Istikhara For Marriage
Assalam O Walaikum
Myself: ********* *********** ********** father name (***** ***** ***** ****), mother name (**** ****) I like one girl her name is **** **** father name (****** ******) and mother (**** ****).
Plz we love each other and want 2 marry. Plz can you do istikhara for our marriage purpose plz reply soon waiting for it.
Allah Hafiz Assalam O Walaikum
~Rameez 1985
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Salaam Rameez
I or no other person can answer that question. Knowledge of the future comes from Allah swt Alone and NO PERSON, even if they say they can- can tell the future. So I strongly advise you to stay away from 'imams' or 'molvis' or any person who offers to predict a marriage. Brother this is shirk (Associating partners with Allah) as you are saying that people can have this knowledge which only Allah swt has. I hope you truly understand this.
However the Prophet SAW recommended that we seek Allahs guidance before deciding on a matter by reciting the Istikhaarah dua. This is halal and recommended if done the correct way, according to the Sunnah of the Rasool SAW. By doing this you are trusting Allah to guide you to the best decision, as only He (Swt) knows what is good for you. Your and this girl should do istikhaarah yourself. If Allah knows the marriage is good for you both He will make it easy for both. Please read the links on Istikhaarah VERY carefully and encourage your sister to do it.
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/salat-al-istikhara-the-guidance-prayer/istikhara-in-the-light-of-the-sunnah/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/salat-al-istikhara-the-guidance-prayer/power-of-salat-ul-istikhara/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/salat-al-istikhara-the-guidance-prayer/salat-al-istikhara-in-arabic/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/salat-al-istikhara-the-guidance-prayer/salat-al-istikhara-in-urdu/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/salat-al-istikhara-the-guidance-prayer/the-prayer-of-need-salat-al-hajah-or-istikhara/
Do not ask a sheikh or anyone else to do it. The person who needs it should do it. Also in future brother please stay away from getting advice from any person who wishes to know your familys names or date of births. In some cases people use these for magic. Another point is refrain from being in a premarital relationship with her if you want Allahs to bless your marriage with her and put love between your hearts. It a sin, even if you do not have sex - even just sweet talking is still a sin. So both make tawbah and make the relationship 'halal' until you are both married. This means you should not be meeting her when its just you and her. Her mahram should be present at all times and of course no touching at all.
Also make dua for to Allah for whats best for you.
I pray that Allah swt grants you with a pious spouse
Ameen
Sara
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assalam o alikum
my name is sohail ur rehman my mother name is shahnaz begum. i want to marry with tanzila nisar daughter of hashema nisar (mother name). family are allowed to marry me? plz istikhara me. thank you. plz reply me soon.
- Sohail
Wael's Answer:
Brother Sohail, Wa alaykum as-salam wa rahmatullah,
That is not how Istikhara prayer works. It's not a mathematical formula where you plug in some names and dates and star signs, and the machine hums and out pops your answer.
I was shocked recently when I came across the website of a so-called health care group in Pakistan that has an "Istikhara for marriage form" on their website where you enter the names of the prospective bride and groom, the names of their mothers, the birthdates including exact time and place of birth, and voila, they give you an answer! They don't even want to know anything about the situation, or the character of the parties, or anything at all except for names and dates.
Astaghfirullah! They have removed Allah from the matter altogether! They have replaced Allah with a formula based on names and dates. This is utter garbage and shirk, calling upon other than Allah for guidance. It is a big sin.
That is not istikhara, brothers and sisters! Istikhara does not depend on names and birth dates!
This practice is a holdover or carryover from Hinduism. Among Muslims, it is seen primarily in Muslims of the subcontinent (India, Pakistan, Bangladesh). These Muslims historically were converts from Hinduism, and they have continued to live with Hindus as their neighbors for hundreds of years. Many Hindus rely heavily on Vedic Astrology and numerology to make decisions, and among the main tools they use in their astrological calculations are names and birth dates. For example here is a description of the Hindu book "Numerology with Tantra, Ayurveda and Astrology" by Harish Johari:
"Indian Numerology" gives descriptions of the character and destiny of people. based on their birth date. It explains how to determine. the psychic number, name number, and destiny number;. how these numbers relate to each of the nine planets,. and how they apply to every aspect of life... "Indian. Numerology" gives recommendations regarding strong. and weak periods of day or year, favorable colors and. precious stones to be worn, and meditations and mantras. to be practiced for health and prosperity. "Indian. Numerology" also illustrates the Vedic Square and. the visual patterns that can be derived from it, (and)... on the interpretations of numbers and their relationship to one another.
It's not my intention to insult Hindus or Hinduism. They have their beliefs, and we have ours. We are not Hindus and we do not make decisions using numerology.
Islam considers all such things to be shirk and association of partners with Allah. This has absolutely nothing to do with Istikhara. In fact it is the polar opposite and it represents one of the primary differences between Muslims and mushrikeen (those who associate partners with Allah).
Correct Salat-ul-Istikhara Information
Istikhara is a sincere prayer that you make to Allah alone, in which you name the matter on which you need guidance, and ask Allah to guide you. It is a matter of turning to Allah with sincerity in your heart and then trusting Him to guide you to the best choice.
It has nothing to do with names, dates, numbers, planets, or precious stones. Nor is it necessarily a matter of getting a sign or a dream.
Please educate yourself about Istikhara by reading some of the articles on our website:
Istikhara Questions and Answers
Power of Salat-ul-Istikhara
Istikhara for second marriage
And Allah knows best.
If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, I invite you to post your comments below.
(O Allah), Guide us to the straight path; The path of those whom you have favored; Not those with whom you are angry; Nor those who go astray."
Rameez, I hope you realise from this answer how wrong it is to do istikhaarah in this way. Please if you can nicely inform others of the correct way to do it once you have learnt. We need to wipe out this haraam practice. We must do things according to the Qur'an and Sunnah. Consult Allah swt's Advice and also use our own judgement too. Is the person pious etc. Please do read the links on the comment above.
Sara
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