I don’t want to take her as second wife but she doesn’t understand. Please help.
Asalamwlkm,
I am already married and expecting my child. I have a relationship with another women which I want to finish . I tried once by staying away from her and she is also Muslim and knows I am married. Our relation is illigel by all means and that's why she wants to marry me. Now, the thing is I am in delima. I know this second marriage will ruin both of our life as I will not be able to handle this which I am sure. I have confessed this to her. Explained the post marriage problems but she does not understand and say that she won't marry anyone else.
Please advise me what to do?
Shad.
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Salaams,
If you are not feeling capable of taking this woman as a second wife and making your relationship with her halaal, then your only other option is to cease all contact with her. She is non-mahram to you and you should not be interacting with her at all if you have decided not to take her as a second wife. The more you indulge her requests for communication, the more likely that it will cause problems between you and your current wife. Leave her alone, and let her find a way to come to peace with your decision. You have your own family and baby on the way to think about, so I imagine you don't have spare time to worry about extra things like another woman's emotions.
-Amy
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testing
Yes? You get a C- on your test.
Wael
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Lol. Surely she deserves better than that. 😛
she forgot to capitalize, and left off the period. Not only that, it was an incomplete sentence. lol.
In that case Amy, you get a C too. You too forgot to capitalize. ; ) lol
BWAHAHAHA! Oh my stars, that's the hardest I've laughed in a week. I'm still cleaning beverage off my monitor. Wael, on the strength of that witticism alone, if I were a Muslimah, I might have to propose marriage. Well, if I was 10 years younger. Oh, that and actually single. 🙂
Thank you for the guffaw. I need to go attend to my asthma attack now...
To the Question:
You both committed haram together, the Islamic expectation is that you both repent together and get married (the ultimate action to rectify the mistakes of the past). You cant now decide you want to do the right thing after doing the wrong thing with the sister and walk away through repentance. In Islam repentance is through the heart, words and action. The sister is asking for something halal which will be the action that will purify your past deeds with her. You handled the extra relationship and now you should handle the repentance together. Accept the responsibility of your actions, be a man (Rijal as in Strong man (with Allah) and take both of them.
'be a man' what/????it doesn't make him more masculine by taking two wives do you really have the knowledge to answer the question? or are you just trolling.....!!!) I mean what about how the first wife will feel when she finds out he was being dishonest she will loose all trust and faith in the marriage ? if he has no intention of marrying her he would have controlled his urges and focused on his marriage with his first wife and not the other women the fact that he went behind her back and was seeing this is women is really atrocious.