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Can Husband drink his wife’s breast milk?

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Abû `Abd Allah al-Nu`mân b. Bashîr relates that he heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) say: “That which is lawful is clear and that which is unlawful is clear. Between the two are doubtful matters that few people have knowledge about. Whoever avoids these doubtful matters absolves himself of blame with respect to his religion and his honor. Whoever falls into doubtful things will fall into what is unlawful, just like the shepherd who grazes his flock too close to a private pasture is liable to have some of his flock stray into it. Every king has a private pasture, and Allah’s private pasture is what he has prohibited. Verily, in the body is a small piece of flesh that if it is healthy, the whole body is healthy and if it is sick, the whole body is sick. This small piece of flesh is the heart.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim

Can Husband drink his wife's breast milk?

-Mashurul


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  1. Salaam,

    Subhanallah, we have this question again. Mashurul, no he cannot.
    That milk is for the child, to nourish and as well as that, it forms a bond between the mother and the one . suckling it. Its NOT meant to be for a grown up man and neither should it ever be seen as something sexual. Please stick to cows milk bro.

    • Am not sure, but i would like you to make more reseach and ask some schoolers regarding what i want to say.,, i heard from a reliable source that if for instance you said this to you wife '''oh i love your hips, it looks very much like my mother's'' or something like ''huh i love your sexy body, it looks like my sister's''.,, then such man's wife have become haram for him and is equivalent to divorcing her once.. Coz his mother or sister are haram for him to marry... So also, if you drink your wife's breast milk, then she become haram for you and is equivalent to divorcing her once..

      • Brother Mohd,
        You are confusing this with Zihaar. Zihaar was the pre Islamic, jahiliya, way of divorcing your wife and once Islam came, it was forbidden and looked down upon very much. Allah admonishes those who proclaim such words about their wives.

        Secondly it is not as you stated. The divorce of zihaar would only take place depending on the intention and the events before it was spoken. Other than the fact that its quite sickening that aa man compares his wife's "sexyness" to that of his sister, it wouldn't be zihaar if he said to his wife that u r my sister, when said in that context. For zihaar to take place, he has to mean it relating to marriage, not anything else, for example, if a man were to compare his wife to his mother or sister with regards to her honour lets say.

        Drinking the wife's milk is not zihaar.

    • And cows milk isnt meant for their young? Drinking a human's milk as an adult is more natural than drinking a cows milk as an adult

  2. Awwwww NO sister he can not,

  3. Sallam, you shouldn't guide people with ignorance, if you have a question why not go and see a proper scholar to guide you. When I saw the question I felt "Enjoy Bro", because it is in fact halal for him as Rasulullah Sal was asked this question, this issue is so simple and proper guideline will come from proper scholars....finally Rasulullah sal said "Al Ulama'a warathatu al Ambiyya". "The Scholars and the Inheritors of the Prophets"

  4. The question I have is, "why would he want to"? Seems a bit perverted to me.

  5. No , is there any scientific reason to it also ?

  6. To be frank, i can't even think about drinking my wive's breast milk. To me it's irritating, it's disgusting. It would definately make me vomit.. I dont really no what pleasure is there and what even motivated the questioner to ask such question.. No offences pls, but it's really irritating for me to do such a thing..

  7. Asalaam alaikum,

    Because there are several rulings and interpretations on this, I will only provide links for reference from the Sunni school of thought, if this would apply to you. I believe that Shias have also ruled likewise. The rulings are there for guidance, but there is leeway depending on which scholar you follow.

    http://en.allexperts.com/q/Islam-947/husband-suck-wife-breast-1.htm

    http://www.defending-islam.com/page151.html

    I would also like to add that the judgement of perversion, should not be leveled so openly towards a person seeking Islamic advice should come with compassion rather than condemnation. Furthermore, our own personal tendencies will not always be in line with others and we should remind ourselves of that when answering questions by giving hadiths, professional opinions or advice given in earnest.

    I imagine that between a husband and wife, there are certain acts after she has given her first birth that are new to both of them. Keep in mind that they both have not been able to engage in sexual relations for awhile and both are very eager to be with each other. With breast milk, this is something new to the both of them and having been apart for so long considering intercourse, it may be something that they would be curious about in experimentation of.

