His parents are taking a long time to ask for my rishta(hand in marriage).
I have found a suitable rishta to a very nice man who I have known for a number of years. Both our parents know that we wish to get married and have known since last June. However, although his parents know about me they are still asking him to wait and they have not yet seen or spoken to my parents about the rishta. They have not objected to him marrying me so this is not a problem, they are just asking him to wait as his brother went through a divorce last year.
I will be 26 this year and my mum and dad have been very patient mashallah but they do want me to get married soon and settle down. My mum and dad want his parents to come to our house and ask for the rishta since we both know we want to get married to one another but they are taking a very long time. I have asked him to say to his parents to come for the rishta but it seems like he is taking his time also.
Can anyone recomment a dua that I can read so they can at least come for my rishta soon? I know we have to be patient and I am trying my best but it does get really hard when other members of my family comment on my age and why I am not married yet.
~Princess786
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salamualaikum
Rabbana Hablana min Azwaajina wazurriyyatina Qurrata A'yun. Waja'alna lil Muttaqeena Imaamaa.
This is the Dua Ulama recommend. If your family agrees with the rishta and the man's family agrees too, then insha Allah, there should be no reason to delay, in order to avoid larger fitnah.
From what I have heard from the Ulama, I can advise you to have patience and convince your parents to speak to the man's family about doing the rishta as soon as possible. And have patience.
If both have no problem with the marriage, there should NOT be any delay.
None has the power to do anything except when Allah Wills.
so do extensive Du'a, abstain from the sins. Most importantly, keep a distance from the man, until you get married.
One standard dua is the Istikhaarah. All you have to do is do 2 raka'at of prayer and read the following dua with understanding:
Allahumma inni Astakhairuka bi Ilmika, wa astaqdiruka bi Qudratika, wa as aluka min fazlikal Azeem, Fa innaka Taqdiru wa la Aqdiru, Wa ta'lamu wa la a'lamu, wa anta allamul Ghuyoob.
Allahumma in kunta ta'lamu anna Hazal amr (mention your need - your marriage to the man) khairul li fee deeni wa ma'aashi wa aaqibati amri, waqdirhu lee, wayassirhu lee, summa baarik lee feehi.
Wa in kunta ta'lamu anna hazal amr (mention the need - your marriage to the man) sharrul li fee deeni wa ma'aashi wa aaqibati amri, fasrifhu 'anni, wasrifni anhu, waqdir liyal khairu haisu kaan, summarzini bihi.
Please search for the 'dua istikhara' translation in google, and understand the meaning before reading it. Insha Allah, then you trust in Allah that whatever you have asked for in the du'a. And you need to do this dua with complete belief in the words, this is why I said understand the translation first.
insha Allah, then, you'll get married soon.
You can ask me if you need more help
Wassalamualaikum
Muhammad Waseem Saifullah
Salam Brother Mohammed,
What does the first dua mean? Rabbana Hablana min Azwaajina wazurriyyatina Qurrata A'yun. Waja'alna lil Muttaqeena Imaamaa.
wa alaikum as salam brother/sister
The meaning is:
Our Lord, bestow us from our wives and offspring (considering that zawj means spouse, sister could use the same du'a - and Allah knows best) who will be the comfort of our eyes and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.
This du'a is from the Qur'aan, from Surah al Furqaan, aayah 74
Wassalamu'alaikum
Muhammad Waseem Saifullah
Am in serious distress,dt I tink my faith is @ risk,I hv always been d patient typ,I pray hard I fast nd I bliv always God wil ans my prayers bt dis time,dere is notin I dd not do bt tins kip gtin worst. I am stil patient nd prayetful I jst fear dt in d end if my prayer doesn't gt answed I may lose faith in prayers pls hlp I need advice nd solutions on wat to do
Sister Jameelah,
Please log in and write your question as separate post. Sister, I don't know what are your circumstances but what I do know is that our faith in Allah is what will and should matter the most; everything in this world is temporary. So, be patient and continue praying and making dua. Do charity and occupy yourself with something to keep yourself busy or better yet do some voluntary work. May Allah (swt) show you a way out of this situation. (Amin)
Muhammad1982,
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
assalamualaikum. Sister Jameelah, firstly, do istighfaar. Because distress, grief, problems, trials and tribulations can be due tto excessive sins. Or it can even be a part of the test from Allah. Every good Muslim passes through tests, and what brought me here to this blog, Alhamdulillah, is one such test that Alhamdulillah, I am trying how I can, to tackle, by defeating the Shaitaan, insha Allah (May Allah make us Successful and be Pleased with us)
These moments are very fragile. If you slip, you lose, but if you are careful, good times follow the bad times and insha Allah, Patience would lead us to the Jannah, as Allah Loves those who are patient.
So, think about what your deeds are everyday, by taking some time ALONE, and ask Allah for forgiveness for all those mistakes and what you may have commited unknowingly. If you do this, you will feel a kind of lightness in your heart insha Allah.
And also hope from Allah that you are being tested, because He loves you and wants you to reach higher levels of the Jannah. Always ask for His Help in all these tests. These are set by Him and He Alone can Help.
But never say your prayers are not answered. This is the very moment of test and this is where the Shaitaan attacks. Deflect his attack and defend your belief. You are the only one answerable for it, but know that you have a Lord Who is full of Mercy and Love. Will He leave you in distress? He will bring you out, but remain steadfast and pass the test, in order to reach the higher levels of faith, insha Allah.
I hope this helps, sister. But if you have a specific reason for the distress, you may have to adopt means to overcome that, but still, the above ways work substantially, insha Allah.
May Allah give you and me TRANQUILITY of the heart.
aameen
Wassalamualaikum
Muhammad Waseem Saifullah