One sided love
I have loved a girl for the past 7 years. The shocking fact is that I love her without seeing her. Recently I saw her pictures, and at the same moment I decided to say thanks to Allah and I went to prayer. Mashallah, now I am more attracted towards Islam.
My issue is that she doesn't even know me. What should I do? I have a strong belief in Allah, and I left my matter to Allah, but Ialso said that I cannot stop loving her, even if I can't get her. I will lover her for the rest of my life. Will she ever have a feeling for me?
-Umar.129
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You cant love someone if you dont know her. First thing is stop looking at her pics. You ask would she have feeling for you? She doesnt know you so what feelings could she have?
One sided love without knowing that person is like a fantasy. You think she is so sweet, innocent like an angel etc but in reality she might not be how you imagined her.
Thats why i always say dont decide how that person is without actually speaking to them. The more you look at her pics the more attached you will be. So stop checking her profile.
peace..
Brother,
What is stopping you from asking her for her hand in marriage? She cannot possibly have a feeling for someone she does not know. If you continue to sit on the sidelines and wonder...some other man can and will come ask for her. Why wait?
Salam
I totally agree with above.
Ask for her hand in marriage at least this is halaal for you and there is nothing wrong by doing things the right way. You will have more respect for yourself and her family if you confront the issue of having feelings for her. You will only get to know her if you do the decent thing by asking her parents, wish you the best. Otherwise STOP checking her profile or DO something about it.
Dear Brother Umar129,
There is no love here, this is delusional. She does not even know you? The first and foremost question to ask you is: is this girl that you can physically reach? Second, how old are you? I want to make sure this is not those teenager love in the first sight thing. If you are old enough to get marry and IF this girl can be physical reached, then ask your family to contact her family if they are interested in you.
There is nothing called one side love and it is so unhealthy to you in every ways - psychologically and spiritually. Either ask or move on. Even you love her for the next 10 years, the reality is nothing will happen on her side.
Asalaam alikuim
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i love a boy but i think he does not love me so what should i do????????????