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There are many good people in this world of all faiths. Make sure the non-Muslim is good person and respects your values. It may be an opportunity to teach them.
BISMILLAH ARRAHMAN ARRAHIM. . . . . . . . . . . . Salaamu alaikum. . . . I want to say that i fully (100%) agree with the opinion of Choice1. . . It is always recommended in islam to show good example to non-muslims so that they can see beauty of islam in you and that may bring d oppurtunity to teach them d religion and also to remove d misconception they have about islam. . Even prophet muhammad(SAW) use to be free and good to d non-muslims. . . And because of d good character he(SAW) treat them with, most of d non-muslims embraced islam. . . There was a time an old woman (non muslim) was carrying a heavy load on her head and then prophet muhammad(SAW) rushes to assist her with d load., this old woman was so pleased with him and she started advicing him on certain issue., when they are close to her destination, d old woman was suggesting to him that "" o my son, there is someone in this town called muhammad (not knowing that he is d muhammad) , do not beleive in him because he is spreading false news, d prophet kept quiet and after she has repeated d statement several times, d prophet finally exposes him self to her and told her that he is the muhammad she is talking about., immediatly d old woman broke down and accepted islam''". . . . . . . U see, what we can learn from this is that the prophet was very free with d old woman, very friendly and above all very very kind to the old and at last he succeeded in reverting her to islam. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . We are in an era that islam is been misrepresenting by many people in d world (both muslims and non muslims) non muslims are attacking and misrepresenting islam by spreading false propagandas (about islam) on d media. . . Eg islam is a religion of terror, islam was spread by d sword, muslims are excremists, women dont have rights in islam, islam is a religion of fight, of hate etc. . . . . . While d muslim misrepresent islam by acting contrary to what islam teaches and when the non muslim see these muslims acting as such, they will presume that this is what islam teaches them. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . I think it is a good idea that we shold be be free with our non muslim friend so that they can see d beauty of islam on us
This makes no sense. Of course da'wah and setting a good example are a requirement on all Muslims. But the questioner is not speaking of da'wah. She is speaking of developing inappropriate feelings of love or attachment to a non-Muslim. It's inappropriate because it cannot lead to marriage and can only lead her into sin.
Being kind and charitable with non-Muslims is an obligation. But falling in love with them is another matter altogether. That is a trap that Muslims should not fall into.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
"trap" sounds really harsh- who's trapping whom here?
A person's character is shaped by their upbringing , circumstances and influences - one of which may be religion.
It is really blindsighted to assume however that people that dont belong or conform to the same faith are inadequate in some way because of this. Religion is supposed to teach us to respect fellow men and have empathy for humanity in general and not assume superiority or inferiority of values because of this.
Having read the quran and being married to a muslim, I will say that based on what I have gleaned - the region where islam was founded and the period in which Mohammed lived there were only christians and jews around and hence he mentions them as acceptable for marriage. Out of the three religions- Judaism Christianity and Islam , the latter was the last to evolve and is based off similar principles. So it may be possible that if there had been exposure to eastern religions- hinduism, buddhism, etc maybe these would have been recognized too. Religion is an enabler and certainly not the crux of a persons character - this is why there are good and bad people in every faith.
Use your judgement of whether the non-muslim is a good person, there is genuine compatibility, affection and respect to determine whether this is the right man for you. If he matches you in these and in your core values- no religion will bring down your relationship.
freethinker, no one is saying that non-Muslims are less human or less worthy than Muslims. However, non-Muslims are not good marriage partners for Muslims, because they do not share our goals in life, or our perspective. They are not moving in the same direction that we want to go. And they do not have the foundation of Islamic faith upon which all of a Muslim's actions are supposed to rest.
If you wanted to become a champion Olympic runner, would you train with a swimming coach? No, you'd train with someone who understands where you want to go and can help you get there.
Christian or Jewish women were permitted for Muslim men not because they were the only ones around as you speculated, but because Judaism and Christianity are also Abrahmic faiths. They are religions that derive from Prophets of God, and that have holy books that (though corrupted now) were originally revealed by God. This is not true for Hinduism or Buddhism. And even in the case of Christian and Jewish women, there are limitations and conditions for a Muslim man to marry them; and choosing a Muslim woman is better.
For us Muslims, we live our lives according to what Allah has given us. We are dedicated to Him. We try to follow the Islamic guidelines in our lives, and we don't try to rationalize our religion away.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Wael
Thanks for the insight. The quran came into being because it was written and recorded and every muslim i know has said that Islam is a way of life. Point taken??
So if you look at Hinduism or Buddhism for instance - they are a way of life too albeit some of their principles are slightly different from Islam. However the essence of all these religions is the same - kindness and respect for all beings and ways to go about doing it. BTW the vedas and the Bhagvad Gita are the holy books of Hinduism and contain the sayings of the Hindu divinity on how to live piously. Hinduism is also a way of life and so is Budhism which speaks to certain core principles which man is expected to live by to attain salvation. Just because these are not written down in a book , it does not mean they are incomplete or inadequate in any way.
The basis of religion is to teach man the difference between good and evil and how those actions lead to heaven or hell- how can you diffrentiate between right and wrong without rationalizing?? I think this is the argument people use when they are using religious beliefs to justify their actions - different interpretations of the quran and the hadith across the various islamic nations and cultures is a perfect example of people using their individual judgement to supposedly "rationalize".
Masha Allah free thinker.
You spoke the truth in the last few lines you wrote.
Religion teaches man by the Scripture: What is right and what is wrong?
It gives the criteria, so the Qur'an is also called Furqaan, the Criterion to distinguish between right and wrong.
So you spoke 100% truth in this regards.
But what is the gurantee that the scripture you have is indeed Divine? What is the gurantee that people did not write it?
We Muslims, without boasting, with all humbleness claim: We have the certain Truth from God, where as other religions have scriptures which have been tampered over the history of thousands of years.
