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Tired of my husband digging his nose and scratching his feet

Cartoon Relax Man with two big FeetI am married for almost 2 years now and am very very tired of my husband always digging his nose or scratching his feet. And when I ask him to cover his ears when going out in cold,  just so that he does not have more blockage in the nasal passage he says let me live my life.

I am tired, very tired of constantly fighting over this issue. It has started to give me anxiety and I get breathless at times thinking about all of this!

Should I not worry so much and really let him dig his nose for as long as he wants!? It hurts to see him like this. Please help.

-Ayeshag

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  1. So are you worried about a medical issue or does this just gross you out? Were you strangers when you got married and how did you not see this behaviour before hand? I would suggest just having an honest conversation with him and say these are the things that you like about me and these are the things I want to love about you and to be attracted to you I wish you would stop doing this is there anyway we can change your habits and compromise?

  2. Assalaamualaykum ayeshag,

    I think it's possible that your husband has dermatilomania. It is an OCD-like mental disorder in which one repeatedly peels, picks, or otherwise is fixated on one's skin. This is only the case, however, if his actions are somehow affecting his daily life and getting in the way of other things. You should get him seen by a doctor to rule it out, in any event. Of course, it could also just be a bad habit. If that is the case, then putting a small bandage or piece of tape around his finger should help fight the urge to pick at the skin.

    Hugs,

    Nor

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