My ex partner calls me names
Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse
Salam alkuim
I'm asking for some advice. I'm non Muslim though I believe, my ex partner is Muslim, he reverted 18months ago. We have 2 children together, my daughter who he accepted her as his own and we share a son. We have seperated because my family life was not happy.
Now we are seperated he is rude and nasty to me calling me names all the bad names you shouldn't say to your enemy even. I know the way he treats me is not right according to quran he observes his five prayers a day, but I can't understand why he is rude I want to talk to his sheik at the masjid he goes but I don't know if I can do that I get called names that are horrible for no reason. Can I call a sheikh to talk about this? I want respect I carried his only son!
-erin
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Answer given by María M:
Peace be with you, erin,
Certainly, you can approach his sheikh to talk to him about his behaviour, he will make him understand his wrongdoing in the best way possible, God´s Willing. I hope he is guided to good manners and his heart softens after his Iman talks to him, God´s Willing.
In Al Quran, Surat 49:11, you can read the following: " O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers".
If you cannot talk to him directly due to his agressive speaking, stay on a side and don´t make anything he can think you are provoking him, just in case his anger turns worse, God(swt) forbids, and if in any point he threatens you or turns physically agressive don´t doubt on call the police.
All my Unconditional Respect,
María
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Peace be with you, erin,
Certainly, you can approach his sheikh to talk to him about his behaviour, he will make him understand his wrongdoing in the best way possible, God´s Willing. I hope he is guided to good manners and his heart softens after his Imaam talks to him, God´s Willing.
In Al Quran, Surat 49:11, you can read the following: " O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers".
If you cannot talk to him directly due to his agressive speaking, stay on a side and don´t make anything he can think you are provoking him, just in case his anger turns worse, God(swt) forbids, and if in any point he threatens you or turns physically agressive don´t doubt on calling the police.
All my Unconditional Respect,
María
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Erin, it's disappointing to hear that your ex-partner is displaying this kind of behavior. That is not the way a Muslim should behave. A Muslim should be humble and kind. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was kind to all people, even his enemies.
Ask your ex next time, "What was the character of the Prophet Muhammad like? Did he used to insult people and call them names? Isn't he an example for you?"
Yes, if you know what mosque he attends then you can go talk to the Sheikh or Imam.
You can also tell your ex to visit this website and see this page.
Wael
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