My Catholic girlfriend wants a baby with me
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Asalam alikum,
i have a catholic girlfriend from lithova. i am a muslim guy from PAK.
its true that i got involved with her just coz of papers thats what she knows as well, but i really love her she loves me too.
but coz of sum reasons like she dont like to wear hijab, she drinks, included me and she loves music as a profession.
im keep telling her about islam. i love my religion and hoping that she will be a muslima. but now i have a serious issue coz she want a baby from me.
what should i do? i dont want to leave her.
i tried to ask many people but couldn't get no proper answer. HELP!!!
- capri
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Salaams,
When we scratch away all of the tangling emotions that confuse a situation, we find that the answers are very clear. Following the right path may not be so easy, but there are very few instances in situations like these where someone can claim they really don't know what should be done.
Brother, your choice is simply this: marry her or let her go. I am not going to spend too much time getting into what is good or not good about marrying a Christian woman, but I will say that you don't seem inclined to marry her as she is. In marriage, we accept our spouses as they come. Many marriages fail because one or both of the couple believed they could change the other person to who they wanted them to be. Most of the time, that doesn't end up happening, and the divide between the pair becomes too great to ignore and the marriage ends up dissolving.
If you don't love her truly, or accept her unconditionally as she is, don't marry her. Walk away and start a new life, trying to work on unraveling the mess of emotions you've already entangled yourself in.
If you do accept her enough to take her as she is, even if she never changes, then marry her and be the best husband you can to her. Perhaps, insha'Allah, she will come to the truth of Islam in time. But if not, love her for what makes her valuable to you as she is.
Needless to say, having a baby out of wedlock is not an option for either of you. It is just as much against her faith as it is yours. So that desire shouldn't even be a factor in your decision at all. Chances are, whether she marries you or someone else down the road, she will more than likely have the baby she is pining for.
-Amy
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sallam
brother focus on ramzaan and forget about the world. Allah hidayat day app ko.
Allah hafiz
Brother,
Let me see if I got this right. You drink yet you love your religion. If you love your religion so much, make your parents proud and marry a good Muslim girl. Where are your priorities in life? You got involved with a girl because you want papers and now she wants a baby! She drinks alcohol and dances as a profession. Sounds like just the kind of girl you want to bring home to your mother...not. Wake up! This will be the mother of your children! To hell with the papers
i have a catholic girlfriend from lithova. i am a muslim guy from PAK.
its true that i got involved with her just coz of papers thats what she knows as well, but i really love her she loves me too.
but coz of sum reasons like she dont like to wear hijab, she drinks, included me and she loves music as a profession.
im keep telling her about islam. i love my religion and hoping that she will be a muslima. but now i have a serious issue coz she want a baby from me.
what should i do? i dont want to leave her.
What you are doing is basically smoking standing at a Gas station. It is recipe for disaster. Take a break! Don't mess up Love and religion. You may not get to read what you are looking for. No one out here in this forum is gonna say, oh! you wanna commit adultery and commit a Zina.. Sure why not? My flat is empty..be my guest.
First decide, are you a Muslim because you were born in a muslim family or do you really know the meaning of Islam?
See, if you are serious about islam, quit drinking. Period. Get your act together.
If you are serious about her, then get married too her.
If you serious about life, think beyond the horizon of papers.
My words might appear harsh .. But I'd to be unequivocal.
Smoking at a gas station, ha ha.
Wael
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Brother Farrukh,
I do not think the brother mentions that he drinks. It is the girl who drinks and he does not like it.
Muhammad Waseem
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Salaams brother Waseem,
I took it the same way you did, but there seems some ambiguity in his words "included me" after mentioning her drinking habits. Some readers have taken this to mean that he is participating in the drinking as well.
I personally am not sure how to interpret it and am giving the brother the benefit of the doubt that he is not engaging in the same activities she is, but Allah knows best.
-Amy
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Wa alaikum as Salam sister,
Yes, there's a possibility. Allah Knows Best
Muhammad Waseem
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Assalamualikum brother:
You know that you are not a normal person but a chosen, you are muslim. Your focus should be on succeeding at the day of judgment and entering the Jannah.
As a Muslim you can't make any girl friend. you can marry any ahle kitaab girl , but you should prefer the Muslim.
I advise you to leave her and you know that there is no way but marry if you want any relation.
Jannah is for you, and you should courage to sacrifice to get that. I assure you that this pa-keg is profitable for you.
If you want marry then you should put your all efforts so that she accept Islam before and after marriage, but you have to set example first as a good Muslim.
May Allah give you hadayah
God save Yusaf A.S from evil when the wife of king take him towards evil.
In Surae Yusuf Allah says that:
And she, in whose house he was, sought to seduce him. She closed the doors and said, "Come, you." He said, "[I seek] the refuge of Allah . Indeed, he is my master, who has made good my residence. Indeed, wrongdoers will not succeed.
"And she certainly determined [to seduce] him, and he would have inclined to her had he not seen the proof of his Lord. And thus [it was] that We should avert from him evil and immorality. Indeed, he was of Our chosen servants.
I m sorry if I did any mistake .
hope it will help you and increase your emaan
Thank you
Brother,
When you are behaving as a weak Muslim, how can you expect your 'girlfriend' to adorn hijaab, to give up alcohol, to give up her profession in music and then become Muslim? It doesnt make sense does it?
You have alot of soul searching to do brother. The month of Mercy is nearing in a few days, use it as a window of opportunity to turn back to Allah before you make more mistakes and fall into further sin. We are all going to leave this world one day, do you want to depart as a weak Muslim or a strong Muslim? Insha'Allah you will rectify your relationship with Allah(swt), you will walk straight and those who interact with you will not shake you off your path including this girl. Furthermore, it is completely wrong, immoral and sinful to take advantage of vulnerable women or any women to attain 'your papers'. Purify your intentions, and do the right thing.
SisterZ
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THIS! I often wonder how many stories are read before people post, because it's often the same permutation of a story over and over. You can't date like a non-Muslim and have all sorts of premarital relationships before marriage and then expect your spouse to don hijab, stop interacting with the opposite sex, and live up to what conveniences you. There is no compulsion in religion!
Legally marry her and take her away to more conservative culture.... This will help her to quit drinking and smoking