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My family is of hindu/sikh background.. basically all my life i've just been taught by my mum about basic things like how to have good character how god is watching... i read a part in hinduism which talks about kalki avatar and is the closest thing or IS actually prophet mohammade pbuh...so im pretty certain im going to convert to Islam.

my main question is i started to know a mixed race girl... french carabien and Algerian (arabic)...she told me when we was going out she can only marry a muslim... i didnt have a problem as even before knowing her i thought of converting... however her family does not like converted muslims as her original dad was a converted one him self and had walked out on the family... however the mothers sister all have married converted men... yet my gf or EX girlfriend is not allowed to do so... so she broke up with me as it got hard for her to be with me. fine we at least thought ok when i convert it'll be easier we can just wait till we ready to be married till then we just. stay friends and keep it all halal etc...

but then when she tried to explain this to her mother the mother was like: thats not even an option forget him no way never such n such... her mother also would prefer some one Algerien and so would the step dad who is also algerien...

however there was another born muslim boy who had liked her for a very long time and just recently she started liking him out of no where and her mother is kool with this JUST because he is born muslim... and me i would be a convert. when i try to ask her (my ex gf) how was any of that fair? she would just be like u talk about islam but when it comes to your needs u forget it.. all i have to say is but i said i would wait till its ryt to be married and not have no gf and things like that.. and bear in mind before her i have had no gf's im 19 years old, i would try to say to her "i swear in the quran it says u can marry a converted muslim??...i mean a muslim is muslim" and hypocritically she would say well this is not about the quran its about my family.. and i think didnt i just get accused of forgetting the quran?...

so i guess even though i know the answers or know this is not fair i just want some one else to say their views upon this situation, as i was hurt from this and some times question what was the point of all that?

Wael's Answer:

I realize this experience has been diffucult for you. I commend you for looking to the Quran for answers and being able to distinguish between Islamic teaching and the mistaken attitudes of some Muslims. But for now don't worry about the girl. If you are sincere in your desire to convert to Islam then do so, for the sake of your own soul. Work on your religion, develop your relationship with Allah, and Allah will open a way to happiness for you, if not with this girl then with someone else.

And Allah knows best.

If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, feel free to post your comments below.

(O Allah), Guide us to the straight path; The path of those whom you have favored; Not those with whom you are angry; Nor those who go astray.

Best regards,

- Wael Abdelgawad

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