Kaffarah for the Oath taken on the Qur’aan
Taking Oath on The Quran
Asalam-o-alai kum,
My husband is very skeptical person. he does not trust anyone so I had taken an oath on Quran that I will share everything with him and never hide anything from him. Sharing everything means I will tell him every moment of my daily routine that what i did whole day? with whom i met or talked? never get frank with males and I will never lie to him etc etc.
Another thing to mention here is that only our Nikah has happened and Rukhsati is not done so far. Therefore sometimes it becomes difficult for me to share everything with him as sometimes he has issues with my female friends too. I am doing job so he has issues that I should not talk with male colleagues and I should also keep distance from female colleagues as well; as according to him these females are not good company for me.
Now I want to finish this oath as I am not sure that I am fulfilling this oath. I try my best to fulfill it but still sometimes it becomes difficult e.g. once my female colleague advised me not to follow your husband's every instruction blindly. I told my husband about it and now he wants me to stay away from her.
My question is that if I fast for three days as kaffarah, will this oath end or I have to continue it again as I do not know how many time I have broken this oath. I want to finish this oath so what should I do? i am very much in tension so please help me.
~ Mrs. Shoaib
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Sister,
It sounds as though your husband is not only a skeptical person, the word "controlling" comes to mind per your post. Having to swear by the Quran as to what you do all day, whom you speak to...ridiculous. It sounds to me as though he is insecure at best. On top of that to tell you that you cannot speak to a female coworkers?! Once you are married, he will tell you to quit your job too...just wait.
Salam
"ALLAH WILL NOT PUNISH YOU FOR WHAT IS UNINTENTIONAL IN YOUR DELIBERATE OAT; FOR ITS EXPIATION FEED TEN MASAKIN (needy persons), ON A SCALE OF THE AVERAGE OF THAT WITH WHICH YOU FEED YOUR OWN FAMILIES, OR CLOTHE THEM OR MANUMIT A SLAVE. BUT WHOSOEVER CANNOT AFFORD (that), THEN HE SHOULD FAST FOR THREE DAYS. THAT IS THE EXPIATION FOR THE OATHS WHEN YOU HAVE SWORN. AND PROTECT YOUR OATHS (ie do not swear much). THUS ALLAH MAKE CLEAR TO YOU HIS AYAT (verses, revelations, lessons etc) THAT YOU MAY BE GRATEFUL." koran5:89
Girl. This man will tell you to stop talking to people, stop dressing a certain way, stop going to work, stop talking to your parents, and he will soon isolate you and control every aspect of your life. Does he get angry easily? Does he insult you and belittle you? Watch for these signs sister, for your own safety.
He sounds like a scary man to live with. Sister, if you see signs like this, its means run, run away as fast as you can.
Sister, you dont have to swear on the quraan for such silly things like this, he should be able to trust you. if he doesnt trust you, that means he is not going to be a good life long partner- and he will drive you crazy.
sister, my advice, stop and asses this man if he is a good marriage partner. If his character is not good, you can break it off early before he controls you and your babies.
SubhanAllah... your post made me feel suffocated already… I am sorry to say that.
Dear sister successful marriage should be based on trust first and foremost...
We are free human beings, and I am sure you know your Islamic boundaries as a married Muslima very well, so there was no need to take an Oath… Please, have some self-respect; dont let him be so suspicious , talk to your husband about his insecurities.
Salams
Assalamu'alaikum,
I will just speak about the oath and the Kaffarah. If you did not intend to, but were forced, then it may not be binding upon you, and Allah Knows Best.
But if you intended it, then you may have to expiate.
Allah Said in Surah al Maaidah:
5:89
لَا يُؤَاخِذُكُمُ اللَّهُ بِاللَّغْوِ فِي أَيْمَانِكُمْ وَلَٰكِنْ يُؤَاخِذُكُمْ بِمَا عَقَّدْتُمُ الْأَيْمَانَ ۖ فَكَفَّارَتُهُ إِطْعَامُ عَشَرَةِ مَسَاكِينَ مِنْ أَوْسَطِ مَا تُطْعِمُونَ أَهْلِيكُمْ أَوْ كِسْوَتُهُمْ أَوْ تَحْرِيرُ رَقَبَةٍ ۖ فَمَنْ لَمْ يَجِدْ فَصِيَامُ ثَلَاثَةِ أَيَّامٍ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ كَفَّارَةُ أَيْمَانِكُمْ إِذَا حَلَفْتُمْ ۚ وَاحْفَظُوا أَيْمَانَكُمْ ۚ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ آيَاتِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ
Allah will not impose blame upon you for what is meaningless in your oaths, but He will impose blame upon you for [breaking] what you intended of oaths. So its expiation is the feeding of ten needy people from the average of that which you feed your [own] families or clothing them or the freeing of a slave. But whoever cannot find [or afford it] - then a fast of three days [is required]. That is the expiation for oaths when you have sworn. But guard your oaths. Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses that you may be grateful.
One more point which is most important is the Hadith of Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam:
Sa`d bin `Ubaidah narrated that Ibn `Umar heard a man saying: ``No by the Ka`bah'' so Ibn `Umar said: ``Nothing is sworn by other than Allâh, for I heard the Messenger of Allâh ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ say: `Whoever swears by other than Allâh, he has committed disbelief or Shirk. ’’’ ( Tirmidhi-Sahih )
If a person swears by the Mus-haf, it is Shirk, but if anyone says "I swear by Allah's Word" without placing the hand on the Mushaf physically or saying "I swear by the Mushaf", it is acceptable, as the Ulama' concluded, for the fact that Allah's Word is His Attribute, just like Rahmah, 'Iqaab, etc. They are not separate from Him, but they belong to Him.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
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