Should I terminate my pregnancy?
I committed zinaa and now I'm pregnant, what should I do?
Hi,. I am 20 years old and I am a muslim and not married I am a student and studying.
However I have made terrible mistake and had sexual contact with a muslim guy before marriage and I am now pregnant.
I am so scared and worried not for myself but for my family and their respect and dignity and I don't want to shame them which is why I cannot tell them.
I wish to get advice - is it completely forbidden for an abortion? There are many sides to people saying yes or no. It is not in my heart to terminate, but I do not want my family knowing of this. Is there anyway round this? Please help me. Thank you.
- Nazmin
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Sister Nazmin, As-salamu alaykum. Obviously you know that what you did was wrong, and you are already dealing with the consequences, so I won't lecture you on that. Abortion (except in cases of medical necessity) is considered a sin in Islam, so you don't want to compound one mistake with another.
Have you told the father about the situation? If not then I suggest you tell him. The best thing would be for the two of you to get married. In that case, it's possible that your family may not find out that you conceived the baby out of wedlock. Let him know that you plan to have the baby and that everything will come out, so it would be better if you get married. Presumably he is someone you like and have feelings for, so the prospect of marriage should not be frightening or upsetting.
One way or another your family is going to find out. How will they react? If there is a chance that they might react with violence, then you need to be very cautious. If it's a matter of disowning you, then again, you're going to face a tough road. But if it's just a matter of facing blame and criticism, then you need to be strong and face up to it.
No matter what, it's going to be hard. May Allah help you and guide you to the best solution.
asalamu alaikum,
keep the child also the truth will eventually will come out, since its not very easy to cover up.
ma salama
Salam.
Yeah i agree with the first comment.
The best thing is you have to tell you family. Either you Mother of Dad.
As you know aborting should be the last resort .
I think you should marry him or tie a relationship with him.
and i hope your worries are lessen..and wish you all the best
Inshallah Allah will find some solution to your problem. He is always here for us even when we forget him and commit sins.
It is barbaric to kill a child before he is even born. How would it be like if you were aborted before you were born?
it is heart breaking that ppl can even think of doing something like this (unless it a medical emergency)
salams,i am 23 years old.now i am three months pregnant.one week befor i went to Ultrasound scan,then they told that my baby got some kind of problem,.after that i went to lot of test.the end they told some times i should terminate my pregnancy.so what shell i do?in islam allowed to terminate when the pregnancy problem?please anwser it
??? pray to Allah (swt) inshAllah inshAllah everything will be ok,
That's a little alive baby you have in their, no matter what the problem is, your still her mother right ? Imagine (God forbid) your baby (or anyones for that matter) was born healthy, buh sometime during the years she developed a disease or had a horrible accident that left her disabled (God forbid) would you disown her ??? or give her away ??? or Kill her ???? No. because thats your baby, your child.
Atm just because you cant see her or hear her, it doesnt change anything she is still alive and breathing, Please dont give up on her.
May Allah protect you and your baby (ameen)
PS: am sorry if something i said hurt you, i was just trying to explain in a more logic manner,
x
salaam alayikum,
never terminate a pregnancy just because of a health problem.
thats your baby no matter what is wrong with him/her.
You know sister the doctors told my mother my youngest brother would be born down syndrome. They told her to abort him asap. My father found the form for abortion and fipped out. That was his son she was willing to kill because of some doctors opinion.
My little brother who is now 9 years old. only has child diabetes because of the pregnancy my mther wasnt very healthy during.
and he was born with erbs palsy in his right arm because the doctor hanked his arm when he was being born.
But alhamdulilallah my little brother is healthy and happy .
My self at my 19th week of pregnancy my doctor gave me horrible news that made me cry for days.
he told me my son has chances to be born down syndrome, or mentally challenged, born premature etc....
i was taking all this in and i blacked out, I began to cry and cry I didnt know what to think or do.. But you know he is my baby no matter what and wether he has an illness mommy is here for him to care for him.
but alhamdulilallah prayed to god and went back at weeks 21 and my doctor gave me the greatest news. my son so far is developing well.
not all doctors look over things properly. one doc told me bad news and a few weeks later my orignal doctor gave me great news. and alhamdulillalah its been great since 🙂
assalamu alaikum varah dear sister dont do this continue bcoz saver is allah not a doctor not a ultra sound ok if your intersted take spirulina is a super food its can help you you try and duha others from allh i give one tips one australian gay he had no legs no arm but he very populer in this world he name nick he video clip also you can see in web site
ma salama
***Am no expert buh am sure if the mother of the baby is having medical problems only then she is allowed to abort (meaning if the mother is to die if she gives birth to the baby)
More over wouldnt you wanna keep the baby, no matter what the circumstances turn out to be ??
maybe this is a test from Allah (swt) to see if your gonna turn to him for help or just terminate ???
pray to Allah (swt) inshAllah inshAllah everything will be ok,
That's a little alive baby you have in their, no matter what the problem is, your still her mother right ? Imagine (God forbid) your baby (or anyones for that matter) was born healthy, buh sometime during the years she developed a disease or had a horrible accident that left her disabled (God forbid) would you disown her ??? or give her away ??? or Kill her ???? No. because thats your baby, your child.
Atm just because you cant see her or hear her, it doesnt change anything she is still alive and breathing, Please dont give up on her.
May Allah protect you and your baby (ameen)
PS: am sorry if something i said hurt you, i was just trying to explain in a more logic manner,
x
salaam alayikum dear sister,
it is said you can terminate a pregnancy until the embryo has its first heartbeat because then thats when it becauses a soul.
I had to deal with a similar thing. But I got pregnant 2 weeks after i married my husband. He is 21 and i am 24. he is still in college and was not ready to be a father, when I found out I was already almost 4 weeks, which is around the time a embryo gets the heartbeat.
he begged me to abort this child. But I am fully against this.. After a weeks of him not speaking to me he came around and told me he will allow me to carry through.
I am now currently 24 weeks and 2 days pregnant with a baby boy.
I dont suggest a abortion my sweet sister. You know what you did was wrong and your dealing with it. Allah forgives the biggest thing if you ask for forgivness. Your baby will be loved no matter the wrong you did.
Keep the child sweet sister and I wish you the best in life
i am pregnent but i am studying its very difficult oto with the baby i cary out my daily routines and sutdy what should i do this is my first child but i cant terminate my thesis its my aim of life and we give presentation i ddint told in my uni that am mariied alot of reasonz exist am veryworiied about it plz tell me the solutoin
Salaam alayikum sis,
I know with studies it may feel over whelming to give birth to child and care for it.. It will be hard, motherhood itself is hard.. You will be excused 6 weeks from school or work.. in this time if they allow you to, you can get your assignments for your classes and do them during your time off..
the last time i posted on here i was around 24 weeks.. My son is now 8 months old... I tell you wallah my husband still dosent want my son and now me because i birthed him.. but you know what , i rather have my husband hate me then burn in hell for killing a living soul..
im not sure what you chose to do now that its a few months later.. but sis i would like to know 🙂
wa'alayikum salaam
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all are from allah you teach your kids proper way and save allah
As salaam Alaykum, Ive been with someone for 3 years and we wanted to get married from day 1 buy I asked my mum she said no because we are not from same caste he is Afghan and im Pakistani (remainder of the comment has been removed)
Wa Alaikum as Salam sister,
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