If you read about vedas, they started from a few hundreds verses and now they run in to lacs. If you think of Jewish scriptures, from Tawrah they have so many other scriptures side by side in their Bible and so do the Christians.
We and only we have the Certain Truth from God, the Qur'an and it is enough as a proof for itself, for whosoever reads will know that it is not a work of a man, nor is any human involved in "making or thinking" its verses. The Qur'an stands a the biggest proof for itself. Yes, and I challenge anyone, whosoever in the world wants to to bring me a Guidance and True word better than the Qur'an. A Whole Text Better than the Qur'an, a complete Scripture more clear, true and better as guidance than the Qur'an. I tell you with a gurantee: I would be the first to obey that guidance. But this is my Lord's challenge, you or no one else will ever be able to bring any Scripture like the Qur'an in any aspect. Insha Allah.
Now, coming to buddhism and hinduism, buddhists believe there is a buddha in everyone, and they sit in front of the statues of buddha, call buddha as "buddha bhagwan" lord buddha, pray to the idol, make it the center of all their devotion. And Hindus, 33 crore idols or " gods and goddess" as published a few months back in majority of Indian newspapers.
Now you tell me, if there were more than one gods, would not one god try to owerpower the other and try to rule himself?
Hindus believein god of sea and god of rain and god of wealth and god of sex (kaamdev) and many more gods for other purposes.
Islam says - Allah is One. Waahid. Only One. Else the whole creation, the universe would be in chaos and total destruction if there were more than one gods.
Do you have two fingers which are same? No. Do you have two hair on te body which are exactly the same? No.
Do you and the best person get along with "agree 100%" with each other on all things? No. We differ.
So how do you think if there were more than One God, would they not disagree? One would say I want to bring the sun from the west, the other would say, no east is fine and the third one would say no, let me make earth steady and revolve sun around it and the fourth one would say wait all of you: let me make day and night constant and keep the sun and the earth in one position.
Do you think such changes would keep the earth and its dwellers alive?
And here we have not 3 or 4 but 33 crore gods and goddesses. Isn't it a big figure?
And who is God? He is the Creator and not created. He has no needs to be fed by a mother like a new born child is born, nor does he need to grow up and walk on knees like a kid who needs support, nor does he need a wife, Glorified be Allah from such ascriptions, nor does He grow old, nor does He weaken. Nor does He get tired of preserving His creation. Nor does He haveany fear, Nor does He have a begining, nor does He have an end. He is the absolute, the Mighty, the Majestic, the Superb, the Compeller, the Destroyer, The Giver of LIfe, the Bringer of Death, the Reckoner, the Supreme, the Merciful, The All Knowing, the Hearer, the Seer of all things.
102. Such is Allah, your Lord. There is no God save Him, the Creator of all things, so worship Him. And He taketh care of all things.
103. Vision comprehendeth Him not, but He comprehendeth (all) vision. He is the Subtile, the Aware.
104. Proofs have come unto you from your Lord, so whoso seeth, it is for his own good, and whoso is blind is blind to his own hurt. And I am not a keeper over you.
105. Thus do We display Our revelations that they may say (unto thee, Muhammad): "Thou hast studied," and that We may make (it) clear for people who have knowledge. - Surah Al An'am.
Allah is encompassing the whole creation, whole mankind and they have no refuge, no hiding place from Him.
53. We shall show them Our portents on the horizons and within themselves until it will be manifest unto them that it is the Truth. Doth not thy Lord suffice, since He is Witness over all things?
54. How! Are they still in doubt about the meeting with their Lord? Lo! Is not He surrounding all things?
We believe just as a dead earth is made green with rain, so will be the dead raised on the Day of Judgment, then Allah will give judgment, without bias, without any prejudice and every soul will be repaid in full what it had done in the worldly life.
So the life of a Muslim revolves around this Day and we try to do all our actions remembering this day. Those who disbelieve in meeting with their Lord, we have got nothing to do with such people, unto us our works and unto them their works.
Salaam,
Munib.
We are getting far from the issue at hand, which is marriage of Muslims to non-Muslims. Indeed Freethinker, as you said, Islam is a way of life, and so are Buddhism and Hinduism. However, not all ways of life are the same. Islam is a way of life based on Tawheed, which is the belief in the absolute Oneness of God. Of course all religions teach us to be kind, etc. However, for Muslims, compromising the Oneness of God is the greatest sin.
The bottom line is that we Muslims live our lives according to what Allah has given us. Part of that is that Muslim women are prohibited from marrying non-Muslim men, and Muslim men are also encouraged to marry pious Muslim women. That's really the bottom line on this issue. You don't have to agree with it, but you are here as a visitor on an Islamic website, and it would be good to acknowledge that our actions as Muslims are based on Islamic teachings.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
To the Questioner and the readers and the writers and commentators:
If you obey those who have no knowledge, who deny Allah's revelations and who follow their own desires and who do but guess, you will go far astray from the path of Allah.
114. Shall I seek other than Allah for judge, when He it is who hath revealed unto you (this) Scripture, fully explained? Those unto whom We gave the Scripture (aforetime) know that it is revealed from thy Lord in truth. So be not thou (OMuhammad) of the waverers.
115. Perfected is the Word of thy Lord in truth and justice. There is naught that can change His words. He is the Hearer, the Knower.
116. If thou obeyedst most of those on earth they would mislead thee far from Allah's way. They follow naught but an opinion, and they do but guess. – Surah Al An’am
78. Among them are unlettered folk who know the scripture not except from hearsay. They but guess.
79. Therefore woe be unto those who write the Scripture with their hands anthem say, "This is from Allah," that they may purchase a small gain therewith. Woe unto them for that their hands have written, and woe unto them for that they earn thereby.
