I left my husband because he hit me, how can I get out of this hole?
hey ive been married for a year now n have got a lovely son. i left my husband when my son was 14 wks as my husband kept on hitting me. i never went back to him. he said he wont give me a divorce because he doesnt want me to carry on with my life but he has had another baby with smoeone else and still wants me to come back to him.
he still hits me now when i drop my child off. how can a woman get out of this hole? if he says no i was married in england and only had an islamic marriage not the english one. can u help me and let me know where to start please?
- Salma
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Asalaamualaikum my dear sister....I am sorry for the unfortunate circumstances you are in.
I am not usually one to advise divorce, but from the information you are sharing with us - how can any woman live a respected and happy life like this?
Sister, he has hit you so many times - you need to inform the police as this is assault. No one deserves to be treated like that by anyone and especially not by their husband - the one who is supposed to love them.
He physically abuses you, so how can you be sure that he is not doing the same to your child?
I would not be happy to leave a child with such a man.
Obviously you know the whole story - but I definitely think you need to speak to the police and if you havent already done so speak to your family. You may feel frightened about going to the police, but its for your own good and also for the good of others. This man could do the same to another woman aswell.
For advice on separation and divorce, I would suggest you see an Imam. Sheikh Suhaib Hasan is very good maashAllah, he works in the Shariah Council in Leyton.
Sister...be strong, you do not deserve to be treated like this. Allah gave us our rights to stand up against oppression...
Salma,
I am sorry to hear about your situation, this is very sad. I do have some questions to try and understand more about your situation so someone can help assist you.
1. Where do you live?
2. Are you alone or do you have some family or relatives?
3. What truly keeps you in contact with this person besides your son? Do you love him or fear him?
4. Has he remarried?
These questions would give a better insight about you situation and possibly a solution. I would love to help only if I can see a better picture. Sharia laws do exist for such situations.