like it, and when a parent or other family member doesn't, it's very difficult. So you have to weigh the pros and cons depending on your knowledge of your own parents.
Hugs,
Nor
Apart from caste difference problem the major issue will be that he was my teacher,and my father once clearly said to all of us siblings that i won't any kind of love marriage and if any of you do it i would never allow anyone of you to step into my house and i'm afraid if i get married without their consent may be his(the guy i want to marry) parent won't except me and what if he then leaves me
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Assalamo alaikum sister... I m also a Muslim girl n I have also been in a relationship with boy for more than three yrs... I had got the same feeling when our relation was started but then n then by time things got chngd the softness of the love got disappeared though our love not neither our relation but still I m in a condition where I really want to undo my mistake done by me 3 yrs ago but now its too late fr me for I have already done sumthng which should not have been done n I can't chng the scenario even if I wish to do it...it's my personal advice to u that give tym to ur relation let it grow a bit more atleast a period of 3 yrs coz then only u can make it clear that whether u really want him to be ur man or not I don't know whether its right or wrong from the view of Islam but I knw loving and having a relation with sumone without getting married at an adolescent age is not an easy consent..
Zaina
From islamic point of view it is haraam and sinfull to form relationship without marriage .Your advise is wrong .
I m sorry man I was just telling her not to be so early to judge a male
This post is priceless. How can I fіnd out more?
Assalamu'Alaikum..
I am Arif Ameen...
I loved a girl..
Inshallah even she wanted to live with me..
I wanted a Dua....
That... We should not.. seperate from each other.. until our last breath...
Inshallah.. dua karo ki.. ham dono zindagi bhar khushi se rahe... Aur ek saat rahe...
Inshallah......
Shaik, are you making dua' for a halal marriage? If so, what steps are you taking to make it? And if not, then your dua' is useless and void.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamualaikum warahmathulahi wa barka tu!
This message is for all boys and girls posting there problems!
See dude if he/she comes and proposes you what garenty do they give you? Sweet sweet words like in some stories huh? You people trust such things? Huh?
See if he/she comes and proposes you just tell one thing to them so that you won't get hurted or be in such problem!
Tell him/her who proposes you to first tell there parents that they love someone, and tell them to show your pic to there parents, say them until unless there parents don't accept you, you will not trust them. If the he/she is really interested in you will turn up to you with positive answer and make there parents talk to yours. If they din turn up wallahi!
You are in save position and escaped from haram!
See for the ones who already went through bad situation you can ask for two things from Allah
1) either to get married to the person you love in halal way or,
2) To give you SABR
See nobody has seen tommorw so you wait for it with SABR right? To see tommorw.
Be the person! With attitude and live your life!
Die only and love only for Allah more!/
Trust me world will say many things to you! Sometimes bad and good seeing the outer behavior!
Trust me Allah is the only one who understands you best then others.
No matter what sin you have committed.
The judge (Allah) is sitting up and he's wanting you to go ask help from him, just place one step and he'll rush for you till the door! He's the mercyfull!
Don't underestimate his power!
At last we all are loved ones!
So chill and ask your duas from him and always stay happy 🙂
Don't care anyone!
Care only Allah
Love him!
Make him friend (:
I swear you feel relaxed
Bcoz you need only his help in this world
Don't give damn for people who trouble you! be the king and queen
Respectively precious and rare!
Trust Allah only!
And
I'm just 19.
Jazak Allah khair
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Masha Allah... 🙂
Asslamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakathuhu brother
My name is hina fiaz and am 21 year old. My family are forcing me to get married to a person which which i dont like, theh guy is not very mucb educated and not i think not right person for me to be with. I need help if yoi can advise me or send me any dua to read.
Thank you
I luv someone...for islam i left him by making duas to allah ..my allah accptd my dua..but now i m feeling so disgust ...i cry alot i made duas to allah to bring him back bcoz i miss him i.becoz i want him back but nthng is hppning ..i pray 5 waqt Nimaz ..nd also Tahajud....i have a gut feeling like want me to wait ..allah wll give him to me but at a perfect time...i trust my allah alot ..i knw allah wll comp my wish
I really do like your work brothers you are helping our teenagers to move on the path of Allah Ta'ala. Good Work Keep Going Like this.
Plz can anyone tell what will happen if i don’t pray nawafils i’ve asked for in case my wish comes true?will something bad happen,they are so many n i don’t even pray obligatory prayer regularly how can i pray them,i knw its wrong but plz tell me?if i ask for forgivness if i don’t pray thoes nawafils which i promised will Allah forgive me?or can any one else pray them instead of me?
asalamu alaikum i am 21 yr old muslim girl.. i want one specific person as my life partner.. there is no feelings from dat person towards me.. just childhood frnds.. and now no contact since we belong to the same age group.. as islam doesnt allow dat kind of relationships.. bt i really want dat one person in my life.. wat wazeefa i can do to get him as my better half..
I am 21 years old.i am in love with a guy
It is going on .i can't think a life without him
In my all prayers day and nighting truely i am begging for a good life with him to allah.now my parents are deciding to marry me they were seeking for it pls give me a solution to overcome this situation.kindly pls help me