Thinking of converting but want lesbian thoughts to go away!
I am a 22 year old girl who has had a boyfriend for the last 5 years. But in the last month or more I have been having lesbian thoughts. I am violated at myself and pray for them to go away. How do I stop having them?
As well as this I am not too sure if my boyfriend is the right man for me. How do I know if he is the right one? He is totally in love with me but I do feel totally in love with him. I love him but I don't know if I am in love with him. I pray for me to fall more in love with him as he couldn't be more perfect.
I am not Muslim but I am looking in to Islam as I would of course would have convert and I have been praying through this hard time. Please someone offer me advice. I want to be a good person and I want these horrid thoughts to go away.
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Assalamu alaykum Thailand123,
If you want to convert to Islam, make it right now. But did you think well about it? Did you learn about the basic beliefs in Islam and the principles on which it is based upon?
If you did read and think on it, and then decided, Insha Allah, you may enter Islam any moment, Allah willing. What are you waiting for?
Sister,
As far as the thoughts you mentioned, it may be due to your exposure to such environment or contact with such people or watching something like it in movies, television or internet or it may be due to whispers of Shaytaan without these modes playing any role. If any of the above are a part of your life, cut it off immediately.
Insha Allah, if you read the Qur'an with meanings and grasp the meanings of the narrations and signs of Allah in the verses, your mind will Insha Allah give a counter response to any obscene thoughts that come to your mind.
Also Islam does not allow boyfriend - girlfriend relations without marriage for many reasons. Main reason being it leads to physical intimacy - which may lead to zina or adultery. Another primse reason is only Allah should be our focus, goal of life and one we worship and love the most and this place should not be taken up by any human being in our minds due to our "love" for that person.
You may read my reply to another post, which describes the idea further :http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/being-without-him-is-draining-my-strength-to-live/
Hope this help. You guide is Allah and the guidance is the Qur'an.
The moment you or I or any Muslim leaves it and acts on his desire, we start going astray from the Straight Path.
Insha Allah, I hope you will increase reading of the Qur'an with meanings and this Insha Allah will help you.
Salaam,
Your brother.
ASA sister!
Alhamdulillah!! I am very happy that you want to convert!! And very proud of all your efforts to change... How to stop your thoughts? Im not sure, but what you are doing helps a lot. Keep praying, ask Allah swt to forgive you and ask him to make you a better, stronger Muslima!!
Is your boyfriend Muslim? I dont know if you are aware, but once you convert, you cannot have a boyfriend/date. So I would focus on asking Allah to guide you through the straight path, and not to make you more in love with him. I think that once you submit yourself 100% to Islam and make Allah swt your one and only priority, all your problems will be less.
Now if your boyfriend is Muslim, you convert, and he asks you to marry him... there is a prayer called
istikhara that can help you, make a decision of whether or not you should be with him or not.
Best of luck to you sister 🙂
AMIRA