How can I pursue marriage with this girl?
Asalaamalaikum,
My name is Omer Farrukh and I study in Canada. I am 22 years old. I love a girl from childhood but she doesn't know. I am afraid to tell my parents that I love that girl and want to marry her. She is my far cousin. Her father and my father are friends but there minds does not meet. I saw her photo on facebook and now seriously fell in love with her. I want a clean relationship with her like marriage.
Please give me some advice. I will be really obliged.
Thank You
Omer Farrukh
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Salaams,
I can understand how nervous you are about this, but if you really want to make something happen you are going to have to start speaking up. I would start by letting your parents know and if they are understanding and supportive, they will be able to help you with finding out how she feels and so on. It would be wrong for you to approach her without their involvement, and saying nothing would accomplish nothing.
If you do tell your parents and they have misgivings about your choice, you will be able to hear their thoughts on the matter and be guided as to what to do. Being attracted to someone or even feeling that you are in love with them is not enough to ensure a successful match or marriage. It's a start, but there's so much more needed and ideally your parents with their experience will be able to help navigate you into a satisfying marriage.
Again, start by telling your parents. If you need to take a day or two to practice how to do so, then take that time. Just remember that "if you want the fruit to fall, you have to give the tree a shake".
Assalaamu'alaikum Bro
Alhamdulillah what Amy had said, its very true. So, courage bro n tok to ur parents. By the way the ending part of Amy is Fabulous...Masha-Allah!!!
Take Care bro
Over n Out
Ma'assalaama
I love a girl very much frm 4 years and she too loves me and she told her parents about me they dint told any thing to her but i got the information that after two weeks some one is coming to c her but i have not told my parents but i want to tell but the problem is i m of 17 and she is 16 and even i have a brother elder then me please tell me wat should i do please reply as soon as possible
Amankhan, please log in and write your question as a separate post. My short answer to you would be, talk to your parents. You are very young but if your parents agree they can contact the girl's family and ask for an engagement.
Wael
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lol you saw a photo of her now you want to marry her have you even asked her wali yet!
Dear Omar,
Salaam,
I think you need to tell your parents or involve a responsible adult and tellthemabout your feelings. Are you talking to this person on facebook.If you are you need to gadge whether they are thinking along the same lines or not. Looking at a photo, and saying you are in love,is not enough to make a successful marriage.
I do however applaud your sentiments in that you want to have a pure relationship, in the sanctity of marriage,but I would say please involve your parents and also that you are quite young.I think you should complete your studies and focus on developing yourself before you think of a marriage. This is a big step and a commitment for life.
All the best.
Allah Hafiz.
Salaam
I think you need to tellyour parents about this girl,if you are serious about this girl. Also perhaps the girl if she is able to,should tell her mother sister,or a female figure if she is serious about you and then you should go from there.
I will pray to Allah that all goes well for you, although I will say this much you are both quite young and you should both focus on your careers, and developing yourselves as good people and good muslims.
Please get your families involved.
Take Care.
Allah Hafiz.
Assalam mualaykum brothers and sisters
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