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I am heartbroken, overwhelmed and ashamed for what I did. Please help me I want my fiance back

I was engaged to a brother. We had the right intentions and were doing things in the correct way. No private contact, no private meetings. The first time we met alone, we both tried to get a third party but were unable to, and I was leaving the city so we ended up meeting alone.

My family won’t accept him, because he’s a European convert Muslim

I got to know a guy through Facebook in November last year. We talked for about two weeks, he seemed perfect even though we had never met and even though we only spoke for about two weeks. I live in Germany and he lives in Switzerland…

My mother and I choose a girl for me to marry but my father doesn’t approve. What should I do?

My father asked my mother to look for girl for my marriage. When my mother shortlisted the girl she asked me to meet the girl and wanted me to confirm if I wish to marry her. Once she confirmed everything she went to my father and he discarded the family without even meeting them. My mother categorically told me that she will not find any girl for me because my father has disapproved the girl she chose and she clearly told my father the same. I have talked to my father 3 times and he disapproved all my requests without giving me the clear reason. Since then my mother and father are not on the talking terms.

My friend is in not happy with his future in-laws as they don’t allow both to talk or see each other.

My friend saw her at a wedding a couple of years ago and wanted to get to know her more, so he messaged her on facebook, at first she was really rude to him since she doesn’t talk to a lot of guys, but after she got to know him they became friends on facebook, for almost 2 years they just talked online and after they started to get emotionally attached (online) my friend told her that he likes her and that he wanted to meet her parents to ask for her hand in marriage and if that would be ok with her? she agreed and she told her mom about my friend, and then her parents invited my friend to their house. Any ways, my friend did an istikhara and it was positive, his parents did istikharas and they were positive and even I did an istikhara for them and it was positive, and to my knowledge we are only supposed to do an istikahra upto 7 times and then trust it and not doubt Allah swt first guidance, why are these people doing it again and again and again for the same thing?

I want to get married but my parents think it’s too early for me. Please help me.

I really want to have someone in my life, a real muslimah that fears Allah and is a practicing muslim and serious about her deen. Im not seeing anyone or doing anything illegal that is out of the boundaries set by Allah. The problem is that my parents think it’s to early for me to get married, however they have agreed to trying to find me a suitable wife, but sometimes I just feel that I am burdening them with this request and that they find it hard to happen and a bit annoying. I have stopped asking my parents over this issue and I have totally left it to Allah and his will, and told myself that Whenever Allah wants,it will surely happen.

I want to marry him but his father refuses as I am divorced. Is it due to religion?

I am new to this site but I am sure that I can get my answers on this site. I am a 25 years old divorced Indian female and am currently dating a muslim guy. We get along with each other very well since we have been together for past 3 years. I have been divorced for 6 years now. Me and the guy want to get married and settle down but just because the divorced tag on my name has refrained us being together. He doesn’t have his mum with him and stays with his father and twin brother. We tried to talk to his father last year for us to get married but he refused due to me being divorced. I am not sure why he has said no to our relationship; is it because such marriages are not acceptable by religion Islam or is it something else?

I still love my ex and want divorce but my husband and my parents don’t understand this.

I wanted to marry someone else who I loved deeply. I couldn’t mention it to my parents back then because I knew they would never agree to it and also they will be very distant and sad because of me. My husband refused to dissolve the engagement because he thought I was being illogical or maybe because of social pressure. I can’t mislead my husband anymore. I can’t even tell him I love someone else. I got so frustrated just after one year of marriage that I attempted suicide. And now by the end of 2 years, I find myself on the someplace that I want this marriage to end or else I will do suicide again, the person that I used to love is still single and willing to accept me if my husband divorces me.

I have converted to Islam but my boyfriend is delaying marriage as he is convincing his family to marry me.

My boyfriend was guiding me to Islam and it took so long time(nearly 2 yrs to understand the beauty of islam) and then I became Muslim. We don’t work in same place any longer. He is either not willing to come out or he is getting scared to spend time with me. I understand that now he is staying with his family and it won’t be the same as earlier. I feel I have been rejected by him. I m ready to do anything to convince his family but they are not ready to accept me.

I want to marry him but my mother refuses because he is from a different tribe. How can I convince her?

I have been looking for the right man for many years. Now, I met him who has the personality and qualities I desire. I am a true Muslim. He is very devoute Muslim. Proposing marriage is so difficult because we are from different tribes. He wants to get married in a halal way, but my mom disapproved him because of his tribe. I want to be married to him because I love him. I don’t want to disrespect my mother because I love her to death but how can I make her understand this good Muslim guy, who prays five times a day and knows the religion better than me. What is the best way to make her understand and tell her stop being judgmental without disrespecting her?

Should I continue praying for the man I love to marry me or should I move on?

I wanted to marry a man from a different background and school of thought to my own; due to his past and cultural differences my family rejected him. When my father eventually came round he decided to do istikarah and informed me that he was no longer willing to marry me because of my father and small differences we had in the past. I’m in a bit of a limbo because on one hand I should accept his decision and move on but on the other I love him so and can’t move on he’s such a beautiful person mashallah. I sometimes don’t know whether I am right or wrong? Should I accept Allah’s decree and move on and accept the past is over or should I pray for our marriage?