Shall I divorce my husband for domestic violence
Ive been married like 15 month
(1 yr/3months).
I had a love marriage,i new all his bad habits but he told me he had changed,
but Since we got married he got worse
parently he didnt want to marry me and i made him marry me etc.
My husband and i both work and we both have good income, but he beats me up and takes my money and uses my money to pay of his debts,when i dont want to give him he beats me up and i end up giving it to him,he has been abuseing me badly,then when he realises what he has done to me,he will say his sorry,it came to a stage were he was selling drugs and beating me up all the time.
I cant take no more, so i asked for help and now im living at a refuge away from him,i still love him but not when i remember what his done to me,he will fone and tell me his changed and i shouldnt apply for a divorce,but when i think of all the thinks his done i cant live with him.
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Salaam My Sister,
MashaAllah, you have made the best decision you could ever have made to leave this man and I commend you and send my prayers to you to give you the strength and the determination to carry on in this way. I want to send you hugs and reassurance - you will get through this and you will be OK.
When we agree to reside in an abusive environment, we are accepting the unacceptable and putting our lives in danger.
Yes, you must divorce him, My advice to you in to get into contact with authorities. I do not know which country you are writing from, but in the UK you can contact the police, let them know what the situation is and let them know that you are trying to leave an abusive man and they will report your case, and you will be given council housing and financial aid to assist you in getting away. They will also advise you of what to do if he tries to attack you.
There are also charitable organisations such as Refuge, Women's Aid, Genesis...many many organisation which will help you through the process, they offer counselling, financial aid, homes, support and friendship.
Your have made the right decision, and you must stick to it - divorce him and don't look back, and if he attacks you again, call the police and press charges, get a court order and forbid him to come within 1000ft of you.
You have absolutely made the correct decision - now all you have to do is stick to it. Your greatest enemy right now is love and feeling sorry for him. Do not feel sorry for him if he cries, pleads or begs - do not let compassion move you. You cannot live a life like that.
MashaAllah, I am very very proud of you and fully support you in what you are doing.
Peace,
Leyla
Editor, Islamic Answers