80. And they say: The fire (of punishment) will not touch save for a certain number of days. Say: Have ye received a covenant from Allah truly Allah will not break His covenant or tell ye concerning Allah that which ye know not?
81. Nay, but whosoever hath done evil and his sin surroundeth him; such are rightful owners of the Fire; they will abide therein. - Surah Baqarah.
23. Hast thou not seen how those who have received the Scripture invoke the Scripture of Allah (in their disputes) that it may judge between them; then a faction of them turn away, being opposed (to it)?
24. That is because they say: The Fire will not touch us save for a certain number of days. That which they used to invent hath deceived them regarding their religion. - Surah Al Imraan.
6. Lo! those who disbelieve, among the People of the Scripture and the idolaters, will abide in fire of hell forever. They are the worst of created beings. - Surah Bayyinah.
If you still cannot open your eyes to the revelations of Allah, then know that my duty is to put the Truth plainly in front of you as the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) did, My duty is not to obey you nor to change the meanings of the Qur'an to entertain your desires:
20. Say (unto them, O Muhammad): I pray unto Allah only, and ascribe unto Him no partner.
21. Say: Lo! I control not hurt nor benefit for you.
22. Say: Lo! none can protect me from Allah, nor can I find any refuge beside Him
23. (Mine is) but conveyance (of the truth) from Allah, and His messages; and whoso disobeyeth Allah and His messenger, lo! his is fire of hell, wherein such dwell forever.
I have not seen worse people then those who have shown the revelations of Allah turn away from them.
22. And who doth greater wrong than he who is reminded of the revelations of his Lord, then turneth from them. Lo! We shall requite the guilty. - Surah Sajdaa
The Punishment of Hell Fire is Eternal Punishment.
Strict command from Allah not to marry one who does not believe in Islam but follows His own desire:
221. Wed not idolatresses till they believe; for lo! a believing bondwoman is better than an idolatress though she please you; and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe, for lo! a believing slave is better than an idolater though he please you. These invite unto the Fire, and Allah inviteth unto the Garden, and unto forgiveness by His grace, and expoundeth thus His revelations to mankind that haply they may remember. - Surah Baqarah.
@ Questioner,
If you want to enter the fire of Hell, there is invitation from non- Muslims, if you want to enter Jannah, there is invitation from Allah. Choose for yourself. I am not a compeller, my duty is only to convey the Message of Allah to you in plain terms.
Salaam to all. First gain knowledge of the revelations of Allah and then make claims and if you make claims then produce your proof of your being truthful.
Has anyone among you received a covenant from Allah that The Punishment of Hell is temporary and then all will enter Paradise? Produce it if ye are truthful.
If this is the case, no need to do good works/ just enjoy life, go to the Fire, then after a few days all will be in heaven. These are nothing but false desires and straying away from the Truth Allah has revealed.
Everyone has the right to criticize, oppose, challenge my opinions, but whoso denies the revelations of Allah, I can them to produce their proof if they are truthful. I am waiting. Please, anyone is welcome to put forward their covenant with Allah that the mushrikeen will also be in hell temporary and not forever.
Salaam.
Munib.
* * *
Therefor give good tidings (O Muhammad) to my bondmen, who hear advice and follow the best thereof. Such are those whom Allah guideth, and such are men of understanding.- Surah 39, Az Zumar, verse 17-18.
To the Questioner and the readers and the writers and commentators:
If you obey those who have no knowledge, who deny Allah's revelations and who follow their own desires and who do but guess, you will go far astray from the path of Allah.
114. Shall I seek other than Allah for judge, when He it is who hath revealed unto you (this) Scripture, fully explained? Those unto whom We gave the Scripture (aforetime) know that it is revealed from thy Lord in truth. So be not thou (OMuhammad) of the waverers.
115. Perfected is the Word of thy Lord in truth and justice. There is naught that can change His words. He is the Hearer, the Knower.
116. If thou obeyedst most of those on earth they would mislead thee far from Allah's way. They follow naught but an opinion, and they do but guess. – Surah Al An’am
Some people only know Allah's revelations by hearsay, they just do guess work, Allah says:
78. Among them are unlettered folk who know the scripture not except from hearsay. They but guess.
79. Therefore woe be unto those who write the Scripture with their hands anthem say, "This is from Allah," that they may purchase a small gain therewith. Woe unto them for that their hands have written, and woe unto them for that they earn thereby.
80. And they say: The fire (of punishment) will not touch save for a certain number of days. Say: Have ye received a covenant from Allah truly Allah will not break His covenant or tell ye concerning Allah that which ye know not?
81. Nay, but whosoever hath done evil and his sin surroundeth him; such are rightful owners of the Fire; they will abide therein. - Surah Baqarah.
AND THEY KEEP ON SAYING THE PUNISHMENT OF FIRE OF HELL IS TEMPORARY, BUT THIS INVENTION IN RELIGION HAS DECIEVED THEM:
23. Hast thou not seen how those who have received the Scripture invoke the Scripture of Allah (in their disputes) that it may judge between them; then a faction of them turn away, being opposed (to it)?
24. That is because they say: The Fire will not touch us save for a certain number of days. That which they used to invent hath deceived them regarding their religion. - Surah Al Imraan.
6. Lo! those who disbelieve, among the People of the Scripture and the idolaters, will abide in fire of hell forever. They are the worst of created beings. - Surah Bayyinah.
If you still cannot open your eyes to the revelations of Allah, then know that my duty is to put the Truth plainly in front of you as the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) did, My duty is not to obey you nor to change the meanings of the Qur'an to entertain your desires:
20. Say (unto them, O Muhammad): I pray unto Allah only, and ascribe unto Him no partner.
21. Say: Lo! I control not hurt nor benefit for you.
22. Say: Lo! none can protect me from Allah, nor can I find any refuge beside Him
23. (Mine is) but conveyance (of the truth) from Allah, and His messages; and whoso disobeyeth Allah and His messenger, lo! his is fire of hell, wherein such dwell forever.
