Islamic marriage advice and family advice

facing a problem of life time

Posted by • March 8, 2007 • Printer-friendly

salam

its been over two years i am in love with this girl, who is two years older to me, and we both love each other and wanted to get married. currently i am studying bba from england, we told our parenst that we want to get married to each other in the future about a year ago but both the families refused.


the main issue was about the age difference, from that time till today we some how gets together and still share the same feelings and still wish to marry each other.

now as she is nearly 24 her proposals are coming and her parents wants to settle her life but on the other hand she is not willing because of me, i never stopped her but its her will at the end, i was told by a mufti about a year ago to recite YA-HAYU YA- QAYUMMU 500 times a day, i have been doing that, but it has not changed anything but day by day it is getting worse, now i wanted to perform istikhara for her. recomend me what i can do at this time.

will be looking forward for your help

regards

abid


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  1. siddiq
    March 20, 2007 • 1:01 am

    assalamualykum,
    if you both really like each other, then
    try to convince your parents hard, give
    them the example of our Prophet
    Sallahualyhiwasallam, that he married
    at 25 to Hadrat Khadija, who aged 40,
    was a widow.

    see its a matter of ur life, sometimes parents
    are wrong in their decisions, as they are only
    concerned about the pride of their family
    status, which they think will
    get diminish in the eyes of relatives, its all
    because of the wrong cultures stuff we had
    all these years, eventhough we are in islam,
    we are still slaves to these old non-islamic
    cultures, which impacts many muslims,

    so now its u ve to decide, i must say convince
    them and marry this girl with whom you are
    interested, as
    it is your right, as you will be living with
    your life patner for whole of ur life not them.
    So ur parents are not considering ur feelings
    but their worldly cultural status which is
    absolutely wrong.

    I hope this might help you. If there is any
    good it is from Allah and if theres any bad
    it is from my own nafs,

    Wassalamualykum Warahmatullahi
    Wabrakatahu.

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