    So let us remember that there is a passion between a married couple and therefore, they are susceptible to excitement and experimentation throughout their marriage and sexual life together. With this circumstance, we should be respectful that the person felt compelled to ask and treat them with kindness.

    • Professor X,

      Your response is very kind and made me rethink what I posted as being rash and well...not well thought out. It's always nice to see things from another point of view and in hindsight I should not have commented on something I know little about in regards to whether it being permissible in Islam or not. I did however come across an article regarding the subject at hand and I thought it quite interesting and would like to post the link for those who might be interested in the information it contains.

      http://en.allexperts.com/q/Islam-947/husband-suck-wife-breast-1.htm

      Salam

      • Walaikum salaam,

        It's very humble of you to reply in such a manner, Najah. May Allah (swt) reward you for your consideration.

        I would like to also add that we may make the mistake of thinking that the man is suckling on his wife like a child, wherein that may not be the case. It could be, that during foreplay and intercourse, he is coming into contact with her breast milk and wondered about it being allowable intentional avenue of arousal or just in case, he unintentionally swallowed.

        The comment of questionable pleasure also came up and again, this is something that may be particular to certain individuals. I believe it is prudent to silently disagree if that is the case of our own preferences if it is not blatantly haram and/or harmful. What we must keep in mind is that someone is concerned enough to share their inner bedroom worries and that should remind us that we are all struggling in our lives to make the best decisions according to Islam. I believe that this topic and that of any perceivable sexual nature, is where Islam has always been at the forefront among other religions and even modern science.

        Because of the various rulings and intricacies of such, I believe a person could decide either way, in this matter.

    • Dear Professor X,

      You have responded in a very fair and appropriate manner, I stand by you. I dont understand why certain people create such a hype. Why be judgemental when a certain person wants to know about a certain matter.

    • Well Said Professor X,

      If a man has a halaal women (wife) for him and he wants to try something new its ok but if the person is looking at ISLAMIC reference before he commits a sin even if he's not sure than ill call him a true believer not a perv.

      Man is bound to do whatever is prohibited for him, now getting back to his situation not only he is seeking help from ISLAM he is abstaining from what he is dubious about. May ALLAH bless us with this attitude.

  8. asking question is not bad, but there is something called common sense. you are not allowed marry daughter, sister, mother etc list per Surah Nisah, who suckled you as a baby AKA hired maid for milk.
    What make you think you are allowed to Drink wife's breast milk..there are cows, camels, goats etc etc drink that.

    • rz, the ruling regarding marriage to foster-brothers or foster-sisters is not relevant here. One can only become a foster brother/sister if suckled as an infant. Drinking milk as an adult does not apply.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  9. AOA...I would like to ask if you accidentally taste your wife's breast milk. Do you need to get remarried. Even if you washed your mouth immediately after doing that by accident.

  10. I know for a man his mother is d highest rank and for a wife her husband is

    Now if a mother says to her son leave your wife but the wife is a good wife and islamically fit then does d man still have to obey his mother

    I have been told a man should leave his wife if his mother orders him

    Please can someone provide authentic Hadith or Quran I don't want just opinions as I don't think it is allowed but I have been told there is a Hadith narrating husband should leave his wife for his mother

    Jaza Kalah Khair

    • Sobia, whoever told you this, ask them to bring you an Aayah or a Hadith. One is not obliged to obey the mother when she orders something wrong and something against the Deen.

      Abu Abdul Bari
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • I remember reading some hadith which states that the father orders the son to divorce his wife, but the son didn't want to because he loves his wife, so the son went to the prophet and the prophet ordered him to obey his father and divorce his wife. There are many other similar incidents. But note that, its not a general ruling. Parents needs valid valid valid sharia reason to order their son to divorce his wife.

  11. drinking wife's breast milk is right or wrong accordin to islam
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    “During the life-time of the Prophet’s Companions (may Allah be pleased with them all) it happened that one of the Companions was making love with his wife, and in the course of love-making he (the Companion) sucked her breasts to the extent that some of the milk reached his stomach. Following that, the Companion went to Abu Musa Al-Ash`ari (may Allah be pleased with him) and asked him about the ruling. Replying the man, Abu-Musa Al-Ash`ari said that the man’s wife had become forbidden for him. (i.e., like his mother)

    After that, the man went to ask `Abdullah Ibn Mas`ud (may Allah be pleased with him) about the same ruling and Ibn Mas`ud stated that there was nothing wrong with what happened. Ibn Mas`ud backed his argument by citing the Prophetic hadith, which clearly states that suckling is confined only to the two earlier years of a child. Ibn Mas`ud cited this Qur’anic verse: 'Mothers shall suckle their children for two whole years; (that is) for those who wish to complete the suckling…' (Al-Baqarah: 233)

    The apparent meaning of the aforementioned verse is that the suckling, which may act as a cause of prohibition, is confined to the suckling during the first two years. . AFTER THE ELAPSE OF THE FIRST TWO YEARS, SUCKLING IS NO LONGER A CAUSE OF PROHIBITION.

