I am commited to a man that I cannot marry.
Shoud I go ahead for marriage, knowing in heart, that I would not be loyal to my husband?
Being divorced and age thirty, there are no much good proposals and I have a tremendous social pressure but I don´t want to commit this sin of disloyality which I can´t avoid after marrying.
I am deeply committed with a man to whom, marriage is not possible currently but we work at same place and the available proposal is only interested in me being working lady.
sara
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Dear Sara,
You ask, "Should I go ahead for marriage, knowing in my heart, that I would not be loyal to my husband?" I ask you sister, would you want to marry a man who in his heart would not be loyal to you? This is so unfair to the man who has asked for your hand. If you do have a heart, and I know that you do...do the honorable thing and let him go. Let him find a woman who will love him and be loyal to him. No one deserves to be played, especially in matters of the heart.
Salam
Salaams Sara
Najah advice is perfectly well said you took the words out my mouth.
Samina and Najah, I agree with you both in principle. However, I think it is just as concerning that the man in question is only interested in Sara for marriage because she is employed; this suggests that he is motivated by her income, rather than her loyalty and love she may bring into a marriage. If that is the case, then she should not waste her love on a man who may not return it.
Sara, you sound so desperate and it is obvious that your self-esteem is very low... You first need to work on all these negative issues... Once you start feeling good about yourself and can see things more clearly - then you are able to make more clear decisions that can effect your LIFE, your FUTURE in either a positive or negative way. Start praying and take your time before making any rationale decisions. You are worth it !!! As for being 30yrs old and single,... enjoy it * There are single men out there always looking and your age should not be of that importance for times have changed and there are so many women out there in their 50's still looking for marriage.... Life is Beautiful !!!
@ Elena
Wow , you think that many men would consider marrying a women who is past beyond 30 . The majority of the men who would even consider marrying a women at that age would either be divorced , widowed or are single not by choice .
As for the question . The answers give by Sister Najah is very appropriate .
I got married to a wonderful man while in my late 40s. He is 6 years younger. When I hear the horror stories of women involved with Mr. Wrong, like some of the women on this web site, I am happy that I didn't "settle" for just anyone. It's really better to be on your own rather than being with an incompatible person.