I have not seen worse people then those who when shown and reminded the revelations of Allah turn away from them.
22. And who doth greater wrong than he who is reminded of the revelations of his Lord, then turneth from them. Lo! We shall requite the guilty. - Surah Sajdaa
The Punishment of Hell Fire is Eternal Punishment.
Strict command from Allah not to marry one who does not believe in Islam but follows His own desire:
221. Wed not idolatresses till they believe; for lo! a believing bondwoman is better than an idolatress though she please you; and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe, for lo! a believing slave is better than an idolater though he please you. These invite unto the Fire, and Allah inviteth unto the Garden, and unto forgiveness by His grace, and expoundeth thus His revelations to mankind that haply they may remember. - Surah Baqarah.
@ Questioner,
If you want to enter the fire of Hell, there is invitation from non- Muslims, if you want to enter Jannah, there is invitation from Allah. Choose for yourself. I am not a compeller, my duty is only to convey the Message of Allah to you in plain terms.
Salaam to all. First gain knowledge of the revelations of Allah and then make claims and if you make claims then produce your proof of your being truthful.
Has anyone among you received a covenant from Allah that The Punishment of Hell is temporary and then all will enter Paradise? Produce it if ye are truthful.
If this is the case, no need to do good works/ just enjoy life, go to the Fire, then after a few days all will be in heaven. These are nothing but false desires and straying away from the Truth Allah has revealed.
Everyone has the right to criticize, oppose, challenge my opinions, but whoso denies the revelations of Allah, I can them to produce their proof if they are truthful. I am waiting. Please, anyone is welcome to put forward their covenant with Allah that the mushrikeen will also be in hell temporary and not forever.
Salaam.
Munib.
* * *
Therefor give good tidings (O Muhammad) to my bondmen, who hear advice and follow the best thereof. Such are those whom Allah guideth, and such are men of understanding.- Surah 39, Az Zumar, verse 17-18.
@ munib. . . . . Well my brother, i wish to give u (perticularly) some advice and also all d muslims taking part in this daawah. . . . U see we have to be extra carefull when qouting verses from d holy quran, d quran it self was revealed in stages and if u recall, an event will happen and then Allah will send down a revelation (either verse or surah) to d prophet to clear d doubts of d beleivers as regard such an event. . . . I will give u 1 example out of 1000s. . . . . . . Narrated ibn abbas: some pagans who committed murders in great numbers and committed illegal sex excessively, came to muhammad(SAW) and said 'o muhammad! Whatever u say and invite people to, is good, but we wish if you could inform us whether we can make an expiation for our (past evil) deeds'.. So d divine verses of suratul furqan(ie chapter 25) verses 68 to 70 came and also (chapter 39 verse 53) came. . . . All i want to say here is when you want to give a fatwah or u want to use d verses of d quran as a reference, u have to examine d events dat happened b4 d divine verse came, and compare such events with d event u are trying to use d quran to explain. . If there are some similarities btw d 2 events, then u can use that verse as a refrence., not qouting any verse that comes to your mind and try to suit it with what u are suggesting.. U may quote d verses out of context and that may be misleading. . . . . The quran is d veritable word of God and we should be very very carefull when using it as a reference. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Am just suggesting this(truth) to u and am not ready for any argument. . . . . . . WASSALAMU ALAIKUM . . .
Assalamu alaykum Brother Muhammad,
You may read the Qur'an your way, understand your way, in the way you choose for yourself.
I find the Qur'an extremely clear, easy to understand, without any "crookedness" and requirements of depending upon an aalim or scholar to explain the Qur'an.
Allah Has revealed the Qur'an for the common man, for people steeped in ignorance, for people who had little education, and for people who are doctors, for people who are scientists, for people who are linguists, for people who are engaged in any sort of field. Hence, the Message of the Qur'an is clear, the Qur'an itself is clear.
What I did which I believe other people abstain from doing is whenever the meaning of a verse is not clear, I think a lot about it, then I search for the whole Qur'an to find any verse making the meaing clear and Alhamdulillaah, I find it and I understand something which I could not fully understand before.
I do not move on to fasir quickly, I try to use my brain to the maximum level without using any extra Qur'anic material to understand the Qur'an. Allah as not mentioned names of the companions of the Prophet except Zayd in the Qur'an. If Allah has not chosen to name people, who are we to go a step further than Allah and say so and so verse was revealed for that person. No brother.
If Allah wanted he could have revealed the names in the Qur'an. But this was not the method of Allah nor was it the way the Qur'an was meant to be.
It was not meant for those particular people so that you say for this situation this verse was revealed, it was revealed for "all times" until the Day of Judgment for " all people" and also "for those present " during the Prophet's (peace be upon him) time.
By interpreting and revealing the situation, you confine the Qur'an with that particular situation and it is an effort to limits its mental application to that period, giving readers and impression that it was for those particular people only, which is wrong, Allah has not given any authority for this.
The Qur'an itself it's best explanation.
114. Shall I seek other than Allah for judge, when He it is who hath revealed unto you (this) Scripture, fully explained ? - Surah Al An'am.
58. And We have made (this Scripture) easy in thy language only that they may heed. - Surah Zukhruf.
97. And We make (this Scripture) easy in thy tongue, (O Muhammad) only that thou mayst bear good tidings therewith unto those who ward off (evil), and warn therewith the froward folk. - Surah Maryam.
17. And in truth We have made the Qur’an easy to remember; but is there any that remembered? - A verse repeated 4 times in Surah Al Qamar.
One more important point, many Tafsirs contain narratives of the previous Prophets (peace be upon them), they take the stories in the Qur'an and to make a full complete story, which they think is left incomplete by Allah, they copy material from the Torah and the Gospels and other Judeo - Christian materials.
