Want to get married my boyfriend is making excuses
Salaam
I am in my early twenties. Life is perfect mashaAllah have perfect family but only one thing that I dream all my life was shaadi (marriage). I always wanted to marry a nice rich guy who would love me... I'm very flimy kind a person.. but also very religious..a few years ago my brother's friend and I start dating and he was very close to my family so I always thought he would never going to cheat on me.. I knew him since i was 12 but now when I asked him to marry me he said no and came up with a stupid excuse.. He never said that he wants to leave me but he has shown no interest in me. Now I'm so madly in love with him that he is on my mind 24X7.
I think I might go crazy. I've been prayin day an night that I get marry to someone else so I can move on but life seem to be stuck and there no rishtas proposals coming at all. It is not like I'm a bad looking woman. I'm pretty with a good education, religious, good family even very traditional.
Any advice can help.
thank u.
- Sania
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Assalamu Alaikum Warhamathakkahi Wbrakathuhu,
Hes not worth even thinking about Sis!! Clearly, he doesent want to continue the relationship any further, hes making excuses so that he can get out of the relationship. The relationship your were in was harram anyway, so inshallah, repent to Allah(swt) and make dua that he gives you a poius husband.
Distract your mind on something else, use it as an oppertunity to get more knowledge on Islam. I know exactly how you feel sis, i've been dreaming about marriage all day and night, i think all girls go through this kind of phase. Nonetheless, theres no need to rush anything, you're still young and its up to Allah(swt) when you meet your future spouse. Choose someone whose poius and rest of the other things can be sacrificed but not piety. If he sincerely loves Allah(swt) and taqwa in his heart, Sis he wouldnt even dare to leave you or cheat on you!! Theres nothing wrong in asking for a rich husband, but sometimes, it may lead to no happiness in marriage. If he was poius, rich and has all other qualities you;re looking for then alhamtillah, Go for it.
Have you told your family about your decision to marry? You can ask them to look for a future husband. you dont necesserly have to wait for a propsal , you can ask your family members to send one to a Brother whom they think is suitable. inshallah, May Allah(swt) reward you with a poius husband.
P.S - I'm not trying to be rude in anyway, and i'm sorry if i did come across in that way but you claim to be reigious, then surely you should know that dating is forbidden. You could have just your brother know that you're intersted in his friend and went on from there, in a Halal manner.
Your Sister In Islam.
Asalaoalaikum sister, im sorry to hear about your struggle. Personally, I think you should stop wasting your time on this person. I know it will be difficult but if he's giving you mixed signals then that means he's not ready yet or the more common one-- he just isn't serious. Also, the fact that he's not contacting you through proper channels (i.e.: through family) tells me that he may not be contemplating marriage. I know right now you may be feeling that your world is falling apart and you keep thinking of him all the time, but rest assured you will move on inshAllah. I highly suggest you stay consistent with your salat and practice patience. Just remember that Allah swt says what you may think is good for you may not neccessairily be the case and what you think may be ill for you can turn out to be for your good. So sister put your faith in Him and know that whatever Allah swt will do for you will be for your betterment. Stay strong sister -Helping Sister
i am 21 years old girl and in love with someone and he also me... but he is saying that his family preferring to go abroad and make his future rather than marriage!! but i can't live without him... n i said that after marriage you can go but then he said that my family is not agree and if i'll do marriage they'll not support me... now what'll i do i just want him ?????
Sister Paari,
Please log in a write your question as a separate post, iA we will try to help you as much as possible. However, what I would like to say is that stop sinning as you probably know that pre-marital relationships are haram and only invite huge wrath of Allah (swt). Holy month of Ramadan is leaving us unfortunately, people are making the most of last moments since who knows who among us will be alive among us next year. Look what you are doing is exactly opposite without realizing that many people who were with us last year are no more. Please repent for the sins you committed in 1 or 2 days of Ramadan left.
Muhammad1982,
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
separate post how ???
and ALLHAMDULLILAH i know my limits i didnt make any type of sin like you are sayin' .... n the person whome im talking about also don't demand me ds b4 marriage... im worried from many days that's y message here... thinking that may be i get ans or solution of my problem!!!
Sister, before married bf/gf is haram in Islam no bf/gf only marriage. You both haven't done any zina or so on but you in relation that's same sister. That's what brother Muhammad1982 said I think.
Sorry again did mistake,
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/submit-your-question/how-to-submit-your-question-as-a-draft/