My in laws are torturing me. I can’t tolerate it anymore
assalam alay kum friends!
I got married 2 yrs back, I face lot of problems since my marriage. My brother in laws torture me and even come to beat me often. My mother in law started creating misunderstandings between my husband and I. My sister in laws says wrong things to her regarding me, I should do entire houshold work everyday, if one day I fall ill and don't do work, she says I got a big disease, take her to dr n ask what happen.
I can't eat of my own, I cant wear anything new, I should not go with my hubby out, I should not put my baby to school. Now I have become very weak by doing entire work and not eating anything. I am not able to tolerate this any more. I asked my husband to put me seperate in another house but he don´t want to get seperated but he is ready to leave me. He always asks for divorce papers and says he is ready to sign it. What should I do now? I have a kid too, still he took 1 weeks time to think about this. I am at ma moms place. I should not go to ma moms place even if she is not well this is wat in laws says everytime. Am i wrong in any way? What should I do? Please help me. They are not even letting me to do a job. I was working, but they tortured me and didn't allow me to go out of house. Please help me brothers and sisters and tell me what should I do further? If he still decides to live at in-laws only then what should I do?
-sammu
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Sister your brother in law beat you why did your husband allow this, why are they showing you such little respect, sister take yourself and your child away from such people you do not want your child growing up in a household like this with no ahklaq or edaab, tell your husband to move you to another house its your right you should not be in the same house as your brother inlaw, or just stay at your mothers house. insha'Allah khayr sister. i will make dua for you.
Sister,
If I were in your shoes, I think I would stay with my mother. What kind of man allows his brothers to beat and abuse his wife?! It sounds as though this man and his family are very dysfunctional and in need of nothing more than a housekeeper. No one deserves to be treated this way. Listen to your heart on this and do what is best for you and your child.
Salam
Sister Sammu
You should continue to stay at your mum's house until your husband decides to get a place of his own. Your life is in danger at your mother-in laws (mil) house. How can your husband allow his brother to beat you or does your husband even know that? His brother could get arrested for this!
I would strongly suggest you call up a meeting. Ask your husband to come your mums house and discuss this matter with him. If he refuses to move out then under no circumstances you should go back there. Sister these people don't have the least bit of respect for you. Tell him that you married him- Not his entire family. This is not a healthy environment for you or your son and even your marriage is suffering.
No man has the right to raise his hand to another person without due reason. That reason is only self defence. No man has to right to speak to or tell off another's wife or even hit her, even his brother's wife.
I'm being honest, if one of my brothers so much as looked at my wife in the wrong way, that would be the end of all family ties between me and him. Some things can be forgiven or overlooked, but this is not one of them.
Get out before your life is ruined. If your husband chooses his family over you when they are wrong and you are right, you are better off without him.
Amen!
I would much rather stay single all my life than to be married to a man with no "ghairat" - or as its known - gheerah in arabic.
Seriously. If my bro in law dared to mention the thought of raising his hand on me and my husband put up with that, that would be the end of me and him.
I've faced this messy disgusting life style where a woman is made to worship and live for her in laws family and having the thought of her own house is like she is committing the crime of the century.
And btw, I had and alhamdulillah still have a child too. And now I am divorced and have left him to keep his family happy. I'm happy alhamdulillah and hes the one crying now. Not me.
Either he gives you your right to your own place and becomes a man or you WALK OUT. Simple. Dont put up with this torture.
Was salaam
why would a man even allow his brother to even look at his wife, let alone touch her.
what is he going to move onto next, sexually abusing his brothers wife?
where is the gheerah gone?
why are you still keen on continuing with your husband. You said you were working, why dont you get a divorce and start working for your child. Women get emotional when the time comes to punish the husbands. You have to be strong and set an axample for women around you . We are not doormats, give and take respect. It does not work one way.
Do not spoil your health, it just means you are putting your husband and his family ovre your baby.
Be strong, face the soceity tell people to mind their business.
Remember, God helps only those who help themselves and I still belive marriages are made in Heaven, some women get bad partners and God wants us to teach them a lesson. Be strong