I’m 26 and I want to marry this year, is a government job a requirement?
Government jobs are considered highly desirable in some countries.
Assalamu alikum sir,
I want to marry this year to prevent myself from all sins and also for the reason to break the late marriage system which is still in my village. However, my parents are not ready.
Also I am 26 years of age and well qualified.
My inner voice quakes me to go for this sunnat. But my parents want that first you have to go for job then they will think about it it. I do tried to discuss it with them many times, but they refused.
So please give me suggestion (from an Islamic point of view) what I should I do; and is a government job a necessary condition for Nikah?
-rafiq raja
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ASSALAMALAIKUM-
YOUR PARENTS ARE MUSLIMS THEN TO THEY ARE NOT HAVING TAWAKKUL ON ALLAH-SO THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT A GOVT JOB-ASK THEM IF ANY ONE GETS A GOVT JOB AND THE NEXT DAY ALLAH MAKES HIM MAD OR LAME OR GIVES SOME PROBLEM WILL THE GOVT COME TO RESCUE OR THEIR JOB-
Allah says:"So seek provision from Allah and worship Him (alone).” [Al-‘Ankaboot 29: 17]
He also says in the Quran:
“And in Allah let believers put their Trust” [Surah Ibrahim 14:11]
Allah (swt ), says:
And whoever places his trust in Allah, Sufficient is He for him, for Allah will surely accomplish His Purpose: For verily, Allah has appointed for all things a due proportion. (Qur’an 65:3)
Tawakkul refers to putting your trust in Allah – to believe that He alone can ward off the harms of this world, provide you blessings and sustenance, and to ease your challenges. Tawakkul is also about accepting the results that He decides regardless of how they may turn out to be.
The Quran makes it clear that Tawakkul is not an option but rather a requirement. Allah (may He be Exalted) says:
“and put your trust in Allâh if you are believers indeed. (Surah Al-Ma’idah, 5: 23)
COMING TO MARRIAGE-THEY DONT KNOW THIS CONCEPT ALSO AS PER ISLAM THEY THINK IT IS JUST A FORMALITY-
“The best people of my nation (Ummat) are those who get married and have chosen their wives, and the worst people of my nation are those who have kept away from marriage and are passing their lives as bachelors.”
Imam 'Ali (a.s.) exhorts, “Marry, because marriage is the tradition of the Prophet.” The Prophet (s.a.) also said, ”Whosoever likes to follow my tradition, then he should know that marriage is from my tradition.” [6]
The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) and the Holy Imams (a.s.) also encouraged their followers to marry and to fulfill their sexual urges in lawful ways as can be seen from the following: The Prophet (s.a.) said, “O you young men! I recommend marriage to you.”
The Prophet (s.a.) said, “One who marries, has already guarded half of his religion, therefore he should fear Allah for the other half.” [11] How true! A person who fulfills his sexual urges lawfully would rarely be distracted in spiritual pursuits.
Marriage enhances the value of prayers
The Prophet (s.a.) said, “Two rak 'ats (cycles) prayed by a married person are better than the night-vigil and the fast of a single person.”
The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) remarked, “Give spouses to your single ones, because Allah makes their morality better (improves it) (under the shadow of marriage) and expands their sustenance and increases their generosity (human values).
Whom to marryAllah also gives us freedom and urges us to:Marry the women of your choice...Qur'an [4 : 3]
MARRAIGE WAS NOT BURDEN AS PER THE TRADITION OF ISLAM-AS IT IS TODAY-
AbdurRahman came having traces of yellow (scent) on his body. Allah's Apostle asked him whether he had got married. He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet said, 'Whom have you married?' He replied, 'A woman from the Ansar.' Then the Prophet asked, 'How much did you pay her?' He replied, '(I gave her) a gold piece equal in weigh to a date stone (or a date stone of gold)! The Prophet said, 'Give a Walima (wedding banquet) even if with one sheep .' " Recorded in Bukhari
As-salamu Alaykum,
You did not specify whether you currently work in a non-government job. A "government" job is not essential, but the ability to support your wife is. Most people (rightly so, in my opinion) would be hesitant to allow their daughters to marry someone who was unemployed or did not have a source of income. Personally, I'd want my son to be working before he considered marriage...otherwise, who would support him and his wife?
salam Dear sister
1 make istikhara
2 don't mention job situation to any man untill you see signs of truth in him; you don't know who you can get at your door.
3 if you wish to get married first, Then you have a certain tasbih for this ; ya HAYYOU ya QAYOUM bi Rahmatikal wassi3a astaghit ياحي ياقيوم برحمتك الواسعة استغيت ... Say it as much as you can ... 'till someone will ask your hand . yaqin sister on ALLAH qodra.
i am offering istakhara prayer since past three days but afteer praying when i go to bed mujhe neened nahi ati .what should i do should i continue to pray istakhara or should i start new.Also can i offer tahujjud without sleeping as i have tried a lot but cannot sleep in night.
salam dear sister
the istikhara means , you ask permission to ALLAH swt about what you would like to do , if it's good for you or not before doing it .
you just need to do the istikhara salaat , then go on to do the thing you would like to do , IF IT's GOING SMOODLY ,MEANS THE PERMISSION IS GIVING ? and IF IT's not going the way it would go smoodly ,then no need to go for it .
don't force to have it or do it . be'cose it's a permission and you have no personal hunger for it .
hope i clarified a bit .
ps: for istikhara , you don't need to sleep to see or have a feeling.
do istikhara and go to see the thing you would like to buy or ...etc