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Want to be good wife and also make up missed fasts


1) Want to be good wife
Assalamualaikum, I am 23 years old and Iam married and have 8months daughter mashallah. I want to confess, I have done some bad things with my husband I lied to him still shukuralhumdulliah he gave me chance to become a good person. The problem is still he is angry with me well that's normal, and he said that it will take him 4/5 years to become normal with me. What should I do so that he will love me again like before? I did tawbah and now taking myself in Islam path, now I started to pray started to do hijab, made myself promise not to lie. Now in every prayer I ask forgiveness to Allah.

Will my husband ever be same to me like me before the way he used to? Need advice to peace myself.

2) I want to do the fasting which I havent done
Please help to how and when I can replace all fasting which I haven't done? I know it's not easy and it's maybe will take me my whole life. Still I need help and suggestion. I am married girl and have a daughter. I start my life newly started to pray the sins I made wants to recover.

Shukur allhumdullilah


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  1. Salamu'alaikum sister,

    For the fasts, I believe you missed those fasts when you were not practicing the deen. If such is the case, then insha Allah, you need not make up for these now.

    Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:
    What is the ruling on a Muslim who did not fast Ramadaan for many years although he did all the other duties required of him, and he has no reason why he should not fast. Does he have to make up those fasts if he repents?
    He replied:
    The correct view is that he does not have to make up those fasts if he repents, because with regard to every act of worship that is prescribed at a specific time, if a person delays it beyond that time deliberately with no excuse, Allaah will not accept it from him. So there is no point inmaking them up. But he has to repent to Allaah and do a lot of righteous deeds. Whoever repents, Allaah accepts his repentance.
    Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 19, question no. 41
    (from islamqa)

    Regarding your first point, you are a better person to decide what you have to do. You have been given something that men haven't. Make use of it all and try to keep him happy. Give him no chance of complaint. Share as much love as possible. If he is Religious, then it will be great. You can do readings of Tafseer (such as Tafseer ibn Kathir, Tafseer as Sa'di, etc.) and Books of Ahadeeth (such as Ar Riyaad as Saliheen, Al Mishkaat al Masabeeh, etc.) at your home together. Play bayanaat of renouned scholars of Ahlus Sunnah which can be found on webites such as (english) and if you understand Urdu, and the like. Also keep remembering Allah day and night. Do du'a to Him. He is The One, between Whose Fingers are the hearts of all beings. he turns them to whichever direction, whenever He Wills. So, do Du'a that He turns the heart of your husband back to you. Allah is The All Hearer and will Insha Allah, surely answer to you. Just Trust in Him, worship in the ways of the Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam and keep away from innovations in deen, in order to keep your 'Aqeedah (Creed) pure and unadulterated.

    I hope all this helps.
    May Allah keep you and your husband happy as a couple, until you meet Him
    Muhammad Waseem

  2. Thank you for your response.


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