Will I always be alone?
Salam brothers and sisters.
I am a 38 year old man, single. I am quite poor, but alhumdulillah I have every thing I need: a home, clothing, and food in my belly. I do not have a degree, but I am well read and alhumdulillah Allah has granted me a measure of intelligence. I am not the best Muslim, but I try very hard to be good and kind, and generous with what little I have. My friends trust and respect me, and I am grateful for having them in my life.
In all my years, I have been alone. I believe strongly in the sanctity of marriage, and I fear Allah. I have never been with a woman, never held or kissed one, although I have been heartsick over two. I fear Allah, but I am so lonely. My heart is breaking. As I get older, I fear the prospect of finding a wife to love and cherish is becoming ever more remote... is it my destiny to remain alone until I die? As an American Muslim living in California, it is so difficult to resist temptation, but somehow Allah gives me the strength to do so. But I am getting tired.
Please brothers and sisters, pray for me. If you can give me some advice, some solace, I would be so grateful... I do not have much material wealth, but I would be a good and affectionate husband if only Allah would put a good woman on my path.
I wish you all happiness and peace. Thank you for reading, and may Allah forgive me for my despair.
-Traveller
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dont know where you have been looking for a wife, there are many muslimah's around waiting to find a husband like you.
have you expressed your interest to friends, family or imam mosque.
you may not find a snow white or cinderallah, if thats what you are waiting for, but certainly a kind wife .
there are plenty of pious muslim women who would prefer wealth over character. you just havnet looked hard.
make people around you know what you are looking for.
many mosques in america do a matrimonial service. try suhaib webb.
Assalaamualaikam
From what you have written, your strength of character and faith shine through. InshaAllah, if you look for a wife in the right places, you may well find many sisters looking for a man of such integrity. As has already been suggested, why not ask friends and family if they know of any suitable Muslimahs, and ask if your mosque has a matrimonial service? When considering marriage, think about the kind of person you wish to share your life with, and try to be clear about your views when asking other people for assistance.
Remember that the earliest Muslims were not all materially wealthy, and indeed The Prophet himself (peace be upon him) and his Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) lived modestly. The material trappings of this world are insignificant and temporary - what matters is our faith and our character.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
SubhanAllah
Ma sha Allah Brother, reading this gave me hope in humanity. And there are plenty of women who would trade their rich husband for a pious one. There are even more women looking for a respectful and pious husband. Given your age, you have even more choice. It is just a matter of looking. Talk to friends, the Imam at your local Mosque, family members. This is how I believe it works. Living in the U.S and not falling into sin all those years! You definitely earned my admiration, keep striving to please Allah (S.W). He will provide you with a good and pious wife in sha Allah.
asak brother,
I understand how u feel. I feel the same way and often think will I be alone since I will be turning 28 this year.
I have just tried to keep myself busy and not think much abt being with sumone but obviously my situation and urs is different. Being a divorced grl and having a bad past can lead to my hopelessness, but at least you have some hope.
I see ppl have given some great suggestions, in addition to that possibly speaking to your parents to see if there is a suitable match for you to get to know perhaps? I hope you find what your looking for inshAllah
Please remember me in duas as well brothers and sisters. Thank you
Assalamu Aleykum to the Editors.
I wrote an advise to the brother Traveller - OP, it seems that my comment was not approved .
Would you please tell me why? Did I say something wrong ?
Jazak Allah Khayr.
Assalaamualaikam
I think the reason your comment was not approved was that it carried a link to a matrimonial service and therefore could have been classified as an unsolicited advert for that website. We don't allow advertising within posts.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
OK. Jazak Allah Khayr for explaining.
When i met my husband, he didn't have a home, money and he used to have a job but lost it due to going holiday. I believed he is a true man because he believes in allah sw, prays and fasts. His family used to provide for him. For our wedding day, the money was borrowed, he managed to buy little gold i was still happy. I bought my own wedding ring but he promised me that he will buy me better ring when he is stable but i rejected, all i wanted from him is treat me as his wife, love and care for me. We stayed at his cousins house. Because i left my trust in allah sw and stayed patient. Subhan allah. Two month later, Allah sw have given him a good job, we have a house, he bought me gold, ring, we went holiday and gave me everything. But the most wonderful thing is that i have 2 beautiful sons alhamdulilah. We are happy wether we live as rich or poor. My advice for you is never give up your hope. Insha allah you will meet and marry that girl who will accept as who you are. Just pray to allah sw and believe in him that he is able to do everything. Insha allah, i wish you for the best.
MashaAllah. May Allah (swt) continue to bless your family. Ameen!
Read carefully,
Well I am 34y. And nearly the situation is almost like yours. But alhumdulillah! Not that desperate (now) alhumdulillah! Cause the situation varies with the environment. I have been to Gulf. And in your case it is different. Well, indulge yourself in healthy activities. Your environment is provocative. That is the problem. The information your mind is picking up itself is provocative. So, you have to input more info regarding religious knowledge and to become more strong in Faith and Belief. Satan is doing its job. And he is trying best to target you. BE CAREFUL. Your being tested by Allaah (subhanahu wa ta'ala). Get out of this lonely situation ASAP. Get Islamic friends in a Masjid near you hurry.
Allaah Knows the Best!