Is my friend getting punishment?
Assalamalaikum,
There's a friend of mine, she has no brother and sisters.. It was getting bored at home for her, so she used pics from internet to act like she's the real person on the pic, and people start believing it.. she has played with 3 boys heart.. she had an internet relationship with them but not at the same time and it was just for fun and it wasn't a relationship for her, somehow she ended everything without telling the truth and asked Allah swt forgiveness everytime she reminds her what she had been doing!
Now she had felt in love for a boy but she want everything in Halal way, they have been talking, the boy showed intrest in her, but somehow without a reason he took distance.. and it's killing her!!!!
She's cries every night before going to sleep, she's in depression! She can't even sleep anymore.. Is Allah swt giving her punishment for all she did? How can she ask forgiveness in a good way.. Is there any dua for forgiveness? She said she has a feeling that this is happening to her because of what she has done to people..
What can she do to make it all good for Allah swt? And she stopped using pics and being fake on the internet.. Is that a big sin what she did?
Walaikum Assalaam,
~Khirad
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Salaam, firstly its sad what she did, i pity her that she stooped so low to create false profiles to entice boys and then played with them, its silly and reminiscent of a depressed or lonely person which you have explained, but in such loneliness one should seek comfort in Allah and not in shaytans game.
She has realised her mistake, but becoming paranoid wont help what Allah chooses will happen and no one can pre-determine what Allah has planned or will do, it is for this reason you should ask your friend to pray her namaaz and keep on her deen, while also asking for forgivness from Allah, and the rest will solve itself.
her sin is big in the fact she 'faked' herself to be another, a characteristic of the shaytan and dajjal and one which is disliked by Allah, however repentence is the answer, and all i can advise is for her to pray and stay on the deen, and quit this behaviour and be greatful for what she has.
Assalam alikum Sister Khirad,
She should not feel down. It is a blessing of Allah that she have been guided to the right path after playing with only 3 people. She must recognize that it is Allah who thought her a nice lesson in life. She had to learn from it and move on. It will increase her reliance on Allah (swt). It hurts in the short term but in the long terms it is for her own benefit. Tell her donot be depressed Allah (swt) will replace the boy she wants with some one better. Only she has to work on her self to be better.
I don't know if it's a punishment from Allah that the boy broke it off with her. It might even be a blessing. But there's an old saying: "What goes around, comes around." If you treat people badly and manipulate them, you will be treated badly and manipulated.
Your friend needs to put this whole episode behind her and completely change how she does things. She needs to learn her religion, read the Quran, pray, and stop talking to boys. It's not appropriate for a Muslim woman to be falling in love with this boy or that. She should conduct herself with taqwa, and not engage in any inappropriate discussions with men.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam Sister,
All I will say is that goes around come around.She needs to now try and get on with her life.Relationships,if thats what you want to call it are not serious on the internet and one should never take them to be serious,otherwise you are out to get hurt.Everyone knows that.
I think your friend should pray for forgiveness and try and forget this person and move on and focus on herself and making herself abetter person.
Allah Hafiz.
if a person does such things then there r only 2 situations either Allah is punishing her or Allah is testing her .,tell 2 her 2 ask for forgiveness as what she did was not right .,she should promise Allah that she wont do it again .,seek forgiveness .,pray 5 times .,do good islamic activities.,hope Allah forgives her & shows her right path & 2 us also .,[ameen]!!!