Do I have a special duty to my mother-in-law?
asalamualykum. I desperately need advice on my in-laws. Do i have a duty to them and do i have a special duty to my mother in-law?
Two years ago me and my husband made a mistake and I ended up in arrested and in custody; it was because of money problems. I am truly remorseful and have turned entirly to Islam but when I went to tell them I was sorry they disowned me and threw me out, regradless of my countless efforts to be good to them years before I was sentenced.
They were hypercritical as their sister/daughter was doing exactly the same. Two of my children are not my husbands but my ex-husbands and my in-laws refused to have anything to do with them. They also said they did not want anything to do with my husbands children except on special occasions. They gave my husband an ultimatum to divorce me and disown my children and marry again and to put my children in care when I was in custody.
Now they want to resolve everything and make up because of gossip from extended family. I don't want to do that, as I feel that this may all happen again as they had a problem with me when I first married my husband. My husband is being rather selfish and wants me to make up with them- he still has a relationship with them. They really hurt me and my children. What should i do? What are my rights? Will I get a sin if I dont make a bond with them and his old parents are upset about it?
I am happy to forgive and forget but I dont want a direct relationship and they are part of my life again. Through them being a part last time I made them more important than Allah (subhanallah) and I can't risk that again. I'm desperate not to. What should I do?
- Nadia
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actually you have more of a right obver your husband then his own mother ....but a good wife never turns her husband against his mother and makes him pic and choose. if you dont want a close relationship with your mother in law thats fine as long as you dont disrespect her there is no sin on not being friends with her. answer her calls say hi and bye but dont go that extra mile and going out of your way. thats your husbands mother even if she was so evil she is still his mother maybe if your love for him will make you over look her mistakes two wrongs dont make a right
Hi I am in a similar situation I gave my mother in law so much respect but just because her daughter doesn’t like me she disrespects me so much & her daughter has no good reasons not to like me I live in a different state but since they so mean to me I am scared to move there I have to any way because my visa is in process once it gets approved I have to go but being away from my family has no support from his family I don’t know how to go with it I had a thought I will give it a shout it they still really rude to me if I make my husband to move to my state would that be haram making a son away from his mother please help