I want to marry him…
I am in love with a man who wishes to marry me as soon as I tell him I am ready. But I am afraid to do so because my elder siblings are not married yet. I am confused every time I remember the hadith 'Don't delay in 3 things- 1 being marriage.' He insists that I should go out with him, or tell him when I will be ready.
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Either marry him as soon as possible or break off having pre marital relationships. If you want to wait for your siblings to get married end this relationship and if you want to be with him make it halal and marry him.
sister my suggestion for you is to get engaged with him and when your siblings get married then also you can get married to him.
Engagement or Nikah with him is a good thing until your siblings get married
Salaams,
It's true you shouldn't delay marriage if you've found a suitable match, and you're sure he's the one for you. It doesn't matter if your older siblings have married or not. There is no Islamic precendent for children being married according to age- oldest first then going down in chronoligical order. This is strictly a cultural thing, and to me culture should only be followed when it does not conflict with Islam. In this type of situation, following culture could put you at risk for being in a haraam relationship or committing zina, so it's better to marry. If your father or your male mahrem will not help you with that because they would rather follow the cultural practices, then I suggest getting an imam to represent you in nikkah so you can pursue what's halal.
-Amy
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M in luv wit a boy who tried his level bst to make his mom undrstnd for our mariage bt his mom has already fixed his mariage in may month 2015 in his village since childhood .v realy luv eachother n dat girl is his real cousin sistr.me n him v both r sunni n v hv same surename n belong to same standard of livin evn den his mom is sayin no for our mariage coz its abt hr sisterz daughter.Finaly he tld me i cnt go beyond my parents decision.He left me all alone i dnt undrstnd wat to do.i left all my frnds coz of him.plz help me to find a solution plzzzz......m realy in a need of help...
I don't think there is a solution. He has made up his mind. You can't force him to change it. He is honest with you and told you that he will not defy his parents. Please try to forget about him.
Tashu: M in luv wit a boy who tried his level bst to make his mom undrstnd for our mariage bt his mom has already fixed his mariage in may month 2015 in his village since childhood .v realy luv eachother n dat girl is his real cousin sistr
Your b/f knew his marriage was fixed since childhood. He should not have messed with you.
If your parents can find a boy marry him and live happily ever after. This love thing is temporary.