  12. As for as my searches i find some sites for your information

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081120055535AAPtq6D

    http://islamqa.info/en/ref/2864

    http://www.islamhelpline.com/node/6434

    here it is clearly mentioned that Drinking wifes milk is not wrong but still you have to avoid it .

  13. As for as my searches i find some sites for your information

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081120055535AAPtq6D

    http://islamqa.info/en/ref/2864

    http://www.islamhelpline.com/node/6434

    http://www.islamweb.net/emainpage/index.php?page=showfatwa&Option=FatwaId&Id=84646

    here it is clearly mentioned that Drinking wifes milk is not wrong but still you have to avoid it .

  14. Sorry to bump up an old thread. I dont understand what is the confusion.

    There is a difference between "drinking wife's milk" (deliberately, as if you are a child/whatever), and getting it into your mouth as part of love making. I dont think there is a single man in this world who has not got tiny bit of milk in his mouth as part of love making (cannot happen unless you hate breasts and never touch them - is there any such man? hard to believe)

    Ruling is clear, for those who confuse it with becoming mahram: you dont become mahram after 2 years of age. If one did not drink milk within first 2 years of his/her life, you cannot make him/her mahram regardless of how much you try ;-)

    So husband can NEVER become mahram of his wife, period. This leaves us to only one piece to discuss: Should husband drink wife's milk or not, not because it is halal or haram but because of social/moral values. Simple answer is: It is between husband and wife. If they are comfortable there is nothing wrong. It is not a religious issue at all. Can you believe a couple living good life for 10 years and wife becomes mahram all of a sudden because two of them could not control their desire of doing something as little as sucking up an ounce of breast milk? Give me a break! Islam would have discussed it already if this was such big of an issue ...

  15. My husband want to drink my breast milk and when i did not feed him he does not fullfill my desires and does not sleep with me.
    Please tell me what to do...

    • Salaams,

      Your husband does not have a right to deny your sexual rights based on this reason. He should not be drinking your breast milk, anyway. If you can't work out the issue with him alone, I suggest you take your concerns to someone you trust like an imam or marital counselor.

      If you would like further advise, please log in and submit a detailed post about your relationship issues.

      -Amy
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  16. Drink women’s milk
    In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
    Q-1: Is it allowed in Islam to drink any womens milk?
    It is indeed permissible in Shariah for an infant to drink the milk of any woman; and the suck of an infant will develop a lasting foster and ‘mehram’ relationship with that woman.
    Al-Muwatta Hadith 30.4
    Yahya related from Malik from Thawr ibn Zayd ad-Dili that Abdullah ibn Abbas (r.a.) said, "The milk which a child under two years old sucks, even if it is only one suck, makes the foster relatives ‘haram’ (sacred)."
    Q-2: Can husband drink his wife`s milk?
    If the husband happens to taste the milk from his wife’s breast accidentally or voluntary, there is absolutely no harm and does not effect their ‘nikaah’ or marital relationship in the least.
    Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.815 Narrated by Aisha
    Once the Prophet (saws) came to me while a man was in my house. He (saws) said, "O 'Aisha! Who is this (man)?" I replied, "My foster brother." He (saws) said, "O 'Aisha! Be sure about your foster brothers, as fostership is only valid if it takes place in the suckling period (before two years of age)."
    Q-3: If somebody drinks it by mistake what is the fatwah on it?
    In light of the above clear guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws), the consumption of a women’s milk will only bring into effect foster-relationships if the suckling baby is in the suckling period, which is unanimously accepted in Islam as being under two years of age. Thus the majority of the good scholars in Islam are of the opinion that if an adult accidentally happens to taste the milk of a woman, it does not develop a foster or ‘mehram’ relationship with that woman.

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