Islamic marriage advice and family advice

My husband does not pray or read Quran

salat - men in a rowAssalamu'alaykum, i married a moslem man who seldom to pray and not interested to learn reading al quran. even i am ready to teach him but he does not want it. I have had sabr and patience and trying for seven years but no better results. is our relationship becomes haraam? shall i ask for a divorce?

-Yenni

Advertisements

Tagged as: , , , ,

6 Responses »

  1. Dear my Sister. . if your husband is Muslim you can not offer him divorce... if he is not muslim or revert to other religion then you will divorce. ..

  2. He remains a muslim as long as he believes in Allah so your relationship is still halal even though he is not practising as he should be.

    Of course you can still divorce on that ground alone if you feel you are unable to live with a husband who does not practise islam. You will need to take into account his other traits too, you might end up with someone who practises Islam but is a total failure in all other respects. A lot of people just pray regularly but their faith is not reflected in their actions towards others and are in truth horrible people.

  3. As Salaamu Alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh
    A family of a sister asked a similar question about divorce, I will post what the scholar says. In shaa Allah it'll be a help for you. May Allah grant you much success and guide your husband back to Him.

    Praise be to Allaah.
    If the husband does not pray then it is not permissible for your sister to stay with him, because the one who does not pray is a kaafir according to the sounder of the two scholarly opinions. See the answer to question no. 5208 and 6257

    If he did not pray during the marriage, then the marriage is not valid but the child is to be attributed to him because she was born as the result of a marriage which both partners thought was valid.

    If he stopped praying after getting married and continued not praying until her ‘iddah ended, then the marriage is annulled. But if he repents and starts to pray, she can go back to him on the basis of a new marriage contract if she agrees to.

    Some of the scholars say: if he repents and starts to pray, he may go back to her even if that is after the ‘iddah has ended, so long as she has not got married to another husband.

    From this you will know that according to sharee‘ah there is no need for a divorce (talaaq) from him, but because she is regarded as his wife in official papers and that has an impact on inheritance between them and preventing her from marrying someone else, she has to try to get the divorce even if she has to give him money so that he will divorce her.

    With regard to the child, the mother is entitled to custody.

    The husband should be advised to repent to Allah, may He be exalted, and to pray. He should be told that his wife is not permissible for him until he starts to pray. If he repents, praise be to Allah, but if he remains as he is then your sister should try to get a divorce and she can refer the matter to the court and ask for divorce because he is not spending on her and because of the harm caused.

    We ask Allah to grant her a way out.

    And Allah knows best.

  4. What company does he keep?
    What are his friends and close family like?
    Environment plays an important factor on one's state

  5. Salam,

    I recommend a divorce. You do not like this about him and have higher expectations. He's happy the way he is. As the relationship progresses you're going to look down on him and it will not be a good relationship. You might as well divorce now and look for someone more religious if that's what you need. Good luck.

Leave a Response