And see the contradiction in their own approach, when a Muslim would say should we read or believe in these books? They answer: These books have changed over time and have under gone corruption from the hands of men over the years and it is not right that you believe in those books.
So the same so called "scholars" use those books in their tafsirs and make general people avoid them.
Do they think Allah did not reveal the best narratives in the best way? Do they want to tell Allah more than what He has revealed when He is all Aware and Knowing?
When He Himself says so, who gave us authority to make such tafsirs from support of previous scriptures?
3. We narrate unto thee (Muhammad) the best of narratives in that We have inspired in thee this Qur’an, though aforetime thou wast of the heedless. - Surah Yusuf.
Allah wants us to reflect upon the Marvellous Qur'an, to sit with it for hours and ponder and think and not just read exegis or tafsir and say " O I understood the Qur'an ".
Every time I read the Qur'an I get new insight, new meanings, new perspectives and ideas from the verses of the Qur'an themselves.
This is what Allah commands us to do and this is what "a lot of" believers do not do, which is to " think, pay heed and ponder" upon the verses of the Qur'an.
27. And verily We have coined for mankind in this Qur’an all kinds of similitudes, that haply they may reflect;
28. A Lecture in Arabic, containing no crookedness, that haply they may ward off (evil).
There is no crookedness in the Qur'an, from the most common man to a knowledgable person can understand it, Insha Allah, Alhamdulillaah.
Allah says again in Surah Kahf:
1. Praise be to Allah Who hath revealed the Scripture unto His slave, and hath not placed therein any crookedness,
2. (But hath made it) straight, to give warning of stem punishment from Him, and to bring unto the believers who do good works the news that theirs will be a fair reward.
If Allah says divorce must be pronounced two times and then on the third, the wife becomes unlawful for the husband. You have no need to know for whom it was revealed. It is for all of us.
When Allah says do wudu like this. We do need to know for whom it was revealed, all we need to know is the command and that we have to obey it if we claim to be Muslims.
When Allah says do not marry an idolator, we do not need to know for whom it was revealed and when. We need to hear and obey.
When Allah says O Prophet why you ban something which Allah has made lawful for you. We do not need to know if it was honey or which wives played the act and why. If Allah willed He could have mentioned it.
It was meant as a general command Not just for "honey" but for all things that Allah has made lawful, niether the Prophet nor the believers have any right to make it haram for themselves.
It is a general Message, Alhamdulillaah, a beautiful Message from Allah.
When Allah says leave the woman alone when they are menstruating, we do not need to know for which woman it was revealed and when and why.
All we need to know is that Allah commands and we hear and we obey it.
When Allah says you may go in to your wives on the night of the fasts in Ramadan, we have no need to know for whom it was revealed, when it was revealed.
So try to understand one thing. I am understanding the Qur'an, pondering upon it's verses and thinking deeply as Allah wants me to do so and mentions it again and again the Qur'an.
I am warning people by the Qur'an, I remind the people of the Qur'an and I speak from the Qur'an whatsoever seems to be helping to the people and I take full responsibility of what I say.
I have my own way and I am not doing any sin by going this way.
Allah has not made it fard upon believers to read Tasfir of Zamakshari or Baydawi or Ibn Kathir. Allah Himself asks us to do taffakur on the Qur'an.
For how many hours of your life you have been with the Qur'an and purely the text of the Qur'an?
I am spending all my free time in reading the Qur'an and thinking upon it.
Last year I did take up Tafsir Ibn Kathir, I did take up Sahih Bukhari and Muslim and I read Abu Dawood and I read Muwatta of Imam Malik, whom I admire much. But I found peace only in the Qur'an, I found life in the Qur'an, I found explanations in the Qur'an like no tafsir could do. I found meanings in the Qur'an which I found no where else.
But my primary duty being a Muslim is to do Tafakkur on the Qur'an, warn by the Qur'an, give good news by the Qur'an and do dawaah by the Qur'an and Islaah by the Qur'an. And explain to people how their lives have answers waiting for them in the Qur'an.
This is what the Prophet did. This is what Alhamdulillaah I am doing in a very very small scale and small way but Insha Allah in future it will be big and our Ummah will leave false scholars and turn to the Qur'an.
I have my own way. If you or anyone has any problem with my answers, my advices my posts and you find anything "wrong" in it, Alhamdulillaah, Insha Allah, I am here to answer you.
I take full responsibility of what I write and I am always ready, Alhamdulillaah to give frim replies with " Truth" from the revealtions of Allah and no guess work or use of my own brain.
If you find any mistake, any misquouted verses in my posts, Alhamdulillaah, inform me brother and Insha Allah, I will answer you.
I noticed since the time I joined this website, you have troubles with me, but it is fine. I have feelings for you in my heart as my brother in Islam and I am always open to people criticizing me, which Alhamdulillaah, I love to answer back with the revelations of Allah to clear their minds. Alhamdulillaah.
108. Say: This is my Way: I call on Allah with sure knowledge, I and whosoever followeth me. Glory be to Allah! and I am not of the idolaters. - Surah Yusuf.
Salaam,
Munib.
hi, my name is asra
i am a muslim girl though i believe we should all follow our hearts. do not deny your feelings they will just follow you everywhere. let it flow and in the future set your eyes on muslim guys that can relate to you in many ways including religion 🙂
Following our desires blindly will only lead us to ruin. Allah gave us a beautiful deen to guide our way.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamu alaykum Questioner,
Thank you for questioning us. May Allah guide you to His way and make Islam easy for you to live in your life and guard you from Shaytaan.
Once again, I appreciate your approaching us for advice on a matter which is affecting life of many believers in their ignorance of Islam.
You may read the Qur'an and know that Allah tells you not abstain from following your desires. Follow the truth. Do not follow those who do not follow the truth but follow their own desires. Begin love with marriage.
