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I am 10 and in love with a girl, am I a good Muslim?

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Young love.

Assalam -u-Alaikum

Ok I feel awkward and shameful to say this but I am only 10 years old and i am in love with a girl. I never did bad with her.

My family knows this and told me to change school but i came back. I talk bad with my friends and suddenly i am afraid of Allah and i dont wanna talk bad but after two mins i start that bad things again.

I perform Namaz, read Quran but as I am performing Namaz bad thoughts come in my mind then I want to close those ideas but i cant.

I want to leave my friends but then I feel uncomfortable without them...

I know this is long but please help me please.

- Ahmed

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  1. As-salamu alaykum little brother Ahmed,

    It's natural at your age to start developing curiosity about girls, interest in them, etc. The main thing is not to let your curiosity lead you to commit any sins. So Alhamdulillah that you haven't done anything wrong with the girl. It's best to stay away from the girl. When you get older you can get married Insha'Allah, but at your age now, there is nothing good or halal that can come from developing an attachment to a girl.

    We all love to have friends - friends are important - but we must choose the right friends. We have to choose friends who also love Allah and fear Allah, and want to be better Muslims. Friends who like to go to the masjid, learn about Islam, play sports or video games, study, and all the normal things that kids do at your age.

    But if your friends are more interested in doing haram things, or talking about haram things, then they are not good friends for you.

    If your local masjid has any youth activities, join them. Also think about joining good activities, like getting into martial arts (karate), or whatever your interest might be.

    As far as prayer (namaaz or salat), it's normal to have distracting thoughts during prayer. As the thoughts come, let them go and bring your awareness back to Allah, and the fact that you are standing in front of Allah, speaking to Him. Don't hold on to those distracting thoughts. As soon as you recognize that your focus is drifting, let the thought go, and come back to Allah. Keep on doing that and practicing, and it will get easier, Insha'Allah.

    You are in a special and unique position because, being so young, you have not committed any serious sins. You have an opportunity to live a life that you will be proud of later. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) mentioned the seven kinds of people who will be shaded by Allah on the Day of Judgment, when there will be no shade except Allah's shade. One of the seven is the youth who grew up worshiping Allah.

    Here's the entire hadith, for your reference:

    “There are seven whom God will shade in His shade on the day on which there is no shade except His shade; a just imam, a youth who grows up worshipping God, a man whose heart is attached to the mosque when he leaves it until he returns to it, two who love each other for the sake of God and part on that, a man who remembers God when he is alone and his eyes overflow with tears, a man who refuses the approaches of a noble, beautiful woman, saying ‘I fear God,’ and a man who gives charity and conceals it so that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives.” (Al-Bukhari, Muslim)

    May Allah make you among them.

    Wael Editor

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