Questions regarding the intercourse after marriage
Du'a before Sexual Intercourse
Aslam-o-Alaikum!
I have a question and I have doubt about it.
I am getting married after a month but one thing that irritates me. My question is that a husband and wife can talk to each other during intercourse because I heard that husband and wife should not talk
And an other thing husband and wife can see each other private parts during intercourse.
And one last thing that they can take bath together or not.
Please give me a valid answer with hadith aur ayat refernece.
I will wait for your reply.
Allah Hafiz
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As Salamualaikum,
Sister, all you said is untrue and a misunderstanding that many Muslims have.
According to the fatwa of ibn Uthaimeen Rahimahullah, it is permissible for a woman to see all of her husband’s body and for a man to see all of his wife’s body, with no need to go into details, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And those who guard their chastity (i.e., private parts, from illegal sexual acts), except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for then, they are free from blame; but whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors.” [al- Mu’minoon 23:5-7] (Fataawa al-Mar’ah by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 121).
Imam Al-Bukhaari reported in his Saheeh (no. 250) that ‘Aa’ishah said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)and I used to bathe from one vessel.”
So, there's no question of denial that a husband and wife can bathe together.
Al-Haafiz said in al-Fath: “Al-Daawoodi interpreted this to mean that it is permissible for a man to look at his wife’s ‘awrah and vice-versa. This is supported by the report narrated by Ibn Hibbaan via Sulaymaan ibn Moosa, who was asked about a man looking at his wife’s private parts. He said: ‘I asked ‘Aa’ishah, and she referred to this hadeeth.’ This is evidence in this matter. And Allaah knows best.”
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One can even talk while the intercourse, insha Allah. The hadith which prohibits this, and looking at the 'Awrah of one's spouse is fabricated. It goes like this:
“When any one of you has intercourse with his wife, let him not look at her private parts, because this causes blindness, and let him not speak, because this causes muteness.” Ibn al-Jawzi said: “(This is) mawdoo’ (fabricated).” (See al- Mawdoo’aat by Ibn al-Jawzi, 2/271-272).
So, please do not have doubts about this in your mind. Insha Allah, keep there Ahadeeth and Aayaat in your mind. And have a conviction that you are in the right.
Wassalamualaikum
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaams,
I would just like to say that sometimes talking during intercourse is necessary; as in: "did you just hear one of the kids wake up?"
lol.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
lol...
Lol sister this way I wanted to tell. Lol I say that sometimes lol and it's so funny....
I have never heard of this before I'm married me and my husband talk all the time lol, only sometimes I don't wanna wake up the baby otherwise you can talk.