You should spend time knowing about Islam and leave the company of disbelievers. As a Muslim you are supposed to live like a Muslim. Read the Qur'an and know for yourself how much you are required to do as a Muslim and how much you have achieved till now and judge for your ownself.
I wrote a post for some similar question, which I quote to here if you like to read:
Assalamu alaykum Brothers and sisters.
If I say I want to commit murder and am sure to be caught by the police and jailed in the end by the court, how many of you would be willing to help me?
If I say I want to commit theft and am sure to be caught by the police and jailed in the end by the court, how many of you would be willing to help me?
These are small punishments compared to the great punishment of Allah for the biggest crime a man can do : Disbelieving in Allah and ssociating partners with Him.
The punishment for this crime is not to be caught by police, not to be jailed by court, but a life of ease, then death and then a Day, a Long Day, a Heavy Day, The Day of Judgment, when the all of mankind will be judged and this crime will also be judged.
And then, there would be no lawyer, no escapre, only Allah and His punishment of Hell. Eternal Fire, to burn for ever. To hear other painful cries. To hear cries of agony and pleading for respite from the punishment for a while. But no help on that Day. Punishment after punishment in pairs. Buring in extreme heat and then freezing in extreme cold which would crackle the bones and punishments beyond these in pairs, in extremes. No food other than filth. Food that would choke the throat and more punishments of boiling water poured when thirst is felt. And this would be ever lasting. Continuing, on and on, no stopping of punishment, no escape from this place. This is not a jail, this is Hell, prepared for the criminals. Those who disbeliever their Lord and associated partners with Him.
And when Allah has commanded : Do not marry an idolator until he believes and you still ignore it, do you have safety from the Doom of Allah , do you gurantee yourself any refuge from His punishment?
So now if a Hindu boy comes and asks you to marry him. Would you help him in this even after knowing that you would die and then return to Allah and on the Day of Judgment He would judge you and order you to be thrown into the Fire of Hell? Answer me if you are truthful.
Allah invites you to forgiveness and immense rewards if you believe - Gardens underneath which rivers flow, prepared for the good. Who gave up their desires and submitted to Allah, Lord of the Worlds. There they live forever. In mansions, with their families, secure, there they are served by servants like hidden pearls. There they have all that their hearts desire, contentment from Allah and ever more. Their sins are forgiven, if Allah wills and they are given a light which shines forth and they are given silk attire and goblets of silver and bracelets and cool and pure drinks served in glasses like silver and couches to recline and pleasures and no sun's heat nor the heat of Hell touching them. They dwell there in peace and their words there in are "Peace" and there they do not feel tired nor do they here any vain conversation and they say " Praise be to Allah, who hath fulfilled His promise and given us safety from a painful punishment".
O my people ! Would any of you like to have a Garden and lofty halls and grapeyards and orchards for himself? Come than O my people ! Submit to the Reminder of Allah. O ye people ! Hear the call of Allah and turn not away in blindness and deafness, but pay heed to Allah's Reminder.
O sisters ! These invite you to the Fire. Allah invites you to Forgiveness from Him and Gardens underneath which rivers flow.
O sisters ! Do not destroy your own soul. Worst is the case of him who is at open feud with Allah. Sell not the life of this world for a greiveous Herferatfer, but turn to Allah, submissive and seek forgiveness !
And remember, whosoever does good, it is for himself only. No laden one shall bear the burden of another. And Allah is altogether independent of His slaves.
So when some asked what surname should a girl from Islam keep/ change after marrying a Hindu guy?
My reply would be:
And even after knowing Allah's commandment she marries an idolator. She has option of keeping any surname she likes as such the apt surname (better title) would be " As haabun Naar" or " Companions of the Fire".
Except if Allah wills and brings her or him together to Islam, than they may change the surname from " As haabun Naar" to " Muslim or Mu'min".
Choice is on them. If they do not care about the Fire, why do they care about a mere surname? What difference would it cause when the ultimate abode for the disbelievers is the abode of Hell.
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I hope my words get in to the minds of our brothers and sisters.
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Fear Allah, the Path of Islam is the only straight path as Allah says in Surah Nahl:
9. And Allah's is the direction of the way, and some (roads) go not straight. And had He willed He would have led you all aright.
And Allah says in Surah An Nuur:
46. Verily We have sent down revelations and explained them. Allah guideth whom He will unto a straight path.
47. And they say: We believe in Allah and the messenger, and we obey; then after that a faction of them turn away. Such are not believers.
And also Allah reminds and asks us in Surah Al Layl:
14. Therefor have I warned you of the flaming Fire?
15. Which only the most wretched must endure,
16. He who denieth and turneth away.
Fellow Muslims ! My duty is only to convey to you the messages of Allah and to warn you of a Terrific Punishment that will surely come upon those who disbelieve in Allah and deny His revelations.
Follow not your desires, lest they make you go astray from the truth.
Read the Qur'an brothers and sisters, else you will wander blindly. Being Muslims by name is not enough, wake up, spend time in reading and knowing what Allah wants and obey it, and turn not away from Allah and His revelations.
8. And how many a community revolted against the ordinance of its Lord and His messenger, and we called it to a stern account and punished it with dire punishment,
9. So that it tasted the ill effects of its conduct, and the consequence of its conduct was loss.
10. Allah hath prepared for them stern punishment; so keep your duty to Allah, O men of understanding! O ye who believe! Now Allah hath sent down unto you a reminder,
11. A messenger reciting unto you the revelations of Allah made plain, that He may bring forth those who believe and do good works from darkness unto light. And whosoever believeth in Allah and doeth right, He will bring him into Gardens underneath which rivers flow, therein to abide for ever. Allah hath made good provision for him.
