If husband has doubts about his wife; what should he do?
Assalam O Alaikum,
If a person has doubts about his wife, what should he do to put an end to these doubts by means of certainity and finding out the truth, and getting rid of anxiety and worry that are caused by that?
My second question is;
I saw a very beautiful girl in my dream today. She was wearing burkha (veil), What I saw was that; I am like sitting somewhere and she came with a man. I don't know who the man was but he disappeared later on. I am looking that girl and she is looking toward me; When I smiled, she smiled back. I was in love with her. I start thinking to marry her; I even saw her father actually, her father resembles one of my uncle lol but his daughter is not that beautiful. I was so happy in my dream. When I woke up, I was so disappointed. Why, I saw this kind of dream? Actually, I am already married and got 1 daughter.
Take Care,
Fahad Mehar.
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Its just a dream don't worry
I dream a lot of gals , but difference is ur married n I'm not (kool isn't it)
Dream is a dream , neva worry unless ur dream is worth making reality like taking my entire family to haj with my hard earned money
insha allah
Salaam Fahad.
I found this exact same question on another site, which was answered. SubhanAllah is strange but it is a good answer so I have pasted the answer here so we can all benefit InshaAllah.
"If a person has doubts about his wife, what should he do to put an end to these doubts by means of certainty and finding out the truth, and getting rid of anxiety and worry that are caused by that?"
Praise be to Allaah.
The believer should think well of others, assume the best and keep away from doubt and suspicion that have no basis, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not” [al-Hujuraat 49:12].
This Qur’aanic etiquette is one of the means of peace of mind, happiness and comfort, because suspicion prompts one to search and try to find out, and it may lead to spying, and that is usually accompanied by worry, anxiety and distress.
But if there are things that call for doubt and suspicion, the husband has to try to remedy the matter and set things straight, and to block the ways that may lead to fitnah and evil. If the wife -- for example -- gets in touch with people or corresponds with them or is away from the house without any convincing reason and the like, then he may prevent her from doing that. If he is worried about her staying on her own in the house, he can bring her to live near his family or righteous neighbours.
We have previously discussed the ruling on setting up recording devices to keep an eye on family conversations. See the answer to question number 13318.
And Allah knows best.
taken from: http://islamqa.com/en/ref/145815
This is a really strange question, but talking about doubts and spying, I found out some things about my ex which slightly shocked me and it showed how much he had lied to me. He doesnt know that I know about them. But I am so angry at him that I am finding it hard to resist the urge to tell his family and friends of what he is really like, because he has made me look like a complete fool in front of them and himself like an angel. He has treated me very poorly but is acting as though its nothing and that I am to blame for everything. I dont feel as hurt as I do angry, I want revenge in some way, so do you think it will be such a bad idea to expose him and let the world know what a horrible human being he is?
Also with regards to the brothers questions, what is causing those doubts? Is there somethingyour wife has done or said that raises suspicion? If that is the case then talk to her, and try to clarify any misunderstandings and get rid of those doubts inshallah.
Asked: trust your wife... This suspicion you need to let go of.
Secondly, a dream is only a dream. I had those dreams before too... 3 different times with 3 different stranger males. Obviously I can't marry 3 guys.
At last poster...do not reveal your ex husbands sins.
this is almost the same problem i have....
just that he doubts on me.....
and i don't see nothing that i did bad......
i need help of anyone please......
i really love him.................
What dose he doubt about you? The way to talk to others, your personality , or did you ever lie to him on somthing , it would be easier if you find yourself first what might be the reason then you can share and try to advice you.
Can any one actually tell if there is any islamic way or quranic verse to overcome doubts on spouse. its increasing day by day and is very painful. i cannot eat like before and feel very low and distressed, cannot concentrate on any work. i hope this is just a waswasa from shaytan and hope my doubts are not true. but i really want to do something to overcome this and i want to overcome this in a islamic way. zazakallah
Question. I have been separated for 1 and a half year now and the reason for our separation was I had a doubt in my wife that she was seeing a 60 year old man which was her instructor and is a Hindu religion. I then decided to put recorder in the house to clear my doubt and found out that she use to go to his house till late night but with children who are very young to understand. she caught the recorder and reported police about me but she never stopped and still seeing that man in his house. The man is separated as well and even now we are both separated she still visit his house but this time in afternoon after dropping children to school as I saw her coming out of his house and again she reported me to police. She has told me and my friend many times that he is like her father but my doubt is that why does she go to his house while he is alone and she is alone. I am confused to whether I should divorce her or not because I love her very much and I have very young children. is it wrong for me to doubt.
Question: when I got engaged to my wife she used to talk (no clue if they meet) to one of her sisters brother in law regularly. After engagement I sent her a cell phone so we can talk n plan our future things. One fine day I was coincidently sitting at friends office who used to work in telco. Long story shory.Out of blue I started putting her number in a system and I found a lot of calls on her phone log which were unknown to me. Upon asking her she says its my cousins, friends n family etc.
Felt bad since I'm a possessive person. I found a lot of calls from her sisters house on which I was lil upset as once she told me that sisters in law family was once thinking to propose her.
After due course I started noticing there's some thing going on. And my doubts were actual when i crossed check her Nmbr again n learnt she was in contact with that guy during our engagement.
Eventually we got married n have three kids M.A. but still I suspect since that guy is extended family.
I'm helpless to come over this. Please suggest
Bilal, if you seek a bad explanation for the facts you will find one. But if you seek a good explanation, you will find that instead. As you said, the number that she called was her sister's number. I'm sure she was only speaking to her sister. You have been married for years and have three kids. Stop worrying about irrelevant (and most likely innocent) things from the past. Make dua' to Allah to relieve you from your suspicion.
Wael
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Asalamualykum, i have been married for 3 years and had met my wife while she was in friendship with another man, we had problems in our relationship before marriage as she was still in contact to with person while we was in the course of proposing our marriage to our family's.
She has been living with my parents and we have 2 children together, i feel like i cant trust her as she causes a fight every year and goes to her mums house not letting me see my children. she has mentally effected me and feel lost, i love her alot but dont feel like she is with me even though we have a family together, i feel she wants nothing good for myself and my parents and always is backbiting me. i hope my doubt is not true but i need a clear sign on what to do, she does not respect me and says she loves my but i cant feel it.