12. Allah it is who hath created seven heavens, and of the earth the like thereof. The commandment cometh down among them slowly, that ye may know that Allah is Able to do all things, and that Allah surroundeth all things in knowledge. - Surah At Talaaq
Remember Allah and turn not away from this revelations if you believe in Him and call Him your Lord !
Salaam,
Your brother,
Munib.
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Therefor give good tidings (O Muhammad) to my bondmen, who hear advice and follow the best thereof. Such are those whom Allah guideth, and such are men of understanding.- Surah 39, Az Zumar, verse 17-18.
ASA sister asra!
I agree with you in that we must follow our hearts and not to deny our feelings as they will just follow us everywhere. But the fact of the matter is that "setting your eyes on muslims guys that can relate to you in may ways including religion" does not really click to me. See... just because someone is muslims does not mean this person has the same basic knowledge, roots, that we do. I know a lot of muslim men that are such a bad example for our religion! And you can find them right here... read other girls posts and you will see that just because they are muslims does not alway indicate they are good!
As for the sister with the question... I say follow you heart! Just because he is not a muslim does not mean he is not a good person. Talk to him, let him know where you stand on your religion, what it is you want in a guy, and how he feels about it! Im not saying he should convert for you, but if he understands you, and is willing to accept Allah... y not? Why do some muslims make it sound like converts or non-muslims are just not good enough?
Thank you! and i hope i did not offend anyone!
Sister AMIRA
Brother Munib,
While it is true that we are punished for our sins in the hereafter, eventually everyone except those who committ shirk will go to Paradise. Hell is not a permanent abode.
Actually many Muslim scholars have argued that Hell is not an eternal abode even for mushrikeen. Allahu a'lam. Certainly there are good people of all faiths.
However, it's very clear that a Muslim woman is only allowed to marry a Muslim man, and a Muslim man is strongly encouraged to marry a righteous Muslim woman.
The answer to your question, "fa", is that you should not become close to that person. Don't have any personal contact with him. If he is a work colleague, then don't talk to him outside of what is necessary for work. Keep your distance, and cut off the avenue to haram before you get into it.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Precious Star,
If you are a believer, I would appreciate if you have a look at the below verses, Allah tells the Truth:
Surah 4, An Nisaa:
13. These are the limits (imposed by) Allah. Whoso obeyeth Allah and His messenger, He will make him enter Gardens underneath which rivers flow, where such will dwell for ever. That will be the great success.
14. And whoso disobeyeth Allah and His messenger and transgresseth His limits, He will make him enter Fire, where such will dwell for ever; his will be a shameful doom.
93. Whoso slayeth a believer of set purpose, his reward is Hell for ever. Allah is wroth against him and He hath cursed him and prepared for him an awful doom.
168. Lo! those who disbelieve and deal in wrong, Allah will never forgive them, neither will He guide them unto a road.
169. Except the road of hell, wherein they will abide for ever. And that is ever easy for Allah.
Surah 16, An Nahl,
28. Whom the angels cause to die while they are wronging themselves. Then will they make full submission (saying): We used not to do any wrong. Nay! Surely Allah is Knower of what ye used to do.
29. So enter the gates of hell, to dwell therein for ever. Woeful indeed will be the lodging of the arrogant.
Surah 33, Al Ahzaab,
64. Lo! Allah hath cursed the disbelievers, and hath prepared for them a flaming fire,
65. Wherein they will abide for ever. They will find (then) no protecting friend nor helper.
Salaam,
Munib.
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108. Say: O mankind! Now hath the Truth from your Lord come unto you. So whosoever is guided, is guided only for (the food of) his soul, and whosoever erreth erreth only against it. And I am not a warder over you.
109. And (O Muhammad) follow that which is inspired in thee, and forbear until Allah give judgment. And He is the Best of Judges.- Surah10, Yunus.
@ freethinker
I appreciate you took out time to write down these details.
Qur'an does not have a single contradiction. Human writings do have, as you can find in other scriptures present this day.
The concept of God - His Oneness, is the most clear in the Qur'an than anywhere else. Which I hope you agree as you yourself wrote details in your reply as to who has what concept of God.
Qur'an presents scientific facts not possible for a desert Arab, illiterate person to put forward such claims. You may verify by your own research.
The points you have written about it being a "hand written book" or work of man, these are no new points. These are the very first of the allegations laid against the Prophet (peace be upon him), which the Qur'an answers not once but many times with firm replies. Insha Allah, I can give a detailed reply tomorrow.
I do not believe all hadith are from the Prophet, I am also not in favor of many of the hadiths which openly contradict the Qur'an. This debate is going on for centuries. The text of the Qur'an, its Message was not to provide with how to stand, how to give adhan or call to prayer, what to say in the prayer postures, etc, and it could only be learned from example. So people prayed as the Prophet prayed. With time, Islam spread, followers spread, and generations began to come and go. Scholars thought it was important to preserve the ways of the Prophet and an already established religion then to let a free flow of changes and each person making his own religion. So they made their best efforts to collect narrations of preceding generations.
It is purely human work and may contain errors. But this is what we have and we have to manage to know the truth from this and reject the false, which I do, openly, without fear of any scholar. What I find to be falsely attributed to the Prophet and in contradiction to the Qur'an's message , which has escaped the scholar's eyes or they are blinded, I do not blindly believe anything said in the name of the Prophet.
Hadtih has been made a complex field of study, which Insha Allah, I want to take up in life ahead and try to separate truth from falsehood for Muslim brothers and sisters as much as Allah wills.
For now I can say, we have to follow the Qur'an and the practices of the Prophet in accordance with the Qur'an which for the core Sunnah (ways) of worship set by the Messenger of Allah from whatever is available with us today.
As I said, bring me a scripture more clear and better as a guidance than the Qur'an, I would be the first to accept it. If you are ready to do so, I am ready to do what I said.
I have not been taught or my pyschology programmed like missionaries in different faith, I was born Muslim, but I studied and came to know of the Truthfulness and so I accept it.
For all other scriptures, they may or may not be 100% from God, because they contain errors and God does not make errors.
In regards to the abrogation in verses of the Qur'an, it was revealed in stages and some commandments and laws were yet to be revealed, so there is no contradiction, it is just a matter of the process of revelation.
A Verse is revealed not to approach prayer when drunk and the evil and harm of the drinks is more than their good and then a complete ban.
If you see with open eyes and heart you will find no contradiction, rather all statements are valid at any point of time.
a Muslim should not approach prayer when drunk/ evil of hard drinks is more than their benefit, which is true and proven by non Muslim scientists and well known fact in world wide societies and then alcohol is haraam for a Muslim, which is still valid at any given time.
I can give you solid proofs Insha Allah, but its 3:20 am at night and I have been awake since 4 yesterday and tired and have to wake up to pray again, so Insha Allah, I will write you more soon when Allah wills.
If you want to know the truth, only then. If you are firm on your "own" ideas and are not open to knowing the truth of the matters and the purpose is just debate, then I request you to inform me of that, as I do not have time for arguments without purpose.
Regards,
Munib.
Wael
I am asking these questions on an Islamic site to gain more information about islam and understand its similarities and differences with other religions. .
This website is not an interfaith discussion forum. It is an advice website devoted to helping people who have marriage, relationship and family problems.
I am capable of answering your questions. I have been involved in da'wah and debate with non-Muslims extensively. But this website is not the forum for that, and I ask you to respect that.
There are plenty of Islamic discussion forum websites where you can engage freely in such debates. I suggest you visit one of those.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I´m sorry Wael, I replied before reading your comment.
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Okey dokey, no problem. I just want people to keep in mind the mission of this website, which is to help people who are having personal problems in their lives.
It is certainly useful and educational to discuss matters such as the existence of God, the truth of one religion over another, the history of Islam, the authenticity of the Quran, the practice of religion in the modern world, etc - but this website is not devoted to that.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
As salamu alaykum, freethinker,
The knowledge and the curiosity you have amazed me, you said you have read multiple translations of the Quran, Masha´Allah, I deeply admire your intellect, your have a powerful mind and it seems you know how to use it, Masha´Allah.
I am an ignorant and my opinion may not deserve your attention, but I will give it a try, you can stop reading here if you want.
Your intellectual research will make you go further and further from your Heart, the message you long for won´t be captured by your mind, will be captured right away for your Heart. I would advice you a simple exercise, so simple that you may laugh at me, but it deserves the try, there are many iman that have recitations of the Quran on arabic on line, listen to them, the same surat, one you like it, my choice was Al-Fatiha and choose the voice of the iman you feel more attracted to, and begin to listen the recitation with the same intensity you do your intellectual searching. If you have read this and you want to give it a try, we will talk next friday, insha´Allah.
All my Unconditional Respect,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
@ Saba,
You said yesterday Hindu scriptures say God has avatars and He exists in everything, He is in everything?
Islamic is not phylosophy. It is a religion of Allah, God, One and Only One God.
Okay, now I ask you something, if you like to answer me.
If God is in everything: Then God is in the trees and crops. This means when you pluck a fruit, or vegetable and crops and cook and eat them, you pluck some part of God, then eat cook some part of God, then eat some part of God and then your stomach digests some part of God and it takes the useful part from some part of God and then you mean some part of God goes out of the body as waste material and then some part of God is sent to a sweage farm and then some part of God is put to decompose and thrown away?
Answer me. For God is in all things.
Allah forgive us Saba ! Glorified be Allah above such acriptions that He is in all things. His Majesty does not befit Him to be a part of the creation. He is the Creator, encompassing all things in His Mercy and Knowledge.
You call me "frog in a well" - I just smile at it 🙂
For now, this frog of the well is questioning you something.
Peace.
Brother Munib, please don't encourage such debates on this website. Stick to the subject of the question that was posted.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Read your note here Mr.Munib- from what I gather it looks like the person meant that God is in all his creations so whether it is a fruit, flower, plant, animal etc it is a part of God. Just like we live and breathe the air , utilize the earth etc all of which are god-given , similarly so are other things you mentioned like waste etc.
Also all religions say god is the creator and gives and takes everything in this world- so Im not sure why you said waste, decompose are not part of that process of creation and sustenance. Afterall is it not god who has created our bodies and so all of its functioning is owed to his miracles too.
God is the creator therefore he cannot be part of the creation. God watches over us, provides for us, protects us, even those who do not believe because he is the most merciful and is closer to us than our own jugular vein. He is not "everywhere around us" infact he is above us, the earth, the sun moon stars even above the galaxy and the whole universe.
By saying that God is a part of the creation is like saying that He is part of the impure (sin) as well. This is a huge insult to Him because he is Pure and perfect, nothing less.
@ Saba,
In all this debate you forgot something. The Qur'an asks men of knowledge to reflect upon it as well.
Meaning those who have knowledge of sciences, literature, any sort of knowledge which they possess, they should ponder upon its verses, and see the truth for themselves.
The Qur'an is a Light, removing darkness. It does not demand blind adherence.
38. But nay! I swear by all that ye see
39. And all that ye see not
40. That it is indeed the speech of an illustrious messenger.
41. It is not poet's speech little is it that ye believe!
42. Nor diviner's speech little is it that ye remember!
43. It is a revelation from the Lord of the Worlds.
44. And if he had invented false sayings concerning Us,
45. We assuredly had taken him by the right hand
46. And then severed his life artery,
47. And not one of you could have held Us off from him.
48. And lo! it is a warrant unto those who ward off (evil).
49. And lo! We know that some among you will deny (it).
50. And lo! it is indeed an anguish for the disbelievers.
51. And lo! it is absolute truth.
52. So glorify the name of thy Tremendous Lord. - Surah Haaaaqa